I haven't spoken much about my older daughter.
Here are two of the problems.
1. For years, TK was getting more and more sick. Several years ago she was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I know that can be painful. However, she has started going to another church. The girls still go to the old one. It has a wonderful youth program. TK's church has an adult singles program. She's starting to date again. This is not a bad thing. The problem is that she's staying out late (1AM after a class that ended at 9PM). She's gone back to school as well. The girls (A & M, 17 & 16) are getting mixed messages. The problem is that TK is dating someone who takes her dirt biking.
How can she dirt bike with fibromyalgia?
How can she do a lot of the activities she's doing now? I'm thinking that the fibromyalgia may have been a wrong diagnosis and it was stress related due to her marriage.
2. A wants a car. She drives TK's car to her college prep classes. They live in a mountain community and a dependable car is a must. She wants us to help her buy one. I'm not feeling comfy with that because I think she wants to move out on her own. She wants to continue college, but just not live with her mom. TK won't let the girls see their dad so I don't know where he would fit into this. How can I gently tell her "no"?
TIA for any help.