this was our lunchtime discussion at work...
given that cheating is wrong.
given that said person (not me) did cheat.
given it was very short lived in duration.
given said person has incredible remorse and has never before and will never cheat again.
given said person has atoned in an acceptable way for them.
given said person in in counseling to find out why it happened and prevent from happening again.
the debate was ...if said person hasnt and doesnt intend to tell their spouse now or ever (which is not up for debate. they refuse and that is their business).
if and when (doubtful this will come to pass) the spouse finds the said person cheated; will it cause more pain then? or would it be less painful to find out now?
also given if spouse was to find out, it would result in divorce.
which the cheater doesnt want now or ever.
my questions is focused on simply NOW or LATER.
what do you think?