I think the following videos are excellent for "actual" Middle Eastern Dance Instruction:
~Fat Chance Belly Dance Tribal Basics Volume 1
(This is the beginner video for learning American Tribal Style belly dance.)
~Ruby Jazayre series
(You can get them at www.dahlal.com
, or at www.rubyjazayre.com
you want her video series that is separated into upper body, lower body, etc. not her
choreography video, which is a choreographed dance for a professional dancer.)
~Absolute Beginning Bellydance with Delilah
I would recommend that you visit the site www.shira.net
and check her instructor directory if you have not already. There are new instructors listed all the time, and you may find one near you.
I would also recommend researching your area, and see if there are any newsletters or local groups that sponsor workshops and things. We have one here in Indiana, and when you attend a workshop, there is always info there on upcoming events and workshops, and other things of interest to the local dancers.