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I agree with that completely. And I think all I am trying to say is...it is easier for me to handle people who have that dual perspective. I have thin coworkers who constantly inquire into my eating habits, and when I decline a few out to eat lunches in favor of what I've brought for myself come to the conclusion that I am dieting. Perhaps it's a little paranoid to assume my weight helped them to that conclusion, but I can't help but wonder. Then they ask me things like, 'oh, are you still doing that diet thing?' It just comes across as a little patronizing. I've never had those kinds of comments from someone even slightly overweight, or someone a little curvy. These are thin-thin people who couldn't gain a pound if they tried.Originally Posted by jawsmom
I believe I am considered thin at this point but I maintain the perspective of someone who is overweight. It is interesting being able to see things from both sides of the fence. Is there pressure from society to be thin? Yes. But, a whole lot of that pressure comes from the overweight community. I honestly believe that WE put as much, if not more, stock in people's weights as thinner people do.
And yes, I'm probably just trying to justify something that is inwardly resentful. I think Kate you pointed out that we wouldn't hate ourselves when we became thin But sometimes, I do wonder! Part of me likes the 'shield' of the extra weight, and I do worry about dealing with a new me that looks different but still has all the same problems of self esteem on the inside. I know thin people tend to deal with the same issues, rare is it for a woman to be happy with who she is, and it's certainly not based upon whether she's fat or thin at that moment in time. So that's the further explanation of my previous answer...I would call it resentment for sure. It doesn't apply to everybody, and is really all about how I see myself and my own misgivings.