Are you single? I would test the waters when I was single and go out with my sister to a small, quiet, low key little bar and see if I got any bites. If someone bought me a drink, I knew I could keep going with my journey! With each new size, the guys got better and better looking. Shallow? Yes, very But it felt GREAT! It helped my confidence, and it made me like myself to where I could actually let someone in. But if you aren't single, then I would suggest going to a store and just trying on a new size. I remember the first time I was able to set foot in White House, Black Market. I was a new found size 14, and i didn't buy anything that day, but it felt great to fit in it! Now I'm a 4 in their dresses! Perseverence is a strong key!