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Originally Posted by JulieJ08
I really don't think the question implies you or he is a pervert, nor that it's likely to be taken that way. It doesn't take being a pervert to simply see outside one's windows. They're open and they're there. But I do think it's just a problem you have to solve yourself with curtains.
I was joking and didn't mean "pervert" literally! But, I think asking someone to change their windows (even if they're changing them anyway) is going to be seen as "a bit odd."
If someone asked me to change my bathroom window with or without giving a reason, I'd think them a bit odd. If they did give a reason - and it was because they could see into my house, or they thought I could see into their house, I would consider it a bit weird (why were they looking, or why did they think I was, would be my first thought).
I'd find it weird enough to share the story, here and even among friends and other neighbors, as in "You'll never guess what my neighbor asked me to do?"
(Yes, I know that wouldn't really be very polite, but I'd probably do it anyway. I love a good funny story too much. I wouldn't be able to help myself. I might hold out for a while doing the right thing, but eventually I'd have to tell the story).
If you have a very good, close friendship, you can tease a person - Hey Jack, I saw a little more than I wanted to see last night, when I looked out my window - haha maybe you should get frosted windows for your bathroom, while you're replacing them (but you'd have to sound like it was a joke, not that you intentionally thought about it enough to mean you thought they should really change their windows for your comfort).
If there's any chance he would be mortified or creeped out (or you would be if he shared the story with the other neighbors), you have to think about whether that would create some awkwardness in the neighborhood (or at least between you and the neighbor).
Funny story (see how I can't resist). Our new apartment is a lot easier to see into and out of, than our previous one (especially at night when folks have lights on in the house). One morning, I was walking through the hallway topless (getting dressed, the t-shirt I wanted to wear was in the dryer, in the hall), and I realized that my husband had opened the apartment door blinds (they look like double doors, but one is just a floor to ceiling window. The blinds were up on the window, and the other door was wide open except for the screen - so their was basically a 6 foot by 6 foot window facing the hallway. I saw kids playing and adults talking in the courtyard. I booked through the hall so fast, I hope they didnt' see me, or if they did they thought I had on a flesh-colored t-shirt (I didn't see anyone see me, and no one said they saw me).
If anyone had mentioned the incident I would be mortified (even though in this case, I would entirely understand, as there were small kids present FGS). I would never be able to look those people in the eye without blushing (I'm so light complected that when I blush, my entire face turns fuchsia, which would embarass me more).
If someone brought it up, I would suspect that it had happened a lot, because I'd expect the person to be as embarassed about it as I was.
Which reminds me of another funny story (see, I'm incorrigible). In the last apartment we lived in (four downstairs apts, and four upstairs apts) the neighbors right above us were extremely loud during sex (and fairly frequently, they apparently enjoyed choosing times like 2 in the morning on a weeknight, or 4 in the morning, before he went to work). It was kind of embarassing, but we never said anything (we laughed alot about it though), but what were were going to say, and how could we say it without making it really, really weird? A few times we turned music on loud enough to drown them out (if they weren't morons, they probably figured out why - since we never played music at 2 or 3 in the morning otherwise).
But one day, two other tenants (the girl next door to us, and the two girls in the two apartments across the hall from "the couple") were talking in the hall, and one of the girls upstairs, asked if we had "ever heard the couple in Apt #6, making a lot of noise late at night," EVERYONE burst out laughing (because it was only during sex, that we ever heard them). The girl across the hall from them upstairs, asked "how can I tell them," as she was a college student working full-time to put herself through school, and it was keeping her up at night.
We laughed and sympathized with her, but we really didn't have an answer (our next door neighbor suggested maybe an anonymous note under the door, advice she later said she followed. Afterward, they did started playing the stereo while they had sex - but didn't have much affect on the way sound travels through that building. We not only got to hear the sex, but the music too).
I had to literally (and in this case, I really mean literally) bite my tongue, to keep from laughing whenever we saw the loud couple.