When I first started dating my hubby, I was about 120 lbs without even thinking about my weight ever--and by the time we got married 2.5 years later, I was about 145ish!
I sure had fun gaining that weight though, he would take me to Red Lobster, Olive Garden Cold Stone a few times a week etc.....Then we got married and I had 2 babies. I'm so so so lucky I don't over-eat or binge, because eating like I did all those years and I'd be a lot bigger. It didn't even occur to me that it would be such an issue later on
So now we've been married 8 years. He is a wonderful husband and father, and means well, but honestly, it's still a struggle. He looks at me funny if I say I can't indulge by eating out for another week or so because we just did the other day.....he gets annoyed if I say I have to pack healthy foods on a trip. He is irritated when I turn down desserts etc etc. I just have to brush it off though. He doesn't mean to not be supportive, he just doesn't realize what moderation regarding food means. It's hard though...if he does make dinner and bring it to me, he'll heap on the tator tots or dressing. I mean yeah, having a few tator tots every once in a while won't hurt me, but eating half a pound will, and it' s hard to get up and put them back. But I do it. Even though he is 6'3, it's not working well for him anymore. He has a lot of weight to drop. I constantly remind him how much shorter I am and how I can't possibly eat even 1/3 of what he eats unless I want to gain. It gets pretty tiring to just want to live a moderately healthy life and to have to constantly say no and explain myself
and I"m not a fanatic either. I wish so bad that he wanted the same and just to have some support, some sense that he wants to be a little more healthy too
Anyway, the thought of being unhealthy didn't even hit me when we were dating, so if it is concerning you now, I'd say it really is time to deal with it, and it seems like you are.... I never thought I'd be struggling with it this much later. And it really is an almost constant under the surface conflict because so much of our lives-whether it's a healthy relationship or not, revolve around food. And not to mention, if we're not careful, his overeating could influence our 2 precious children.... I can't even tell you how many conversions we've had about it, but I simply can't make him stop over eating the nasty junk foods all the time