I do (well did until I lost my job) I thought it would be a great idea at first. He worked days 8a-8p (6 days a week), I work 10p-8a (5 days a week, every other weekend). People told us it would bring us closer together, since we wouldn't see each other as much, but it did just the opposite I worked that shift for a 1 1/2 years.
I feel like I am nothing but a roomate. We don't hug, don't kiss, no affection at all. I feel awkward sleeping with him. We barely talk. He watches ESPN or something sports when he gets home...and when we do watch a movie together he is looking at ESPN on his phone, or wrestling.
Now that I don' have a job, I am home all day by myself (well we have 4 dogs as well). I clean the house, do laundry, cook dinner. I get the butterfly feeling when I am waiting for 8pm to roll around I just cant wait to see him, then he usually calls me to tell me he is going to be late because he has to stop over at his buddies house to help him do something So dinner gets cold, I eat by myself...alone, again.
On his day off 99.8% of the time, he is gone most of the day helping his buddy work on a car or something. He is only off on Fridays, and Sundays. So we don't even get weekends together....I would love to go away for a weekend but he is such a workaholic and I when I ask or say something about it I get " I cant call off" or "yea with what money" (this was even when I was working and bringing in good money!) Even things like walking the dogs, taking the dogs to the dog park, going for a picnic, a hike at the river trails down the road, sled riding, a snow ball fight, playing catch with a football, playing a game of basketball, playing a board game, a card game (free stuff), is too much for him to consider....oh but wait if "Billy" calls him to do something, he is off.
Almost 4 years together and we have never had a weekend away or a vacation, or "us" time. To top it off, we are engaged and I have been having second thoughts. Part of me says it will get better with time, another says its a lost cause. But then there is always the period that lasts about week, about 2 or 3 times a year when he is the greatest guy and does whatever he can to make me happy and please me..................
I honestly think it has to do with me gaining weight since we have been together (30+lbs) he gained it too, but you can't tell as much. I know because he hasn't touched me or looked at me the same since...even though he will deny it... I wonder once I reach my mini goal weight (150) if things will change. I was 163 when he met me and boy it was like the touching never stopped!
I just had to vent....