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Old 03-28-2010, 11:08 PM   #1
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It seems I can't go anywhere nowadays. I'm not even safe in my own home, thanks to the internet and TV.

I understand people cursing and swearing when they are mad. I'll say a few colorful words in that situation too. But dropping f-bombs and g--d--grenades all over the place, and you're not even angry, I don't get! Why? Certain words are designed to have punch, and if they are used excessively, it takes the punch out of them.

But "free speech" interferes with my right not to have my ears assaulted, it seems. I can't read a news story, watch a funny video on YouTube or Facebook, or watch a crime drama on TV without it. Do I have to become a technology-free hermit and drop out of society altogether to get away from it?
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Old 03-28-2010, 11:30 PM   #2
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I know how you feel.

I'm not a hermit. But I did ban TV, most magazines, the newspaper etc. I get my stuff on the internet when I choose, and this help keep my kid's exposure to it down.

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Old 03-29-2010, 01:26 AM   #3
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I just wanted to say, I'm not talking about any one person or event. I'm talking about in general. I've seen comments on websites like Facebook and YouTube, where people can't even say "I like that," without throwing in an f-bomb. After a while I start to wonder if they know any other words.

You know, I just remembered. When I was something like 12 or 13 I used to curse a lot. Because I was trying to show how big I was now, and I was going to talk like that without getting my mouth washed out with soap. But guess what? I wouldn't have said those words with my mother in the room, so how mature was I, really? "I'll do what I want--as long as Mommy doesn't catch me." I think most of the people who do that kind of thing online are just unsupervised youth, trying to show what big boys/girls they are.
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Old 03-29-2010, 02:53 AM   #4
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I think it's my age group that's the cause of it (20-somethings and college students). I noticed my language starting to change after high school, and most of the people I knew in my first year of college used pretty bad language. Now mine is bad, too. I work at a newspaper, and I've never heard language like newspaper people's! Myself included. I understand not wanting your kids to start cursing when they're young, but I guess I don't really see why it's such a stigma among adults. They're only words! I'm sure it's just to do with my age, but I never had a problem with people cursing even when I didn't.

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If I hear someone cursing alot, I guess I just feel sorry for them, to me it's a reflection of poor education, and just poor language skills and lack of social skills.
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I don't go for "it's just words." Words can be powerful weapons, and they do make a difference.
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Old 03-29-2010, 10:37 AM   #7
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I don't know. Like I said, I see where you're coming from with the kids, and I don't curse in public because I know when it isn't appropriate. But if you were to overhear me talking to a friend and I said "sh*t" instead of "crap," and you thought I was unintelligent because of it, you'd be wrong. I shouldn't have to censor myself or carry a sign with my SAT verbal score for you to not think I'm an idiot. If I have good diction and the things I say are intelligent, why should a few words change your image of me? It's the same as thinking someone's a delinquent because he has tattoos or lazy because he's fat.

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Paradise, if I heard you in one isolated incident say "sh!t" instead of "crap," I wouldn't think a thing of it. I only call intelligence into question if someone, for example, throws seven f-bombs into a single sentence (I've heard it done) and they aren't even angry; it's just the way they talk. After about the second time, it starts to be annoying rather than effective communication.

To clarify: It's not that ANY and ALL profanity offends me. I'm not calling for a cessation of cursing. I do it myself. It's when the words are overused, and when there is no real reason for it, that I have a problem. You, Paradise, have indicated that you know when certain language isn't appropriate. Therefore my beef is not with you. It's with people who either don't know, or don't care, about being appropriate.
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I used to cuss a lot in college, like a lot a lot I'm not sure why but mostly because I was surrounded by it. I didn't think it was a big deal but I don't any more and it wasn't really a conscious change, it just happened naturally.

What I don't like is people cussing and yelling or maybe just yelling but that bothers me but as part of normal speech, it doesn't bother me.
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someone even said the F-word was a powerful word....

wow!

powerful?
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someone even said the F-word was a powerful word....

wow!

powerful?
It is to me. I've been known to duck and cover.
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EZMONEY, Maybe forceful sounds better to you? Whether or not it offends you, it's a word with power. I'm just saying we shouldn't fault someone for using a particular word to suggest that passing the health care bill was a HUGE deal, which it was.

I'm not trying to be contentious. And I agree that it's distasteful to constantly curse and/or do it to impress people. But if something slips out, I don't think people should make a big deal of it.
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words are words are words. the only time i have a problem is with racial or sexual/sexuality based slurs. or if it's directly thrown at me. it's one thing to say the f-word it's another thing to call me an f-ing something...

then again- i'm checking in as someone who is both intelligent and has a tendancy to talk like a dirty old sailor so... what do i know?
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Old 03-29-2010, 09:10 PM   #14
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EZMONEY, Maybe forceful sounds better to you? Whether or not it offends you, it's a word with power. I'm just saying we shouldn't fault someone for using a particular word to suggest that passing the health care bill was a HUGE deal, which it was.

I'm not trying to be contentious. And I agree that it's distasteful to constantly curse and/or do it to impress people. But if something slips out, I don't think people should make a big deal of it.
And on that we agree. I'd have a problem if he kept on using that word, in ordinary circumstances, without being emotionally overwhelmed or anything. But I do think too much has been made of one little slip.

I've been in that situation myself. I'm overwhelmed, the word slips out, and someone says, "Will you tone down your language, please?" This peeves me off because I'm usually so careful about it. I think everyone is entitled to a "whoops" every now and then.

What does offend me is the neighbor who inserts the f-word at every available opportunity. "I lived there for f-ing three years." The word served no purpose.

And the word that bothers me even more than f- is the g-d one. Damn doesn't affect me in the slightest, but put God in front of it, and I cringe.

A bit of insight: Someone on another board was talking about how much she hates the smell of alcohol on someone's breath, because she had been an abused child, and that smell always meant Daddy was in a drunken rage, and she was about to be beaten. I think it's the same way with language. I was an abused child also. The other day I flinched momentarily when my husband was getting undressed for bed, and took his belt off. Just pure muscle reflex, you know. I heard the zzzip of the leather clearing the belt loops, and just for one split second, I....

Profanity is the same kind of signal. Maybe that's why it bothers me so much.
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the only time i have a problem is with racial or sexual/sexuality based slurs.
I feel the same way.
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