my bestest friend is overweight at 200+ lbs.
She knows she is depressed because of her weight, she wants to lose weight.. I do my best to help and guide her. I knew she was sensitive of her weight so for like 7 years we never talked about it. But now since we are closer and share everything, the topic of weight came up. I obviously have no issues with her weight or anyone elses for that matter, but strangers do. Her father is also a main bad influence in her life, he never treats her right because she has always been really overweight. She feels neglected and belittled because of her weight. But i tell her you are so much more than that, you are better human being than so many people. She isnt lazy or food addict. She has been doing the "mothers parT" like cooking and cleaning the house since she was 12, she literally raised her lil sis like her own daughter because her mother was at work.
Anyway, i am really tired and actually annoyed, she comes to me with her weight problems, I guide her but she doesn't follow or something comes up. ( i give her REALLy easy tips) Then she says to me, i want to be happy, i dont want to look at my weight and see if I lost any. Obviously she is a bigger girl, when she would lose weight she wouldnt see drastic changes.. and she doesnt understand this. So she pretty much quits !
she says she wants "help" like surgery or what not.. i say that is really bad.. just watch what you eat and 50% of your weight will melt away.
I think she isnt confronting herself, when i was really weight I confronted myself and started making changes. why cant she do the same? she wants to, the people around her want to, then why does she go to the fantasy world 90% of the time and forget her problems?. (I do encourage her to be happy) but i know her true happiness lies when she will feel beautiful again.
how can I get her to be focuseD?