Hubby doesn't find "Fit me" attractive

[LYNNEGAL22]

Thanks again everyone. I am going to look into counseling and will update later.

[StephanieM]

I didn't have time to read through everyones posts, but yours caught my eye Lynne.

I worry about this often, my fiance always told me he was attracted to chubby girls and that he did not like thin ones. I worry about this too, but I voice it to him and he says 'well don't worry, I'll let you know if you get so thin you are no longer appealing' What if I get to that weight and I'm happy and I wanna stay that way? I don't want to be unhealthy, I think 140 is a generous goal for my frame.

I don't really have much advice to offer but to let you know that your not alone out there. *hugs* I hope whatever happens, it works out the best for you!

(I've thought about getting a boob lift when I'm done losing weight, but that's for me! :3 )

[LYNNEGAL22]

**UPDATE**

Had a great conversation about everything this weekend. Turns out he has just been preoccupied with work and I was taking it personally. I guess it is good to remember, it is not always about you. He didn't even realize he had slighted me on my sprinting accomplishment (again, was on his way to work.) He let me know he was very proud of my fitness accomplishments and a little jealous that he cannot do the hardcore stuff I can do ( his bad back.) He said "I married you for you, not what you look like now or then, although the fact that you are hot is a bonus."

He also pointed out that we are very open with each other about everything and his boob fixation has never been an issue before. I just let him know it was making me feel inadequate and he said he wouldn't want me to get fake boobs unless I really wanted to, he would support me, but he prefers real ones, even if they are smaller.

I feel a lot better about everything and I think it helped to have the ears of others who can relate. Thank you again!

[KarenBee]

I just found this thread this morning, and am happy that it had a "happy ending". Your husband sounds like a wonderful guy --

[Sonata]

There may also be a little jealousy involved. Maybe he is afraid that now that you are fit, other men might try to steal you away. My husband seems a little less trusting of other men than he used to be, and I'm not even close to fit yet!

[CarbsAreEvil]

It might just take him a while to get used to it.

[pink1gloss]

Originally Posted by LYNNEGAL22

**UPDATE**

Had a great conversation about everything this weekend. Turns out he has just been preoccupied with work and I was taking it personally. I guess it is good to remember, it is not always about you. He didn't even realize he had slighted me on my sprinting accomplishment (again, was on his way to work.) He let me know he was very proud of my fitness accomplishments and a little jealous that he cannot do the hardcore stuff I can do ( his bad back.) He said "I married you for you, not what you look like now or then, although the fact that you are hot is a bonus."

He also pointed out that we are very open with each other about everything and his boob fixation has never been an issue before. I just let him know it was making me feel inadequate and he said he wouldn't want me to get fake boobs unless I really wanted to, he would support me, but he prefers real ones, even if they are smaller.

I feel a lot better about everything and I think it helped to have the ears of others who can relate. Thank you again!

I couldnt help but "awwwwwww" over this. Im glad you and him talked about it. An you got the answers you needed.

[60lbstogo]

Maybe it is hard for him too, to get used to this new you. That's all I can think of.

If you always considered implants, and you honestly think that it would make this issue a little better, I'd check that out.

Or maybe have a heart to heart with your hubby.

Best of luck to you! Feel proud of your achievements and never look back!