First, let me say that I am very sorry that you are going through this. But also you are not alone. I have been exactly where you are. I know exactly what this feels like.
He may have deep seated issues with weight. I don't know - as you haven't shared the whole story here, but more than likely this isn't really about you, but about him having power of you by withholding intimacy.
Marriages like this, sexless marriages, can cause situational depression. And even if you aren't depressed, you have every right to feel sad, lonely, angry and forsaken. Sexual expression is a natural part of marriage and where it is lacking there is something really wrong.
I know this is VERY hard to do - and maybe even impossible - but try not to turn this in on yourself. Know that you deserve better. Please know that other men will find you attractive and would want to have sex with you.
Please PM me. I am happy to share some helpful resources that are about this but not weight loss.
Lose 25lbs by 15 April (10 Mar)
Get to 100 kg (220) by 1 May (7 Apr)
Be 205 by race day - 14 July
One-derland by 1 Sept
Last edited by AlmostMe; 03-10-2013 at 06:36 PM.