We're planning our wedding for next spring, and I initially wanted a tiny wedding, my fiance wanted a HUGE wedding. Well, we agreed to meet in the middle and have a small ceremony (parents, grandparents, brothers, sisters, aunts uncles cousins). We both have small families so that is about 50 people including our 10 people in the wedding party. I wanted to do an intimate sit down dinner right after the ceremony with the family to make it feel special and close for our family.
Our other goal was to keep the reception very casual and fun, nothing formal, but almost a night club feel to it. Its starting at 8:00pm with open bar all night and appetizers only, amazing club DJ and other fun things going on. We are inviting 220 roughly...
As I was going through the invitee list, I started to feel bad that there are many people potentially coming in from out of state and out of country, so I thought, Hmm, I probably want them at the ceremony too to make it worth their trip...but now my small intimate wedding is going out of the window. So now, I'm considering inviting everyone to the wedding, but have the wedding start at 7:30, do a quick ceremony and then get the party started.
We have the option to get married at our reception venue (if anyone is familiar with Milwaukee, its Turner Hall Ballroom). The ceremony would be on stage, after the ceremony everyone could go up stairs and have cocktails while the event staff sets up the cocktail tables and food, and then we'd all be down stairs for the reception.
SOOOOO...my question is. Do I keep with my original dream of a tiny intimate wedding and large reception? Or do I cave and have a big wedding and big reception???
I keep telling myself that this day has to be about us and what we want, not about the people coming, but I'm also like Monica from Friends and the ultimate party planner so I feel bad if people travel there just for a reception.
Oh man this sucks. sucks sucks sucks.
I've asked my fiance 100 times but he's no help. God bless him because his quote is always "What baby wants, baby gets" but when I REALLY need input its the worst!