3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community  

Go Back   3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community > Support Forum > General chatter

General chatter Because life isn't just about dieting. Play games, jokes, or share what's new in your life!

Date ideas

Reply
 
Thread Tools
Old 04-22-2011, 02:19 PM   #1
Senior Member
 
yhahmd's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 863

S/C/G: 174→168.0→135

Height: 4'9''

Red face Date ideas

There's this guy I'm talking to, and he's brought it up once or twice that we should go out sometime. I'm game. Still not 100% comfortable with myself, but I'm 21 and never been in an actual relationship. He's nice, and a friend of my friends, so I know he's not some psycho or anything. I want to avoid dinner-dates though, because I'm not exactly comfortable eating in front of a guy at my current weight. A light snack, sure, but a meal? No thanks.

I was thinking ice skating, or roller blading; maybe laser tag. There aren't any fairs or carnivals around here right now. We're both 21, so it's got to be something fun without being too childish, you know? Anyone have any ideas? I'm not too fond of movie dates, because you don't really get to talk. Never been on a date before, so I need ideas.

Also any basic do's and don'ts? haha.

Thank you in advance.
__________________



Last edited by yhahmd : 04-22-2011 at 02:19 PM.
yhahmd is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-22-2011, 03:29 PM   #2
Just Me
 
nelie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: Maryland
Posts: 15,317

S/C/G: 364/202/182

Height: 5'6"

Default

Museums? Zoo? Hiking? Tea house? Also depending where you live, options may vary.
__________________
You can't out-exercise poor eating habits.
nelie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-22-2011, 04:39 PM   #3
Junior Member
 
sassylime's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: New Brunswick, Canada
Posts: 26

S/C/G: 220/220/120

Height: 5"5

Default

Your ideas are really good for a first date! And don't worry about doing something too "childish." You're only 21, and its a first date - you're allowed to have fun ( also remember, you should do things that reflect your interests and who are as a person). On my first date, I got a scavenger hunt list off the internet for my city, and we spent the afternoon doing that. It gave us a great chance to get to know each other, have the conversation flow naturally, and have fun. Try to find things that keep you both active and engaged, but don't take the focus away from one another completely (like a movie would). Hiking, having a picnic, scavenger hunts, taking a trip to the park, going to a paint-your-own pottery place, art galleries or planetariums, visiting garage sales or flea markets...

As for do's and don'ts...just one. Be 100% yourself!
sassylime is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-22-2011, 04:45 PM   #4
Senior Member
 
yhahmd's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 863

S/C/G: 174→168.0→135

Height: 4'9''

Default

I live in Michigan. Right now the weather has been pretty iffy, but I don't know WHEN this first date could actually be. Could be in a few weeks, maybe longer. It depends on his schedule and mine.

I like the zoo idea, and garage sales and flea marketing is always fun! I know he likes motorcycles (I really don't, they kinda scare me) and hunting, and computers. He says he isn't that athletic, so I don't know how to take that exactly.

I suggested a few; guess I'll see what he suggests. If we can't decide maybe we can meet in the middle.
__________________


yhahmd is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-22-2011, 05:06 PM   #5
ugggg.....
 
Join Date: Dec 2005
Posts: 2,965

Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by nelie View Post
Museums? Zoo? Hiking? Tea house? Also depending where you live, options may vary.
Nelie always has good ideas..
jules1216 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-22-2011, 05:27 PM   #6
Getting There!
 
K3LL3Y's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Boston, MA
Posts: 371

S/C/G: 228/ticker/155

Height: 5'6"

Thumbs up

Quote:
Originally Posted by yhahmd View Post
I live in Michigan. . . . .

I suggested a few; guess I'll see what he suggests. If we can't decide maybe we can meet in the middle.
Don't stress about it too much. One of the best dates I went on early in a relationship was to an arcade. We had a blast playing games and just hanging out.
What you do doesn't really matter that much and don't worry at all about meals. Once you feel more comfortable together you'll feel better about dinner dates
Plus there are a lot of ways to eat out and still stay on track.
K3LL3Y is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-22-2011, 05:40 PM   #7
Why can't you?
 
AZ Sunrises's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Phoenix, AZ
Posts: 486

S/C/G: 334/290.8/167

Height: 5'2"

Default

Since you know him, if there's a place like Dave & Buster's nearby, you can't beat it. Bowling, pool, arcade, appetizers/drinks if you want.
__________________
Restart 10/01/11 at 297 lbs...after being at 265. I won't update this ticker until I'm back to that weight.


Pounds til obese instead of morbidly so.
[url=http://www.3fatchicks.com/] [/url
AZ Sunrises is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-22-2011, 06:06 PM   #8
Calorie counter
 
Eliana's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Posts: 5,679

Height: 5'4.5"

Default

People have been suggesting meetup.com to me for meeting people. I went on my first hike with the group and thought to myself it would be a nice thing for couples to do together. You might check that out, choosing something that suits both your interests. It would provide a very non-threatening environment for a first date.

My idea first date right now would be dinner (I know you said that's out) followed by a walk, or a picnic in a hiking type area. I agree with you that I wouldn't want to do a movie. That's something to go do in the winter and when you can't think of anything else to do or say.

