Grrrr...I took my kids to Mcdonalds for lunch yesterday, which I do on Payday only, so I can make it special for them. I was in the drive thru, waiting, when some lady with an SUV moves ahead of me in the 2nd lane from behind me, after we had been waiting longer. I rolled down my window, and gave her a "look", and said loudly to my husband (driver), I hate when people cut. She proceeds to get out of her SUV, her mother in the car with her, and gets in my face and calls me a "fat slut", in front of my 3 kids in the back and her own mother. I roll up my window, get out of the car, while she is still calling me names (she was well in her 50's), as she is walking back to her car, and tell her how rude she is, and wish she wouldnt say things like that in front of my kids. I didn't know what to do. I thought getting made fun of for your weight ended like in middle school. Some people are so mean! My husband, of course is too shy to tell this lady to shut up, and I was almost in tears. Some nice lady did pull up next to me as we were leaving and told me how she thought it was amazing I didn't hit that lady, considering how rude she was being. She made me feel a little better, but now I'm in a funk, and feel like people will always hate me for no other reason than just being too fat. It's not like fat people don't already know they are fat. I mean, really, did she think I just woke up and was like, Oh my gosh, how did that happen? Grrr..the nerve of some people.
Btw, the McD's was for the kids only. I went home and had a Grilled chicken sandwich, with lettuce, tomato on a whole wheat bun
Some nice lady did pull up next to me as we were leaving and told me how she thought it was amazing I didn't hit that lady, considering how rude she was being. She made me feel a little better, but now I'm in a funk, and feel like people will always hate me for no other reason than just being too fat.
The nice lady only made you feel "a little better," but this one freaky, crazy woman is making you "feel like people will always hate me for no other reason than just being too fat."?
Why are you giving more power to the crazy lady than the nice one? Why are you giving either of them power over your emotions. Why aren't you in charge?
It is true that some people WILL always hate you for "being too fat," even if you become underweight - someone will think you're still too fat and hate you for it. Not only that, even if you gain 50 lbs, there are also going to be people who hate you for no other reason than "being too thin." No matter what you do, someone will still hate you for some reason or another.
Some people hate women. Some people hate men. Some people hate people of a particular ethnic group (or anyone not of their ethinicity). Some people hate fat people. Some people hate thin people. Some people hate anyone fatter than they are, or thinner than they are, or taller, or shorter, or blonder or younger, or older.... Some people hate EVERYBODY.
There's no way to escape somebody's hatred. It's not your responsibility to be liked by everyone. It's not in your power, either.
Some people are so angry and miserable they try to spread their misery to as many people as they can - don't allow them to pull you into their cesspool. It's beneath you, you're better than that.
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Good lord, how pathetic to be the kind of person that does and says those kind of things. Every once in awhile i try to focus on that if someone says something just beyond the pale, and at times it can take some of the sting away, but not all of it. Sorry you had that experience, but again major props to you for continuing to eat something healthy for dinner-thats awesome!
Thanks you so much for listening to me vent
I was more mad at myself when I got home because I was giving her too much of my time. I have children and family that are so much more important to me, and I should be spending it on them. I have a personality that feels like I need everyone to like me, and I really need to work on realizing that I'm the only one that truly has the power over me.
In all honesty it probably had nothing to do with your weight (hear me out) so much as just being as insulting as she could be. It seems to hit hard with just about any one if you say something mean about their weight, at any weight. I am pretty impressed you were as calm with her as you were! I respect people like that.
Last edited by bunnythesAINT : 07-29-2010 at 11:16 PM.
Also, she may be mentally unstable. I was once insulted by a man and then I realized he was sick. That woman saying something to you like that....she is saying it to all of us chicks here....so just know that we are all in this together and that we are all sending positive thoughts your way!
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omg i am SO sorry you had to go through that people are disrespectful because it makes themselves feel better. messed up, i know. PLEASE don't dwell on that b**** and dont listen to her! that's so terrible.
Don't find yourself giving up and driving thru for fast food! Panda Express & McDonalds are not burning down anytime soon! You can have it, just not NOW.
I am sorry this happened to you and this woman obvously has some issues going on in her own life and chose you as her punching bag. People will reach for an achilles heal when attacking another person, if it wasn't your weight than it would have been your make-up, or your husband, your kids or even the car you drive. I am glad you did not hit her and I also glad you stood up for yourself
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I went to dunkin donuts one day... pulled into the parking lot. I saw guy #1 get in his car while guy #2 pulled into the parking lot. Guy #1 gets in his car, starts sipping his coffee, etc. Clearly not in a hurry. So guy #2 starts beeping and swearing at guy #1 to get out of the space so he could have it... I mean #2 was a real A-hole. I felt really bad for guy #1. I mean... he had every right to be in that space and take his time getting ready to leave. And I would like to mention - there were other parking spots.
The point of my story is... that there are a lot of A-holes out there. Chaulk it up to a good story to tell people. "Can you believe what this A-hole at McD's did?"
I am sure we all have stories of A-holes. For me too, it is hard not to feel bad when someone seemingly attacks you personally... but the thing is - she can't attack you personally b/c she doesn't know you. Does she know your sexula history? No. They how can she judge if you are a slut or not? Fat? You've lost 40 lbs! That is a huge accomplishment. So... she can't judge you on that, either.
From the words of a song I heard... "The biggest b!tch is karma, let her do her job."
"I'd rather waltz than just walk through the forrest"
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- Weigh under 210: GOAL!!! As of 7/16/2010
- Next goal: Get BACK to under 210