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Originally Posted by GatorgalstuckinGA
it sounds like to me, you need to stop being a "big chicken"..and move on. Maybe i'm not seeing the love that you feel for your SO with this post.
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Probably because THAT kind of love just isn't there anymore. I do care for him. But I'm not in love with him. Everything he does annoys me. And I do mean EVERYTHING. Just looking at him grates on my nerves.
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Originally Posted by GatorgalstuckinGA
I don't know what your situation is at home, but it worries me if there is a lot of stress and complaining.
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There is. Although I do my best to keep it 'hidden' from my son. But you're so right, kids pick up on so many things we're not aware of.
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Originally Posted by GatorgalstuckinGA
Children pick up on that and are EXTREMELY sensitive to that. So you say you can't support your son by yourself. Well here's a start. First start looking for a job (without DH knowing).
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I've considered that. In fact, I've been thinking a lot about that lately.
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Originally Posted by GatorgalstuckinGA
Than leave. SO is the father right...there is such a thing as child support. And also, do you have family that can help?
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No. Both of my parents are dead and I don't have any siblings or other family that would help me. I'm on my own.
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Originally Posted by GatorgalstuckinGA
You sound like you are "stuck in a rut" too scared about moving out. But don't you think if you are THIS unhappy...maybe its for the better. Wouldn't it be better to have a happy fufilled life than living a lie with your SO.
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To answer that question honestly? Yes.
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Originally Posted by GatorgalstuckinGA
Maybe i'm misinterpreting the post wrong (and if so i'm very very sorry)...but i have yet to see a glimmer of hope in your relationship...and i don't really understand why ppl stay with those they are not happy with. Yes it may be tough at first, but in the long run it will pay off. Remember, you make your own destiny.
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Thank you. I really needed to hear that.
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Originally Posted by GatorgalstuckinGA
btw...went back and looked at the christmas link...and don't mean to push the issue. But do you really want your son living in that sort of situation. I don't evey remember my parents (even when they were mad at each other) EVER saying something cruel (even if SO didn't mean it). To me, it sounds like he doesn't have a good control/check on his emotions. That to me, is not an environment that a child should be raised in. Maybe its really time to start thinking about you and DS and what is the BEST for both of you. And if you decide to stay together...than please please please seek counseling ASAP. This is not good for your or DS health and mental well being.
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And I totally agree.
Thanks, hon. Your posts meant a lot to me and I needed that.