I too battle the dreaded flap. And I don't even have a baby to show for it. In 2004-2005, I had 15-lb ovarian tumor (a thankfully-benign teratoma) which was discovered in late 2005 when it began to push against my kidneys and cause excruciating pain. Prior to that, I'd thought my increasing belly girth was merely a symptom of my increasing weight and suffered for over a year while said tumor grew and grew. Anyway, once it was taking out, my stomach collapsed and started hanging over like I'd delivered the giant baby of the universe. Not very nice.
Post-surgery, I was about 240, but over the next 3.5 years worked my way up to 275 with my hanging belly ever growing in size and my lovely vertical cesarean-style scar dividing it into two echoing ... well let's just say what was hidden below. Ok so 65lbs later, at 210, said belly was a lot improved, however, I despaired how I would ever explain it to a future partner. Like I wouldn't have believe I hadn't at some point been pregnant. Anyway, suffice to say that now 95lbs later from the beginning, things are looking MUCH MUCH MUCH better. I can clearly see what lies beneath; the overhang, while still in existence, is minimal and manageable; the dividing vertical scar that gave me 2 hanging lobes no longer has that effect and lies smoothly with the skin; the situation is totally manageable.
And I won't say the difference has all been weight-related, some of it has been time-related too. I hit the 180s back in April 2011 and I still had a lot of the same concerns with my belly that I'd had at 210 (in January 2011). 6 months later, still in the 180s but having been on plan and worked out really hard (I confess mostly cardio, not much targeted ab work), everything looks a lot better and tighter now than it did when I first hit this weight: I've lost inches, I'm more tones and especially with the boobage and belly, things have vastly improved. I think a lot of it is giving the body time to adjust and giving the mind time to adjust to the body.
: Jan 2009: 275lb; 3FC Start Weight
: July 19, 2009: 257lb; Record Low Weight
: Oct 21, 2012: 152lb
Losing the Regain- Jul-Dec 2014
Overall Weight Loss