I certainly can identify with you ... born with Spina Bifida (my spine is not closed properly right where you have to bend: ugh!) I have suffered pain most of my life; I had two bad falls which dislocated my right knee and fractured my left calf: lots of pain there. Yes, I have gained weight from these injuries and just having to deal with so much pain in my feet and legs every day.
During our recent move to a new home, I was in so much pain, I had to use two canes just to go to the bathroom; and had to take pain killers to sleep becuz of the knawing pain keeping me awake ...
Yes, I understand pain ... and just like MARKONI
says, there are people all over the world going thru tuff times and suffering a lot: we are never alone in anything we go thru in this life. There is always someone who HAS gone thru what we are going thru, and there is always someone who IS going thru the same thing that you are right now!
I agree, NEVER GIVE UP
... each day, and every day, just take BABY STEPS
, and you will get thru whatever you are going thru; and THINGS WILL GET BETTER!!!
They always do ...
No doubt, you have many physical challenges to deal with; but you can overcome. We have a PHYSICAL CHALLENGES
thread here: and we would love to offer you support there. All of us there have challenges that we have to deal with each day and will do so, for the rest of our lives.
I can't reiterate enuff how important ... ONE DAY AT A TIME
is; that is how I deal with my pain. My spiritual faith in GOD/JESUS has always helped me through the years, reminding me that "I can do all things thru Christ" (Phil 4:13); and that 'This too shall pass!'
And, coming here and reading and talking to others who know how I feel about my weight and my physical challenges helps a lot too. I look forward to it every day, and if I can't make it: I really miss it!
I make lists of what I want to accomplish each day and check them off as I go; I also spread things out over the week (esp housechores). I try not to do too much at one time or in one day; and that has helped a lot. I also take several rest breaks each day, even if they are only for 5-10 minutes each: they rejuvenate me so that I can do more later. I try to take a rest nap each afternoon and in the evening put my feet up with a good book or do puzzles to relax before bed.
I have learned that I can do more in the morning, so I do chores and walking in the morning (like shopping), as my back and legs and feet get worse later in the day. I do lighter tasks later on in the day. On the days, I don't feel good, I just stay home and do stuff around here. It takes some planning and structure, but after awhile, it becomes second-nature (a good, new habit).
For instance, I usually do one load of laundry each day or every other day; and I try not to ever do more than two in one day. If I do, all the bending becomes too much for me. I also find ways to lessen bending and putting things within arms reach, which helps a lot.
I hope you will join us in our PHYSICAL CHALLENGES
thread in this Obstacles Forum: look at the top of the page for a red sticky
for the title. Hope something here helps you a bit, and helps you to know that you are not alone ... Rosebud