Quote:
Originally Posted by Sonata
If they want it to be a compliment, it should just be, "You are beautiful," not a breakdown of which parts are lovely and which ones fall short of a compliment. People just don't think, and some of them do it on purpose to either hurt you or motivate you.
|
Well said. In my case, the person who always told me this was my father. My dad is a wonderful, loving father, and like you said- he was trying to motivate me. The thing is, that I am a curvy woman. I was wearing a size ten at age 13 and wore a 36d bra. Nowadays, yes, I am overweight and very unhappy with my body. But I realize that in my highschool years ,weighing 145-150, even though i may have been bigger than the average teen, that I was at the ideal weight for my body. Because of my dads innocent comments I always thought I was just fat.... But boy do I realize now how hot I looked! If I had only appreciated it then. Maybe instead of the "pretty face" comment he could have offered to join a gym with me, or participate in a sport together....would have been a lot more motivating!!!
