Hi Tender,
If its weight loss advice your in the right place
there is a Tops board here, WW, Low Carb, you name it and the people here are wonderful !!!! Do you have any idea on what kind of program you are going to go on ?
I'm sorry to hear about your marriage, all I can say is I'm not in your shoes and I wouldn't want to tell you what to do but I would sooner live by myself than let someone physically abuse me (or mental). And I'd be afraid that this abuse was teaching my son that it is okay to abuse his wife/girl friend and also teaching my daughter that it is okay for her husband/boy friend to abuse her? Abuse is a vicious cycle, I can only hope you are talking to your children and maybe getting some counceling.
In anycase, WELCOME to 3FC's.
Love, Leens