You might also want to check and make sure you aren't showing more than you think. I am not afraid of a V neck, but they can gape when you move if you're not careful. Wrap tops are especially precarious. When in doubt, get the cami out!
Saef, I love you today. I have been following you all over the place and you are on a roll.
Small print: The lucky guy never sees me clothed. It's gym-wear only. *sigh* I have a bad, bad, bad crush. So the cleavage is not for him. But the biceps in tank tops are!
Sending some love right back, Eliana. It's inspiring to see you happy & excited & blossoming during this time of change.
If I'm on a roll at 3FC, it means I'm working from home, so no one can see the screen over my shoulder, and I'm procrastinating like crazy on a big scary project. (This one is due on Monday to a Rome-based analyst whom I call "Mr. Cookie" because his last name is Biscotti. Not to his face, of course. I need to focus on it soon or it will ruin my weekend, which I don't want to happen.)
Is this your big secret that you're keeping? Your crush at the gym?
Breasts are not such an asset at the gym. They get strapped down & flattened into submission.
At least your guy has probably seen you sweaty already, rather than perfectly made-up, every little tendril of hair sprayed into place & in full costume. He won't think the morning-after look is so different from your usual face. ;-)
Very tempted to just say "if you got it, flaunt it." I assume you're not falling out of your shirts since you seem like someone who is very self aware of how much is "showing." If you're well endowed, cleavage happens with even modest to normal cut shirts. I would imagine you know what is and isn't safe for work clothing-wise. They probably stare because your new clothes show it off. While I don't really understand cleavage (I wear Band-Aids as "bras" under revealing tops) I would never recommend slouching to hide yourself to anyone, ever. So shoulders back and carry yourself with pride!
I think you should post a picture so we can judge if your outfit is appropriate.
I was waiting for someone to say that!
Seriously though. Boobs are nothing to be ashamed of, wear them with pride. You don't see the guys looking b/c they do it covertly. The women are probably wondering if you had them done and if they should ask for the name of your surgeon. Take it as a compliment b/c I don't think they'd stare otherwise.
... wear them with pride. You don't see the guys looking b/c they do it covertly. The women are probably wondering if you had them done and if they should ask for the name of your surgeon. Take it as a compliment b/c I don't think they'd stare otherwise.
I've always been envious of smaller boobs, so this just blows my mind, but you are probably right!
Rock those boobs! Nothing wrong with some cleavage, for sure. It's socially acceptable and it projects self confidence. Be happy to be who you are, and be proud of your body.
I would say go for it! As long as it's not office-trashy LOL!!
I have huge knockers (34GG) and a teeny tiny waist, so when I wear form-fitting shirts my girls are OUT there. I don't do cleavage shirts because there's just way too much, but I do wear somewhat form-fitting tops when I feel comfortable in them and feel they aren't too clingy. However, today is an uncomfortable day for me clothing-wise, so I'm glad I found this post. Today I am wearing a black turtleneck top with short sleeves, and it is a little too form-fitting. I feel soooo uncomfortable wearing it because my boobs are totally sticking out, and I probably won't wear it again to work, but at least I know now what I am comfortable with! Or maybe I will keep wearing it until I make myself feel comfortable in it...I say keep wearin' what's darin'!! I've been working hard for this body!! LOL!
I am uncomfortable with revealing shirts also. All throughout high school I wore super baggy t-shirts (even though I could have shown my body off more). I just was always self-conscious about my body. It helped me to have a boyfriend that, yeah, does love my boobs - but he wants them to stay at home, not say "HI!" to every guy on the street. I don't like that, but I don't wear baggy t-shirts anymore, though. A happy medium!
I am uncomfortable with revealing shirts also. All throughout high school I wore super baggy t-shirts (even though I could have shown my body off more). I just was always self-conscious about my body. It helped me to have a boyfriend that, yeah, does love my boobs - but he wants them to stay at home, not say "HI!" to every guy on the street. I don't like that, but I don't wear baggy t-shirts anymore, though. A happy medium!
I think anyone my age (maybe 33-43 ???) may feel self-concious because the STYLE back in high school and college for me was baggy! The bigger the better! This was back in the Cosby era when we girls wouldn't be caught dead shopping in the women's department. We shopped in the men's department. We wore our boyfriends clothes! We wore tight pants, but then we dropped gigantic shirts over them. So during those years when I might have shown off, it was all about covering it all up.
I think anyone my age (maybe 33-43 ???) may feel self-concious because the STYLE back in high school and college for me was baggy! The bigger the better! This was back in the Cosby era when we girls wouldn't be caught dead shopping in the women's department. We shopped in the men's department. We wore our boyfriends clothes! We wore tight pants, but then we dropped gigantic shirts over them. So during those years when I might have shown off, it was all about covering it all up.
I never quite got out of that. LOL!
Ha! So true. The huge sweater with the leggings. I look back at photos and wonder why the heck I had on things that were 4 sizes too big, and then I remember that everyone did!