My mom is dying

EZMONEY · 10-10-2007, 12:26 AM

Beth I am so sorry to hear about your mom. Since I just lost mine less than 48 hours ago I can relate. Until about 4 years ago I always lived within 3-4 miles of my mom, she then went from California, to take care of her mom, in Illinois. I went just last year to see her, always thought she was coming back "home" even though she wasn't well. I had planned to go see her a few weeks ago but my sister, who is back there now taking care of her, wanted me to wait until this Thursday so she could come here for her grandsons first birthday. My mom felt she would feel better than she felt a few weeks ago. Well, I never got to see her....I am not going to beat myself up over it, my mom sure wouldn't want that. To me it sounds like your mom wouldn't either!

I am adding you to my prayers and my prayers also go out to you PEACHINABROWNBAG for what you and your mom are going through and to you SOULBLISS for never knowing the love of a mother....a greater pain than we are feeling.

EZMONEY · 10-10-2007, 12:28 AM

I am adding you too NURSECHEF.

blondebritbrat17 · 10-10-2007, 04:57 AM

Beth, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I can relate though, I lost my dad to cancer 3 months out of high school almost 6 years ago and he was only 39 and I regret so many things since our relationship wasn't the best. For the past 4 years I've been dealing with my mom's health issues from a motorcycle wreck which almost killed her and the past two years it's been aggressive breast cancer and she is out of remission and just started chemo again this week and there have been MANY times I've been taken aside by her doctors and they have gently told me to prepare for a funeral. My mom is in the process right now of getting her affairs in order just in case from the advice of her doctors and I already know my mom's wishes for her funeral since there are certain family members that will try to fight me on her wishes. It is difficult no matter how old you are with the loss of a parent. Do what you have to do to get to your mom. I know I would if I lived far away. Good luck!

bethmart · 10-10-2007, 07:20 AM

Thanks everyone. Your support is helping me more than you could know. It is so very hard for me to be strong right now.

losinitin07 · 10-10-2007, 01:36 PM

Bethmart-peachinabrownbag-soulbliss and nursechef, my prayers go out to you all.May God bless

BillBlueEyes · 10-10-2007, 02:19 PM

NurseChef, peachinabrownbag, and bethmart,

I wish the best for you in this very difficult time.

kitkatbahr · 10-10-2007, 04:26 PM

Bethmart,

I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I lost mine to cancer 5 years ago, and my dad just a few months ago. I understand what you mean about feeling like you don't have enough time with them. I am 42 years old and sometimes cannot deal with the fact that I have lost both my parents. I will pray for you.

You said you are saving money to go see her. I don't know if you were talking about flying there, which can be expensive, but I wanted to suggest an alternative. I don't know how possible it is, where you live, where she lives, etc. but is there bus service? I know when my stepson went up north (from FL) he ended up going by bus (grayhound I believe) because it was alot less expensive than flying. Sure, it takes a bit longer, and may not be all that comfortable, but it is transportation. Perhaps you can look into that and it may be a way for you to get there sooner than you thought you could.

Good luck. I will be thinking about you.

Kathy

drake3272004 · 10-10-2007, 10:12 PM

KO · 10-10-2007, 10:46 PM

:HUG: Beth and to the other ladies My thoughts and prayers are with you all. I lost my Gramma 2 years ago this week and it still hurts. What's most important is that you are in eachothers hearts. I hope you can get to her!
Kierie

aymster · 10-10-2007, 11:06 PM

bethmart · 10-12-2007, 12:45 PM

Thanks again and again everyone. I am still in Florida but doing all I can to raise money to get to Michigan. I am $100 closer thanks to a silly ebay auction.

phantastica · 10-12-2007, 01:11 PM

I have a friend who regularly travels on the cheap. She has taken buses, Am-Trak, has done ride-share on craigslist, etc. One time, she even bought cheap one-way tickets to her destination, bought a $200 car and drove herself home. She also checks regularly for people looking to pay someone to drive a vehicle to or from her destination.

There used to be some program that helped people fly cheaply or free when someone was dying. I think it might've been the Red Cross. I wonder if something like that would be available to you.

to everybody who has lost or is losing their mother. Moms are very special people, and I consider myself lucky to have both of my parents alive and healthy.