Alright, here's my story..
(And just a disclaimer, I don't use facebook to meet guys or anything, lol! I meet plenty of guys irl, but these stories below are my Facebook experiences that have gone wrong, haha.
I've gained a lot of weight in the past 3 years. I remember the first time a bad situation happened.. I talked to a guy on Facebook and he was interested in me, one time he saw me in real life, and yes I know this will sound crazy, but he actually MESSAGED me the same day and told me "You were kinda fat in real life, you looked better in your pictures" Yes, I got over that whatever! But I still remember it.
That was 3 years ago, when I was 150 lbs. Now I'm losing weight, I started about 2 weeks ago, and I'm down from 181.4 to 176.
The second guy I was talking to use to know me about 2 years ago, when I was about 155. He goes to my school now, I talked to him on Facebook over the summer, and we talked maybe twice in real life, and then he stopped talking to me.
The problem is, I have a VERY skinny face! I don't gain weight in my face. So on facebook, even if I saw myself, I'd assume I was maybe 120 or around there, and I feel like I'm somehow cheating people or tricking them or something. I don't like edit my pictures, or take weird close ups of just my face, or myspace angle it or anything. But if I'm not happy with my full body right now, why should I put a picture of it, right?
Well, here's where this guy comes in. I started talking to him a while ago and to my suprise, I actually really like him (and I'm barely interested in ANYBODY, I'm very picky). We've been talking on the phone almost every night and he told me he actually does like me, last night. No, we haven't hungout in real life yet but he wants to.
I don't know what to do! Trust me, I'm not sad or offended to admit that I am, right now, one of those people that looks better online than in real life! And to me this feels like SUCH bad timing. I know I will lose all this weight, but the problem is, I STILL haven't! And I don't know what I'm suppose to do, since he wants to hangout.
I've had my share of experience with guys that look much better on myspace/facebook too when I was younger, so I know how awkward it is when you actually go out with them and they're a completely different looking person!
So don't worry, I don't think it's a shallow thing, because I think it's partly my fault. If you're interested in a person's personality AND looks, it would suck if you met them and they looked completely different than you thought they did.. As much as I'd like to believe the "If he really likes you, he won't care about your looks!" we all know that's not fully true, or else we wouldn't be trying to lose this weight. I'm not happy with my weight, so I don't expect him to be either, especially if I go out with him and he's completely suprised and caught off guard by what I look like.. I don't want to do that to myself, or to him.
So.. any advice?