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Old 09-14-2010, 07:42 PM   #1
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Thumbs down RANT about the "guy". :/

I made a thread called "Need help with a guy !! IMMEDIATELY." a couple of days ago.. this is kinda the continued of that.

Talking about this guy that was talking to me.
Well we met twice, 2 nights ago, and last night.
Everything was going really good with us talking, and last night was good too.. We talked, kissed and he hugged me/held my hand, made plans to come back again tomorrow, and kissed me goodnight before I went back inside! Then he even texted me "Miss you already (:" 5 minutes after, I texted him I missed him too, and went to bed.
So I think, great right? This guy likes me!

Well today was just.. horrible. First, he always texts me goodmorning and to have a good day, but this morning he didn't. I think, oh maybe he's not at work today and he's still sleeping, then later on, oh maybe he didn't have his phone.
Well by the end of the school day I knew he was just not gonna text me. I stayed after school to go to the gym and tutoring, and he came to visit the school with his friend (I didn't know). I was outside and when he came out of the doors, he saw me and he actually DUCKED down going down the stairs, and kinda speed walked past me and my friends.
I of course got kinda like.. wtf, but whatever! Anyway we're on our way to the gym, and we're crossing the street, well what do you know.. him and his friend are behind us and he literally jogged down the street RIGHT past me and didn't turn around.
Then me and my friends walk in some cafe before the gym, and of course him and his friend walk in there later after us. The place was WAY too small for him to act like he just accidentally didn't see me, so he talked and suddenly became SO sweet. He's like "Hey! You come here?" and smiling. Then "Isn't she gorgeous? (talking to my friends)" and asking me to come hug him, then has the nerve to be like "Alright, I'll call you later, you know what's happening tonight." and winks at me, then leaves...

Well, first, I know he isn't going to call me, because he did everything he could to avoid me, and only talked to me when he pretty much HAD to. And ducking behind the stairs and running away with his friend..? While I had 4 of my girlfriends be like "Wow.. why is he hiding?" and asking me awkward questions, to which I couldn't even know how to respond!

But yeah.. It's just a weird thing. I don't know what I'm suppose to think or do. I'm kind of curious as to WHY he did it, considering things were going REALLY good last night (he asked to see me again, he came in for the kisses, he hugged me, etc) and then after that he just doesn't talk to me, and is pretty much running away from me.

But this is pretty much a rant..
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Old 09-14-2010, 08:08 PM   #2
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He sounds really young and immature. He probably does like you but freaked out when his friends got involved or he did the guy thing of moving too fast and then trying to backtrack.

He doesn't sound that charming, frankly, and I'd probably tell him so. There are lots of nice guys out there who will treat you better than that.
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Old 09-14-2010, 08:43 PM   #3
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Yeah...what Robin said. It sounds like he's wanting to make you into a "booty Call" You know, the kind of "special friend" that he keeps to himself and doesn't introduce to his friends. Drop him ASAP and move on to a real guy with real values.
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Sounds like a total case of douchebaggery. Kick him to the curb, you deserve someone who will treat you with respect, not douchiness.
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Old 09-14-2010, 09:37 PM   #5
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Girl, I had a issue just like the one u experienced minus the kissing and the last part of your story. I still think about this guy and have called him everything under the sun to no avail! I wish u better luck!
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Old 09-14-2010, 09:58 PM   #6
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Yeah...what Robin said. It sounds like he's wanting to make you into a "booty Call" You know, the kind of "special friend" that he keeps to himself and doesn't introduce to his friends. Drop him ASAP and move on to a real guy with real values.
Been there, done that. This guy's behaviour is very classic of this ^^^^^.
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Old 09-14-2010, 10:19 PM   #7
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Yeah...what Robin said. It sounds like he's wanting to make you into a "booty Call" You know, the kind of "special friend" that he keeps to himself and doesn't introduce to his friends. Drop him ASAP and move on to a real guy with real values.
Not all booty calls are like that. Some men in that situation will treat you with respect and genuinely like a friend. A former FWB's mother knows I exist and knows that I'm a "dear friend"...and asks him about me now and then, despite never meeting me.

That being said, this guy sounds like a royal worthless piece of crap. When he texts, tell him you've decided you're no longer interested...then cut contact.
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Old 09-14-2010, 10:37 PM   #8
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I agree, he's just looking for some thrills. My advice is to move on, too ... like AZ said, even FWBs should be more respectful than that ...
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Old 09-14-2010, 11:05 PM   #9
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Move on sweetheart, you're better than that!

Get college education, a career you love, be able to support yourself, and then find a guy.

With those tools, you can find a guy that you WANT that WANTS you!

The most important person in the world who should want you, is YOU!
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Thanks so much you guys!!
Reading your posts makes me feel so much better. (:
And as for anyone interested, despite what he said at the cafe, he didn't text or call me or contact me in any way last night, lol.
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Old 09-15-2010, 08:46 AM   #11
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If I had a buck for every guy who said he would call but didn't, I probably wouldn't need my current job! It just seems to be what many of them do. It's hard, I know, because we take people at their word but there are a lot of people who lie and have no intention of calling. Why do they do it? Who knows? One way to look at this situation is that he has done the work of pre-screening himself out of consideration. Now you don't have to do it; he has shown his character to you early on so you can shrug and move on.

Keep your chin up! Life is full of numbskulls like this guy, but there are also lots of good guys out there.
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