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thirti4thirty 03-07-2014 05:18 AM

Forgiveness and Weight Loss; Grudge an Weight Gain.
 
Ever since I started seeing a therapist and now that I'm on antidepressants, I noticed a pattern of feeling better with people, especially those I used to hold a grudge against.
I remember instances that when I *only* think about my sister, whom I used to *hate* I would get angry at the mere thought of her. Now we are close again, we do things together etc. She is just ONE example on a long list. I'm a chief grudge holder and I wonder if the weight would be falling off this way if I were still keeping all that poisonous negativity in my body.
I know this whole topic is embedded in the emotional eating context, but I wanted to know if in your case too, becoming more forgiving (and forgetful) has contributed in making your emotional and physical weight lighter.
This is also my personal shout out to those who are where I used to be:
LET IT GO NOT BECAUSE PEOPLE DESERVE IT, BUT BECAUSE YOU NEED PEACE.
(THE PEACE YOU NEED IN ORDER TO LOSE WEIGHT AND BE HEALTHY).
Do not overlook the impact of that factor on your emotions and therefore your diet.
:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug: :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug: :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

Radiojane 03-07-2014 10:51 AM

Amen.

Letting go of anger and envy make life so much better.

abetterme 03-07-2014 11:36 AM

I feel like I was meant to read this. Struggling with backhanded comments made from others that I tend think about a lot and it puts me in a bad mood. Trying so hard to just let it go! Glad you're doing better with that and that you're relationship with sister is better.:)

thirti4thirty 03-07-2014 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by abetterme (Post 4958541)
I feel like I was meant to read this. Struggling with backhanded comments made from others that I tend think about a lot and it puts me in a bad mood. Trying so hard to just let it go! Glad you're doing better with that and that you're relationship with sister is better.:)

I'm happy you felt touched! I hope you'll let go and feel better too!

abetterme 03-07-2014 01:43 PM

A work in progress.. I am actively trying so that's something :) One day it will be easy.

Earthling 03-16-2014 06:58 PM

I definitely have had the same exact experience with forgiving and letting go of grudges with losing weight.
I think it was a symptom, an unexpected side result, of having to forgive myself first.
Learning to love myself, and forgive myself, allowed me to lose weight in the first place.
Probably, loving oneself is hardest. So, forgiving others is easier once you have that down. And also, I now realize that everyone is on their OWN journey of learning. For example, I hated my sister for compulsive lying among other things as a kid especially when she lied about me. Now, I realize (as a result of learning about myself) that this is HER lesson to learn in this lifetime and maybe in a future one it could be mine. Therefore I have empathy for her. Now, how can I hate her?
We are all learning to be human? Perhaps?

AwShucks 03-17-2014 11:40 PM

In the words of John Travolta's buddy "Adela Dazeem" (Idina Menzel)
Let it go... Let it GO...

Love that song!:)


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