Sarge's No Excuses / Boot Camp To Beach Weather #5

[linalin]

celrae: Hang in there! I feel you on two of those issues: My BF recently lost 40 lbs, and while I don't have to hear it right now bc he's on deployment- I know when I come back he'll still be losing probably and it might be discouraging to hear his numbers! I've always heard that women lose slower than men-- not sure how true that is, but just remember (if it is true), it's just nature!
And I can't ANYONE to work out with me. I suckered one friend into coming to the gym on my guest pass and she LOVED it. And now she keeps coming up with excuses about why she can't join. It's frustrating! Even worse: My mom is losing weight too and I offered to BUY her a membership AND drive her to the gym every day and she told me NO! Ahhh wth is wrong with people?!


Good morning, btw
STILL have the energy! Taking advantage of it and cleaning my bathrooms today! Only popped on real fast while the floor is drying lol

Have a good day all!

[pokeycactus]

Celrae:

1: My husband has the metabolism of a high school track star. When I started making healthier food for us, he lost weight FAST. It slooooowly came off me. He lifts weights for about a half hour 4 mornings a week and has trimmed down so that he has hardly any body fat - I work out with hard cardio and JM weight-type workouts 5 to 6 days a week and it's coming off really slowly. What can you do? Some people just have an easier time losing weight - and maybe Reso can chime in on this one, but it does certainly seem like men can do it easier than women can. Just keep it up and maybe encourage your husband to continue working out even when he hits his goal? My husband has zero weight to lose, but has a terrible family health history - his dad had a heart attack and subsequent pacemaker at 46. I want my husband to stay healthy, so even though he's fit, I want him to keep up the workouts and eating healthy so that he stays healthy.

2: You're only going to fail if you don't try!!! I've heard AWESOME things about cross fit classes. Suck it up, get over your fear, and try it! (now I sound like Sarge...)

3: I am a control freak, but my husband is constantly telling me I can't solve anyone else's problems but my own. Like Linalin said - she offered to pay for her mom's membership and drive her there and she said no. I have friends that could be healthier, and it's working for me and I'm jazzed about it, so why don't they want to come to the gym with me?! For whatever reason, they don't. I can't make them, so why waste the energy trying? You can invite them, and if they don't take you up on it, just let it go. In six months when you're fit and trim, they'll be wishing they had listened to you

Anyway, still have this crazy crazy energy, so I'm going to take advantage of it before it disappears. Have a great Tuesday, everyone!

[JayTee]

Celrae, Linalin & Pokey-- Ya see why an active thread like this one is so enjoyable. You can always find someone here who is experiencing the same joy or frustration.

Weight loss is such a solo journey. Remember, only 12% of people who say they are going to get fit and lose weight actually do so each year. You can see it in most of these threads too. People jump in all motivated and by week two or three participation falls off dramatically. You'll see it in the Biggest Loser competition thread over the summer too. We started in January with probably 30 people on each team and by the end we had six or seven.

To fight and win this weight loss battle you need to take one day at a time. If you have support around you for a few of those days, enjoy it while you can...most days it's just put in the ear plugs and put in the work with laser focus on the goal...a healthier, happier you!

And what's with this fear of failure?!?!?! Don't sabotage your efforts before you even try something!!! And IF you're gonna fail, do it in a SPECTACULAR BLAZE OF GLORY EPIC FAIL sort of way...much like Sarge's attempts to do jumping jacks at a tennis lesson recently, or Pokey spaz dancing into the pool fully clothed. Life is much to short to worry about the little sh**.

Sarge done with round 1 of Turbo Tuesday...1,030 glorious goblets of gelatinous goo gone so far...

[patchworkpenguin]

Bread dough is rising, laundry is started, Dad came over for lunch, and Hubby is home early! I did 30min of kettlebells and 50 min of yoga this morning.

[peanutt]

I've said it before and I'll say it again - anyone who has the word FAIL or FAILURE even cross their mind, stop and read the quote I have in my signature. I don't think I'll ever remove it because I think we all need the constant reminder.

Fear of failure has held me back from so much in my life - from experiences that I may never have the opportunity to experience again. Comparing myself to others has held me back and messed with my head for too many years. We don't live our lives for anyone other than ourselves and ultimately we're the ones that have to be happy with ourselves for the long haul. While I still gain so much motivation and inspiration from my fitter, healthier husband, I am doing everything I do for myself. Finding ways to make myself happier and healthier ultimately makes me a stronger partner to him.

It's so important to keep this in mind when dealing with the challenges of friends or family members living an unhealthy lifestyle and wanting to help them. There is no way that even the most gifted motivator can force someone up off the couch and KEEP them up off the couch if that person hasn't decided that's what they want for themselves. I've had to bite my tongue so many times when friends or co-workers complain that their latest fad diet hasn't worked or sigh longingly and wish they could lose weight too but just can't because of their laundry list of excuses. Nothing I say will ever change their minds. They need to look inside themselves and find the desire and motivation that I found deep inside under all that fat before they'll be able to change their lives.

Gosh, there I go all long-winded again. I wonder how many calories you burn talking and typing????

[JayTee]

Hallelujah and Amen to all that Peanutt! And I believe the answer to your question is 42, it's the same answer to the meaning of life, the universe and everything!

[Resolute]

Another ugly day out, overcast, threatening to rain, windy and cold, oh well time to do my walk.

JayTee : LOL, i know, i know, i'm some kind of anomaly, an overly emotional man .... Uhhhh... someone help me be more uncaring and callous .

