I hesitate to offer advice based on my own experience with a man like that, because everyone is different.
But yes, I dated a man like that for 11 years, and it was rough to maintain my self esteem because I always felt judged very harshly for my imperfections. He said he loved me, but he really only loved me thin. He was very... hmmmm... how to say it... outside appearance oriented.
If your man loves you, you should be able to tell him to stop making those comments, that they hurt you, and then he should stop. If he doesn't stop, that would be a red flag for me personally.
I'm sorry you are going through this, it is hard.
Also, CONGRATS on the 40 pound loss, that's fantastic!!!
Loving yourself is an act of will. It doesn't just happen, you have to choose it.
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Last edited by Mrs Snark : 01-09-2014 at 10:32 AM.