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Mainecyn, I am sorry for the difficulties you have experienced in your life. Congratulations on making the decision to take control and start the work you need to do to rebuild your self esteem. Congratulations on finishing a huge project at work and doing a fantastic job with it. When you say something negative to yourself, try to catch it and think, "Would I say that to a child?" If you would not abuse a child that way, why abuse yourself that way? Tell yourself immediately that you're sorry and you didn't really mean it. Affirm that, "I am a giving, caring person and I deserve good things."
I've been doing an awesome job of sticking to my diet and exercise program. When the scale slowed and stood still for a couple weeks, I was feeling discouraged but adopted the mantra, "I just need to keep going" and it worked! I've stuck to my program and this morning I saw a 2.2 pound loss for this week. I am so proud of myself for sticking with it and working hard. I can do this!
Thank you very much. You are correct. I have tired to talk to myself and ask if I would treat a stranger the way I treat myself, of course not. So why is it acceptable to do it to myself? It really isn't, but is such a difficult habit to break.Mainecyn, I am sorry for the difficulties you have experienced in your life. Congratulations on making the decision to take control and start the work you need to do to rebuild your self esteem. Congratulations on finishing a huge project at work and doing a fantastic job with it. When you say something negative to yourself, try to catch it and think, "Would I say that to a child?" If you would not abuse a child that way, why abuse yourself that way? Tell yourself immediately that you're sorry and you didn't really mean it. Affirm that, "I am a giving, caring person and I deserve good things."
I've been doing an awesome job of sticking to my diet and exercise program. When the scale slowed and stood still for a couple weeks, I was feeling discouraged but adopted the mantra, "I just need to keep going" and it worked! I've stuck to my program and this morning I saw a 2.2 pound loss for this week. I am so proud of myself for sticking with it and working hard. I can do this!
You are doing so well with your weight loss, such a great re- enforcer to watch your progress and know that people do succeed, do grow and learn better habits and learn to give themselves, and their body, what it needs. Your really inspiring.
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I'm reading a book called May cause miracles by Gabby Bernstein. she has a lot of good information on positive self talk and letting go of things that no longer serve you.
BethC, I am going to look for info on the book you mentioned. I truly believe a great deal of the weight issues, binge eating, body image problems, that i have can be traced back to my own personal emotions concerning myself, how I see myself, what I think I am worth. If I look back at events that shaped my childhood there were several big negative ones, and on the relationship front I dealt with an abusive and neglectful first marriage because I felt I deserved it and wasn't good enough for my then husband. I can see how there can be a connection between the negative thoughts you think about yourself, and the negative actions you take toward yourself. I also can completely relate to hanging on to issues and emotions that were tied into other people, when letting go of the thoughts and feelings would be better. It would be a growing experience, learning experience. I'm reading a book called May cause miracles by Gabby Bernstein. she has a lot of good information on positive self talk and letting go of things that no longer serve you.
I admit that I often go back repeatedly and rethink painful issues and events, like not being able to leave a scab alone. I have read things that tell you to let go and not let the other have power over you by remembering.
My positive thought today, or daily positive self-affirmation comment would be that today I learned I AM learning the skills I needed for the other position in our office. I've been going in to work early for a week to learn this job and "practice" while the other lady is in the office in case I need help. I was able to get what needed to be done finished this morning, assign everyone, fill in subs where needed, and I did it quicker than I did Friday. I also am slowly growing more confidence when it comes to the phone system. I rarely answered the phones unless absolutely needed to before. Now, this week, I am answering the phones, learning what all the buttons do, and doing it correctly. I'm not fast at it, and get confused at times, but the phone isn't as scary. Im getting faster on my computer looking up the info and finding it when parents call the district. So, I do have some positives.