| Body Image and Issues after Weight Loss Including discussions about excess skin and reconstructive surgery |
Out of the Mouths of Husbands
07-10-2008, 11:26 AM
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Yogasaurus
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: New England Gal
Posts: 183
S/C/G: 180/120/115
Height: 5' 5"
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Out of the Mouths of Husbands
Last night, my DH was being the good guy that he is and listening to my general griping about some of the physical "reminders" of my weight loss- some mildly stretched skin over my belly, dimples at my knees and elbows, etc. He gave me a long look and said, "Sweetie, you know that I think that you look amazing. But, you need to remember that the last time you were at this size, you were in your very early twenties. You wouldn't look like that now, even if you had NEVER gained any weight! You have an adult's body now."
Huh. Made me think about how realistic my expectations are. Fitness, weight control, health- yes, bring it on! Perfect abs and gravity defying boobs- maybe not at 36, and maybe that is OK. I obviously have one of the best guys out there as my best friend, and he loves how I look! I'm a little prouder of the current results of my journey today!
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Circebee
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07-10-2008, 11:35 AM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Sep 1999
Posts: 10,489
S/C/G: 257/135/maintaining
Height: 5' 4"
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Aw, what a sweetheart! Sounds like he's a keeper. 
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Meg
Start: 257 - June 1, 2001
Goal: 135 - May 12, 2002
Size 22/size 4
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07-10-2008, 11:53 AM
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The Radiant One
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate NY
Posts: 2,751
S/C/G: 250/142/135
Height: 5'2"
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That's sweet 
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07-10-2008, 12:05 PM
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Karen: La Cicciona
Join Date: May 2008
Location: NYC
Posts: 745
S/C/G: Sz 24-26 / Sz 12-14 / Sz 6-8
Height: 5' 4"
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Oooo good comment from your mans! He makes a good point -- even if a person is never heavy, few people keep looking like teenagers as they age. I'm 24 now, but my hope as I age is to just be active, relatively thin, and look damn good for whatever age I am at the time.
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07-10-2008, 12:19 PM
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Go Cubs Go!
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Arizona
Posts: 549
S/C/G: Too/Effing/Much!
Height: 5' 7"
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Awww... What a nice guy. And what a sweet thing to say. He is a keeper. 
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07-10-2008, 02:10 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Sunny Southern California
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Major kudos to your DH!! 
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07-10-2008, 02:17 PM
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Finding My Bliss
Join Date: May 2007
Location: California
Posts: 2,916
S/C/G: Fit & Fat!
Height: Tall & Strong, Baby!
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I have to admit I was steeling myself for a hurtful comment and I am so happy to see that it is the opposite!!!
He's awesome.
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"I do feel that spiritual progress does demand at some stage that we should cease to kill our fellow creatures for the satisfaction of our bodily wants." -Gandhi
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07-10-2008, 06:44 PM
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3 + years maintaining
Join Date: Sep 2006
Posts: 12,071
S/C/G: 287/120's
Height: 5 foot nuthin'
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Ohhhh. Sooooo. Sweeeet.
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07-10-2008, 06:51 PM
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Member
Join Date: Apr 2007
Posts: 46
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Circebee
Last night, my DH was being the good guy that he is and listening to my general griping about some of the physical "reminders" of my weight loss- some mildly stretched skin over my belly, dimples at my knees and elbows, etc. He gave me a long look and said, "Sweetie, you know that I think that you look amazing. But, you need to remember that the last time you were at this size, you were in your very early twenties. You wouldn't look like that now, even if you had NEVER gained any weight! You have an adult's body now."
Huh. Made me think about how realistic my expectations are. Fitness, weight control, health- yes, bring it on! Perfect abs and gravity defying boobs- maybe not at 36, and maybe that is OK. I obviously have one of the best guys out there as my best friend, and he loves how I look! I'm a little prouder of the current results of my journey today!
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Yes! but there is no reason why you can't look like you did in your teens! I'm 32 and back to a 28 jean and in better shape than when i was 17.
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07-10-2008, 06:52 PM
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Just keep breathing!
Join Date: May 2008
Location: North
Posts: 1,066
S/C/G: 175/152/138;127
Height: 5'4.25"
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Awwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!
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"..I think you need to stop following misery's lead.
Shine away. Shine away. Shine away.
Isn't it time you got over how fragile you are?
We're all waiting on your supernova, 'cause that's who you are.
And you've only begun to shine.."
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07-10-2008, 07:21 PM
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Yogasaurus
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: New England Gal
Posts: 183
S/C/G: 180/120/115
Height: 5' 5"
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Thanks, guys! I think he is pretty awesome myself. And, STi, there is one reason that I will never look like a teenager again- GRAVITY! Ha! I am in better condition than I was as a "sweet young thing", though. "Seasoned" me could kick my 17 year old self's butt. And wear her jeans!
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