Taking your clothes off! How do you feel about it?

[Worth the Weight]

Hey Stephanie,

You SO remind me of my fabulous friend Ali-who I left in the USA when I left to come to England last year. She used to say that she was the dude as well! LOL!

I love that you are enjoying unwrapping-seriously..it makes me feel like there is a chance yet for me!

But I must say-you all look fabulous! I checked out your before and after and you have done great!

Peace,
T

Originally Posted by StephanieM

My fiance and I usually have sex about once a week, he's not very aggressive and I'm usually the one who makes the move and I'm too tired to do it all the time. (It sometimes takes a bit of coercing as he'd rather cuddle). My man is the girl of the relationship.

Since losing weight, I feel confident in a different way and I think he picks up on that. We've been up to twice a week, and three times in the last four days! I'm not hesitating with taking my clothes off because it's like Christmas for me!

I agree with showers too, once in awhile we take a shower together and that's our alone time to talk and just be together. It's kinda cramped so he can't see all of me at once

Just know that if your getting naked, it's because he wants you to get naked. I'd feel bad if they didn't want that! No matter what you think, he obviouslly loves what you got and wants to see it.

Try singing and doing sexy dance moves in the shower, it might help you feel more comfortable in your skin (helped me, but don't slip!)

[pink sparkle]

I'm glad this thread was posted. I've been thinking about this lately. I love the "fake it until you make it" advice!

For me, I actually think I look okay naked. I feel I look very womanly (and sexy) when I'm naked . However, that hasn't stopped my insecurity about being naked around the guy. I've never been comfortable being fully nude around a guy unless the lights were off. BUT, I often walk around my bedroom stark naked with the blinds open (yes, I have neighbors on that side of the house, but there's a wooden fence). And I sometimes find myself raising up my shirt at the gym. Hmmm, maybe I'm some kind of strange exhibitionist. Anyhow, I'm definitely going to take the advice in this thread so that I can get comfortable being naked around everyone.

ETA: Geesh! I didn't mean being comfortable naked around everyone, just being comfortable naked, period.

[Worth the Weight]

Hiya!

LOL-I totally understand about those descriptions you have there!

What you are saying really does help. I think I can get so wrapped up in what I think and what I see in the mirror. It's good to try to put the shoe on the other foot and see it from hubby's perspective.

You have a point-I would be really bummed if hubby didn't believe me when I give him compliments and tell him how I feel about him.

YOU chicks are GOOD! LOL!

Thanks so much,
Peace,
T

Originally Posted by ThicknPretty

I don't look the greatest naked right now either. I had been looking forward to this rock hard, smoking body at goal...haha. Saggy, squishy, floppy, stretchy is more like it.


But the guy I'm with now has done an absolutely wonderful job of making me feel good about myself, he tells me all the time how attracted he is to me. When I'm with him, I feel hot and sexy...it's like a mental thing. I see myself how he sees me. It's really cool...it's definitely um, enhanced things in the budoir.

If he wants to see it, he likes it, so let him see it! Reverse the situation...if you wanted to see him naked and he refused consistently...wouldn't you get at least a teeny bit frustrated and wonder why he wouldn't just take your word for it that you found him attractive?

And after you let it all hang out the first time, it's a breeze.

[Worth the Weight]

LOL! You cracked me up!

But you know-there must be LOTS of freedom being comfy in your own skin! I am SO gonna work on this!!!

Peace,
T

Originally Posted by pink sparkle

I'm glad this thread was posted. I've been thinking about this lately. I love the "fake it until you make it" advice!

For me, I actually think I look okay naked. I feel I look very womanly (and sexy) when I'm naked . However, that hasn't stopped my insecurity about being naked around the guy. I've never been comfortable being fully nude around a guy unless the lights were off. BUT, I often walk around my bedroom stark naked with the blinds open (yes, I have neighbors on that side of the house, but there's a wooden fence). And I sometimes find myself raising up my shirt at the gym. Hmmm, maybe I'm some kind of strange exhibitionist. Anyhow, I'm definitely going to take the advice in this thread so that I can get comfortable being naked around everyone.

ETA: Geesh! I didn't mean being comfortable naked around everyone, just being comfortable naked, period.

[StephanieM]

Originally Posted by pink sparkle

BUT, I often walk around my bedroom stark naked with the blinds open (yes, I have neighbors on that side of the house, but there's a wooden fence). And I sometimes find myself raising up my shirt at the gym. Hmmm, maybe I'm some kind of strange exhibitionist.

I'm the same way! I love walking around naked when I'm alone!

It took a long time to get here, and the insecurities don't just go away like that. I couple days ago I've suddenly become convinced I'm developing loose skin and that my stretch marks are standing out more. I'm now trying to rectify both, but I'm happy with how thin I am. (Though I obviouslly have about 20 pounds to goal )

Worst case scenario, I look good with clothes on!

Worth the Weight, that's funny! I always hoped there would be more out there like me, haha. It's hard for people to understand, they think it's impossible for a guy to think that way. Thanks for your comments Every day is a new surprise when I look in the mirror or step on the scale.

[100percentME]

personally, i really like being as undressed as possible. atm im sitting in my underwear and a tank top, and its the most comfortable i ever am. i think mine is cuz when i start adding clothes is when im uncomfortable with my body. my jeans make my love handles more obvious; its hot where i live so shirts make me sweat and then i have to worry about wet arm pits. etc.
take away the clothes and its just my body, nothing looks bigger or smaller: just me and my true size. and while im not always happy with that size, i dont worry about looking fatter than i am, or being caught at a bad angle cuz what you see is what you get. (obviously around people i put some shorts on). it also helps me be more comfortable with my body in general. if i can be comfortable being naked when im alone (and i dont find my body attractive) it makes it easier to be less-clothed around people who do think im attractive or people who frankly dont care.

being naked around my boyfriend always makes me a little nervous cuz i worry that hes seeing my fat, my rolls, my stretch marks. but when im honest with myself i know that what he really sees is a naked woman whom he cant wait to get his hands on (oh geez i feel scandalous saying that lol). its days like today that reassure me that he doesnt judge my body like i do: he was sitting on his bed playing a video game and i had just gotten out of the shower. he had been focused on his game for about 2 hours, i had been baking some bread so he hadnt been paying me much attention and i hadnt been asking for any attention: he was engrossed in the game. but when i walked into his room in my underwear and bra with my hair wet he totally forgot about his game for a second and just watched me walk across the room to grab my hairbrush and then gave me a quick kiss before going back to his game.
i guess the point of that (sorry for the long story, its nice to be able to share those moments with ppl who understand why they are so important) is that we have to take those confidence booster moments and cling to them and realize that even if we see our imperfections, other people and specifically men, are quicker to see the good things.
(granted im young and unmarried, so my words should prolly be taken with a grain of salt, cuz im still learning )