Up at 5 am today. Early morning conference call that just finished. I am regrouping on my eating and decluttering. A good day to start my lists
I want to share from a book that I have been reading. It's called "50 ways to soothe yourself without food". An oldie but goodie book that I like to read when I want to start to look for a "lover in all the wrong places".
Susan Albers states the following. "Practice is your best life preserver." It is important to practice self-soothing techniques before you need them. You can't expect to put them in practice in the middle of a very strong urge, unless you have done some preliminary practicing. If you wait until you need them, it will be like trying to learn how to swim while you are drowning. You need to learn how to become a strong swimmer to deal with a huge wave of emotion. This might feel uncomfortable at first. But you want to get good at doing them so that by the time you need to use them, they will be like second nature."
I wanted to share this because that is what the Beck cards are doing for me. Practicing the new cognitive thoughts are helping me to come up against these uncomfortable feelings that want to be soothed with food. I am learning that I can be aware of that feeling to automatically hoard, eat or whatever. I am learning
to listen to my internal experience without judging it and making a decision that would take me toward whatever my goal is for the day. If I let my feelings and random thoughts rule me, I would never act on my values.
So I made my green tea, had my egg white omelet. Started Laundry, I have to leave for office at noon.
So it is enough.
I decided that I like the name "DOBEE"
for this little guy
as he helps me see that action counts....every small step I take toward my goals/values (toward self and home)...counts
. Every Decision and Action.
I also acknowledge my humanity, that mucks it up. Yesterday my husband said he would clean out the storage cabinets and he was making progress. He told me that he was going to throw out a sterno stainless steel serving piece that he got from his stepfather's wife who does not like us. I said "NO!" We might need it for a graduation party or get together. He said We have had 2 graduations and several parties and have never used it. Then he asked me what the heck did I want him to do? Purge and clean or keep the clutter? I took a step back and realized I was thinking from an old mindset. Is that decision/thought going to take me toward my goal.... Regroup......pull the card "It's not about me" and let it go. I get in my own way sometimes. I don't think I am alone in this:
Hope you have some of these today