lucydear -- Thanks for the perspective. I can't manage it all at once, so I need to focus and triage it all.
Natasha -- Thanks for the suggestions. I've been trying to take a walk every day. I like the idea of scheduling time to set aside negativity, too. Negativity and stress increase cortisol and fat storage and they also intensify depression; it's hard to get out of the cycle.
Aunrio -- Thanks for the encouragement. I've gained a lot of weight in grad school and have been battling it badly, so I really thought it was time to work at it. However, I really can't make this a priority so wholesome snacking is probably better. I'm hoping to edit old stuff as well as I can. Draft due to my committee chair in the morning and once I get approval and feedback, I'll be sending it to the whole committee on Wednesday (fingers crossed). Once I get through the defense, I will be able to focus better, I hope.
Lisa -- Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about your situation. Mine is dragging me down like an actor. I'm sporadically online these days and behind on just about everything, but, will reply when I can. I've got a therapist, thankfully and maybe I should visit her twice a week instead of once a week until I get through this. I've never been depressed like this before and it feels so awful.
I really can't obsess about weight loss, just be aware of choices about food and exercise, I think, until I get through this hurdle.
Thanks everyone. I feel a little less overwhelmed today. Well, I'm still working on my draft that's due in the morning, but, am trying to remind myself that I can't repair my broken marriage on my own and I can't lose weight instantly, and that patience is important and prioritizing the degree is really important.