I can recommend bowling too.
__________________
Long term goal: To still be calorie counting 11/9/2010
mini goals: ~211-10% lost;12/24/09 ~203 class I obesity 1/28/10; ~199 Onederland/15% 2/19/10; ~188-20%; ~185 half way 5/14/10; 179-bye 180's 6/12/10; ~174 overweight 7/3/2010;169-bye 170's 8/13/10;~164-30% 10/23/2010159-bye 160's~11/1/10; 153-35%~12/23/10; 149-bye 150's~2/11/11; 145 normal~2/14/2011; ~141-40%; 139-bye 140's ~135 GOAL! (129-45%; 117.5-50%)






My "goal" story: http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/goal...goal-post.html
Eliana is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-23-2011, 10:57 AM   #9
is chubby
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Posts: 358

Default

My first date was a large road trip to a city with waterfalls here in greece. We talked a lot as we drove, hiked to see the waterfalls and had sandwiches as a picnic.

Truth is though I knew the guy very well so I trusted to go that far with him.
I don't know perhaps you could do something like that.
Chubbykins is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-23-2011, 10:38 PM   #10
Senior Member
 
Gogirl008's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Posts: 382

Default

I would totally go for the zoo. If that's not good for your area see if you have a gallery hop or neighborhood night out kind of thing, something that keeps you moving and talking that you can take at your own pace. Museum is good too, as already suggested. Maybe you could do a light lunch to make it feel more date-ish. Or, even just appitizers. My husband and I do that often, when we aren't really up for a heavy meal.
Gogirl008 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-23-2011, 11:38 PM   #11
Jillian stole my abs!
 
shcirerf's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: Go Huskers!
Posts: 2,541

S/C/G: 195.8/138/140

Height: 5'5"

Default

I'm old, so way diff, but my perfect date, would be breakfast, coffee the paper, separate checks. No obligations. When brek is over, if you want to do something else, cool, if not, it was just breakfast, not a big deal.

I think starting with breakfast, is way less stress, and more laid back, not so much pressure, better to get to know each other.
__________________

3+ year maintainer.
The human body is capable of amazing things! But without the mind, it is nothing. Get your mind in gear and the body will follow!

Be selfish about caring for yourself, you deserve it!
Weight Watcher leader! But always a Member first!
shcirerf is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-24-2011, 09:14 PM   #12
Staying the Same
 
krampus's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Troy, NY
Posts: 6,443

S/C/G: 160+/116/this is fine

Height: 5'5

Default

Do:
-Be yourself
-Have fun
-Proactively suggest things to do
-Laugh heartily

Don't:
-Worry
-Agree with everything he says for the sake of being agreeable
-Feel like you have to be something you're not
-Forget to have fun
__________________
Push on some more!

http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/krampus
krampus is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-24-2011, 09:38 PM   #13
Senior Member
 
yhahmd's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 863

S/C/G: 174→168.0→135

Height: 4'9''

Default

These are all great ideas, thanks everyone. Now we'll have plenty of options
__________________


yhahmd is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-26-2011, 07:51 PM   #14
Senior Member
 
mom4life's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Texas
Posts: 722

S/C/G: 184/129/130

Height: 5'4.5"

Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by K3LL3Y View Post
Don't stress about it too much. One of the best dates I went on early in a relationship was to an arcade. We had a blast playing games and just hanging out.
What you do doesn't really matter that much and don't worry at all about meals. Once you feel more comfortable together you'll feel better about dinner dates
Plus there are a lot of ways to eat out and still stay on track.
My hubby is a computer geek who isn't into sports, he'll watch boxing or some baseball games but he's not hard core into them. What we used to do is arcade games, going to the bookstore (where they have a cafe) and just read books or magazines. We'd also watch a movie together or take a walk in the park. We still enjoy doing this type of stuff together. We'll play a couple games on his PS3 every now and then. We've been married for 10 yrs.
FYI if he's a computer geek, he'll probably gravitate towards the computer book section. LOL
__________________
Rachel
Highest: 184
weight lost since my journey began 2009 ( per 5 lbs):

mom4life is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-27-2011, 08:42 AM   #15
Senior Member
 
CanadianCutie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: London, ON
Posts: 1,627

S/C/G: 331/292.2/250(for now)

Height: 5'3"

Default

I just spent the afternoon at a children's type hands on museum with my fiance and his friend(we were in town visiting her), and they had an aquarium. I'm not usually big on fish, but that part was so interesting. A science center type would also be great. All depends on personality type too. I'm a total geek, for sure. But even a walk in the park, and stopping for a coffee or soda at a cafe is great. If you're already friends it shouldn't be uncomfortable, as you'll have things to talk about.
__________________


www.goodreads.com/Saela

Doing this one day at a time.

Reboot 296.4/Week 1 292.2/
CanadianCutie is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply
Posts by members, moderators and admins are not considered medical advice
and no guarantee is made against accuracy.


Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Date ideas.. I need 'em (YES!!!) Marseille 100 lb. Club 17 01-16-2008 11:12 PM
Let's track 2 - (get and share ideas) melloyan Weight Watchers 389 01-01-2007 09:41 PM
Let's Track together .... (get and share ideas) pmoswife Weight Watchers 961 08-03-2006 08:42 PM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 04:22 AM.






Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.6.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2015, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.3.2