I have been in this situation before, very similar, very very similar... I see that you guys have broken up now, and I think this could be very good for you! I would suggest to please stay til the lease runs out unless they offer something like I've seen before, where if they can find someone to take the apartment as is and immediately of you moving (if you've kept it all in great shape) so your landlord doesn't lose any money and whatnot. I messed up my credit (among other things) in the situation I'm about to mention and I cannot stress this enough.
I moved across the country for a guy I met online once. My life went downhill upon doing that. I was dependent on him, I didn't get out. If I really want to admit it, he really wasn't a bad guy...but we were NOT on the same page. I thought I loved him, that I would be miserable without him... but I posted on some forums about my situation at one point and it gave me that kick start I needed. They weren't as nice as everyone here but I needed it. That's when I started my weight loss journey and went back home and turned my life around. I didn't cry over the guy when my trip home was over like I thought I would. I was happy and smiling. I never looked back.
I have now since then moved out and living with my to-be husband! I agree with what everyone here has said, it is all very true and will all help you very much if you take it to heart and I hope you do.
There are 2 things I want to add that I want to say more than anything.
1) All people are very different. There will be guys in your future who you wouldn't believe existed, and guys who will make you miss your ex. There will be a guy however ho will meet your needs and you will not believe that you settled for anyone less. Great people really do exist, as lovers and friends, look for them!
2) I was home sick when I was in this situation, but I didn't know if I should leave... Now living away from home again, I have never felt that "same" feeling again. I love my hometown and love to visit very much and to see my family, but if you are truly happy, your new home will be YOUR HOME, you be homesick for THAT place. That is the place where you will call your home, not the home of your parents.
So I want to encourage you to make changes. The future may be a lot better than you think it may be. An abrupt change may be great.
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Last edited by Lylitu : 06-16-2011 at 01:45 AM.
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