Confront your real, hidden motives.
Today, we're layers of excuses and justifications removed from the real reasons we act and feel the way do. What is the real reason you're angry with a loved one? You resent a neighbor or coworker? You over-schedule your life? You need to keep acquiring things? You want to win so badly? Be honest, look beneath your apparent motives and cut to the truth. You may find pride, envy, guilt, or insecurity lurking beneath. And once you acknowledge it, you can start to curb the stressful drives, or defuse the combustible situations, these feelings create. Come clean with your motives. The last person you need to fool is yourself
It's not that some people have willpower and some don't. It's that some people are ready to change and others are not.