I am no good for advice, as I am struggling myself, but I wanted to give you a hug.
I am trying to control binging with a "one day at a time" mentality. When I set goals like "get through New Year's" it seems unrealistic right now, but I know I can get through
today, and that helps.
I have been fighting the desire to purge as well. You have done it once, but you have to draw a line, never again. Binging is bad for us, but purging can be horrible for your body.