Hi TofuSprinkles (btw, are you vegetarian/vegan? Me too!),
I got engaged a few months ago and now we're shopping around for wedding venues. It's funny - I never would have considered myself as one of "those people" who would get stressed out by wedding planning. If left to our own devices, my BF and I would elope and throw a party a little while later, instead of the whole wedding thing.
But like you said, trying to make everyone happy is stressful. My main goal is to make sure that everyone has a good time, and especially for parents/family/close friends to feel a bit pampered. A wedding is (probably) the only chance I'll have to throw a party for everyone in my life who has given me so much...this is why I am trying much harder than I otherwise would.
You know what? The surest way to please other people is for you to be happy yourself - that is what the people who love you want to see. I'm trying to keep that in mind. As much as my mom would love to see me married in a church with all sorts of frilly stuff like doves and flower girls, she will be satisfied seeing me totally happy as I get married my way (in a forest with no bridesmaids, flower girls, or captive birds of any sort). Don't look in the kitchen for conflict resolution or comfort - just face everything, one item at a time, and remember that no one's life depends on this being perfect.