I just can't do it.

Sigh... whatever ...

Pokey : I do believe men have an advantage, percent of body composition is more muscular, not sure on numbers but muscle does indeed burn more calories/fat, that said there are some women here who have done as well or better than me at losing in terms of time taken, whether they are just better at it or luckier i don't know, i do know i've given nearly everything i have to this so if someone out does me they are truly throwing everything they have into it.

peanutt : I am ashamed to admit my fear has had a negative affect on me as well, i work to remedy that every single day now.

celrae : You can't rely on anyone period, you wouldn't believe the excuses i've heard from people, like peanutt said, you have to look as deep in your heart as is possible, there is strength there, if you look hard enough you will find it, i have a habit of visuallizing my heart as a light, it started as a tiny spark nearly extinguished but now it burns strong and blinding, i feel as if i could just reach out and touch it i will gain great strength from it. I know it sounds dumb but it works for me. When i started at 400 Pounds i honestly gave myself an ultimatum, walk or just end it and i truly meant it, if i could not be bothered to fight for this i might as well just pack it in, far less painful than the torture i was enduring as being someone i myself hated.

I don't believe there is such a thing as failing, you either give up or succeed, i have done both in my life but never did i strive daily with steadfast determination and not see the realization of my desire, i will continue to try everyday for the rest of my life now, this is not about losing weight any longer but about living life the way i see possible.

[lucyford]

Hey gang, just checking in. Got 120 minutes in at the gym today. My boyfriend is trying to convince me to go fishing with him tonight which is basically a 5 hour hike with stops along the way. Considering it but don't want to burn myself out as I need at least 90 mins in the gym tomorrow. (It's a class for school with weekly time requirements.) Might have to reschedule fishing for tomorrow or Thursday. My evening class is canceled tonight--what to do, what to do??!

[celrae]

Thanks! That is exactly the kick in the A@@ I needed. I will reread your post because, I need to get over these unproductive thoughts. I was having a bad day yet, still on track for exercise and diet. Cheers

[K3LL3Y]

Hi Everyone
Supper excited here. I've finally got my ticker! That's all really. Just had to post because of that

[JayTee]

Hey gang---just jumping on instead of pouring one!

Hey K3---look at that spanky, brand new siggy!

LucyF -- It really seems like you've turned a corner. All that time in the gym, 5hr. hikes, etc., etc.

Reso-- Sarge teaches special classes in uncaring and callous! Surprised? Not!

[Cheshirecat]

Hey Platoon.
Nice pep talks going on around here!

I have to agree with what they are all saying.

This journey, this up hill battle to take back our bodies and health through sweat and tears, is personal. It's hard not to compare ourselves to others but you can't. It will just make you mad and envious that they are doing it faster or whatever.

Don't let fear hold you back either. I know I let it hold me back often, and not just fear of failure but fear of success (Ahh, added responsibilities!). I know I probably looked like a red faced lobster, huffing and puffing and looking ready to fall over when I got into exercising. And yeah I avoided being around people in my red faced, about to die stage----but the great thing is you gain CONFIDENCE. And that is as sweet as weight loss. You'll be rocking those classes soon and not worrying over going.

As for friends joining you. That is a hard one. You have to choose to do this for yourself, make it your priority. I agree with Reso. It's you that has to do this. It's you, you have to rely on. I worked out with friends and I've forged my own path. While I had a blast being with my friends---it was only when I decided to take it seriously and decided how to do it that it all clicked and started to work. I couldn't let their excuses stop me from going that day. So now, my friends know I'll be out there and they are welcome to join...and they do but not regularly and that's ok. It's nice company when they are there but it's my journey not theirs.

Hmm...guess I felt the bug to type a bunch too.

Anyhoo--
I got in a nice hot walk. Then I visited the Sweatshop Fitness Challenge finally. I tried out the Krabby Patty---whew! That was a 'fun' warm up! I'll be back to try that again!
Then 30 minutes of whole body work out.

I got my sweat on.

[lucyford]

Originally Posted by JayTee

LucyF -- It really seems like you've turned a corner. All that time in the gym, 5hr. hikes, etc., etc.

I'm trying to squeeze as much time out of free gym use as I can. Tomorrow is the last day of the semester so last day of the gym and I can't afford a membership anywhere right now
My plan is to replace gym time with river time. Either running or hikes. I am just starting to get on a roll with my weight loss, as I think my insulin resistance is finally starting to balance out. I need to keep this up though, with or without a gym facility!

[bnhtla06]

I did it! I tried the 1st day of week 5 and I DID IT!! Still don't know if I can get through all of week 5, maybe I'll repeat 5-1 all week and then tackle the full thing next week.

Not to get all gushy or anything but...I'm SO glad I stumbled onto this thread. You guys are all so inspiring and motivating. All the marathons and 120 minute gym sessions and peptalks... I love it here.

[peanutt]

Originally Posted by bnhtla06

I gotta get me some of Pokey's water. I'm feeling like a dud. I started week 5 today and holy cardiac arrest, Batman! I don't think I'm ready. I toughed out a Jillian Michaels eFit workout to avoid feeling like a total failure, but I couldn't do the run today. How big a wimp would I be if I decided to repeat week 4?

Just quoting this for you, bnhtla. Just 24 hours ago you thought you couldn't do w5d1, yet today you completed it and you're feeling like a total rock star. You CAN do it....I know you can because you did it today!