I too lost my husband. He passed in 1999. He was 28, I was 27.
I didn't meet anyone until 2003 and it was via the net. But it was a game site and not a dating site and I had no intentions of meeting anyone for any type of relationship, especially the romantic kind. But I just moved from Tennessee to New York to live with him last July and it has been very very good for me
I don't have any real advice for dating, sorry. Just wanted to let you know that others here can relate