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How do you get an accurate idea of what you look like?

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Old 12-13-2007, 12:31 PM   #1
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Default How do you get an accurate idea of what you look like?

Maybe I'm weird, but I find myself wondering what I look like to other people at my current weight. Yes, I do have a mirror, but when I look at myself I still see someone who has a long way to go. I can tell a difference, but I guess I still basically see myself the same. I even have recent pictures to look at, but I only see the work that still needs to be done. I find myself looking at others and wondering is that what I look like or is that what I look like to others. I get lots of people telling me I look so great. Of course I look great to them now compared to what I started out like, but is it really what I want to look like? So, I was wondering if anyone has this problem? AND, how do you get an accurate picture in your head of how you REALLY look to other people?
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Old 12-13-2007, 12:35 PM   #2
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The best way to do so is compare pictures of yourself at different stages. People are seeing the difference in you even if you can't see it yourself.
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Old 12-13-2007, 12:40 PM   #3
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I wish I knew! When I was losing I was constantly trying to figure out how much bigger or smaller I was than other people -- I literally had no idea.

Sometimes when I'm shopping I look at people who are picking out the same size clothing as me to try to figure out what size I am. It's not the best tool, but it's something!
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Old 12-13-2007, 12:59 PM   #4
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Oh how I wish I knew. I am constantly asking my daughters, do I look like this one or that one? Am I thinner or heavier then so and so?

I wish I had a body twin. One that I can look at in the flesh. The mirror just doesn't cut it for me. I don't know if I will ever get to the point where I see an accurate picture of myself. I didn't have one before the weight loss, I don't have one now.

Not too helpful. I'm sorry. But I can certainly relate.
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Old 12-13-2007, 01:02 PM   #5
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At the gym I have been comparing myself to others to see what I look like.

I find my self constantly thinking that they are prettier or skinnier, or more toned.

So I have been making other comparsions lately like, I have better cardio, or I can jump higher. I also have found myself saying, wow shes in great shape or look at her go! some gals are really working out hard. And it is awesome to see.

I have also been thinking that size doesn't matter. the better you eat and the more you workout the healthier you look no matter what your size.
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Old 12-13-2007, 01:04 PM   #6
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Wow this struck a cord with me this post, this is something that I have struggled with since embarking on this weight loss journey. Now at the point of losing 80+ pounds I still have difficulty in seeing myself as smaller. I know the image in the mirror shows different and obviously clothing is smaller but in my head I still have the old image in my head of the 300lb self.

My DH tells me how much different I am in body shape but my minds image as has yet to catch up with the real new me.

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Old 12-13-2007, 01:42 PM   #7
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Oh, I KNOW I'm smaller. But I just can't tell "how" small I am. I can't tell how close to "normal" or "average" I am. Or how I compare to others. Others that I think are thin and average.
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Old 12-13-2007, 01:58 PM   #8
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Sometimes I try to quickly walk by the mirror and look briefly as though I'm passing a stranger, lol...doesn't work for me though. Weird as it sounds, I have no idea what I look like. I look at pics, but even they are unbelievable to me; I always think "this was taken on a GOOD day...I don't look like that". Or "I must have been bloated that day...I wasn't that big"..it's crazy.
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Old 12-13-2007, 01:59 PM   #9
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Oh goodness...this is for AFTER weight loss...I'm sorry.
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Old 12-13-2007, 02:18 PM   #10
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This hit home for me too. For a long time I have said that I wish I could put my body on a stranger so I could see how I look through other people's eyes.

Pictures help but really, I guess I'll never know.
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Old 12-13-2007, 03:25 PM   #11
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Oh goodness...this is for AFTER weight loss...I'm sorry.
I'm not at my goal either (I think that's what you mean), but this is an issue about body image that I am dealing with after the weight that I've already lost. So, no worries, I don't think anyone minds us posting here, at least I hope not.

BTW, today I asked my husband while we were at Wal-Mart to point someone out to me that was about my size. I'll admit that I was terrified that he would point someone out and that I would be disappointed when I saw the actual size that I am. But he pointed someone out and and I was pleasantly surprised! Of course it's still hard for me to think I look that way, but it was good to see even if just for a moment.
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Old 12-13-2007, 03:30 PM   #12
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Oh goodness...this is for AFTER weight loss...I'm sorry.
I would even say during weightloss Cassie!!! Why not post if you can relate even though you haven't reached goal.

I find that when i'm in the gym with a sea full of people, if I look in the mirror I can get a somewhat precise image of what I look like. The huge "cardio room" in my gym (treadmills, ellitpicals, crosstrainers) has 3 walls of mirrors and when I use the ellitpicals which are about 2 rows away from the main wall which is a huge mirror that spans the length of the room I see how much smaller i've gotten. Once when scoping out for newbies I looked straight ahead of myself into the huge mirror that spans the room's length and said, "oh I've never seen her before", go figure it was me !

However, if i look in the mirror at home up close, I still see my former self.
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Old 12-13-2007, 08:17 PM   #13
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Does anyone sneek peaks at what sizes other women are carrying around in the store? I do -- and at the stores where the sizes are already separated -- I always check the women out who are browsing in my size. I'm usually surprised -- I remember one lady saying, "I need a 12 in this dress" and I was like she's way too small to be a 12 (like I am in dresses).
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Old 12-14-2007, 04:50 AM   #14
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Not sure where I am at but I get tons of compliments so I know others think I look great. Some of it is the confidence I have now - my skin looks incredible - things like that. I feel huge and I have a long way to go but I think I am within what the average American is now _ I see fat when I look in a mirror though and even when I reach goal I'm afraid that will be true.
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Old 12-14-2007, 05:47 AM   #15
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Cassie, this thread and this forum are for everyone, so please keep posting.

The only way I get a sense of my actual size is by looking at photos. I always look much, much smaller in a photograph than I see when I look in a mirror. It's crazy and I know it, but I can pull on a pair of size 4 pants and look in the mirror and think: chunky. The whole time my rational brain is telling me that I'm not fat but my eyes are telling me that I am.

For some reason, when I look at myself in a photo, I see what everyone else apparently sees. It's the same when we're large, I think, because a lot of us have a wake-up call when we see ourselves in a photo and realize that we're really much larger than we see in the mirror. What's that they say: pictures don't lie? Very true in my case!
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