Beck Diet For Life/Solution – February 2010 – Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach

FutureFitChick · 02-07-2010, 12:55 PM

Coaches/Buddies, since I started using my GoWear Fit, there have been no days where I have tracked my food and my weight seemed like a mystery to me. Well, yesterday I had a major case of the lazies and used my self as a human garbage disposal. And today, my scale reflected an unexpected loss. I’m confused but am feeling confident as I am moving forward. I have lots of work to do today, but did some preparation work in the kitchen and meal planning for the day that made me feel really good. I’m still overly tired, but maybe I’ll try and get outside at mid-day and walk the dogs or something to get my blood pumping.

Today’s Essentials:
Weigh-in: -.5 lbs.
Read Advantage Cards two times: once
Read Response Cards at least two times: once
Ate slowly, sitting down, noticing every bite: yes
Gave myself credit when I engaged in helpful eating behaviors: yes
Did spontaneous exercise: no
Did planned exercise: none plannned
Wrote out food plan for tomorrow: yes
Tracked today’s food: yes

BeverlyJoy, what a great and disciplined idea to put your tasting needs on a plate and required yourself to sit down. Thanks for sharing that. I can totally empathize with the whining about your no choice plans. Sorry you’re in pain with your ankle. Interesting strategy with the cornbread.

BillBlueEyes, thanks for the reality check that “better choices” and “food plans” are not equal. Hope you feel better soon.

ChinaMaine, have you come up with any ideas to help remind yourself to give credit to you during the day? Your snowshoeing adventures sound wonderful. If you are trying to track distance ever, MapMyFitness.com allows you to do that fairly easily.

CeeJay, travel is really hard, but you did great this last trip. Keep it up! Do you eat your yogurt with pumpkin & walnuts all cold? Is it canned pumpkin?

GardenerJoy, great job planning for your party.

KidsLibraryLady, hope everyone in your house is feeling better soon!

Maryblu, loved your cheery and realistic insights that you’ll always like food. That is really wonderful.

Midlifecrisis57, fantastic insights from your experiences eating off plan. I mean really fantastic. You have an intuitive gift, my dear! Great spontaneous exercise in the shoveling. So glad you are at peace finally after being off plan. OOOOOHHHHH! 2 grand pianos. Wow… Someday, maybe we’ll have one…

Nuxmaga, hugs to you! It sounds like you’ve had a rough several days. Sometimes it is really hard to get out of your head, isn’t it?! It is great that your cafeteria posts calories right next to the item. Hope the dogsled teams get to work for you soon!

Onebyone, congratulations on 263!

Seadwaters, great job stopping yourself in your tracks with the sorbet.

Shepherdess, awesome for a supporting husband. That is great. Just think of the chilly house as extra calories you’ll burn by your body working harder to keep you warm.

Beverlyjoy · 02-07-2010, 01:05 PM

I am back for a few personals..

shepardess - like you said - a few crackers doesn't ruin a whole day. But, because of Beck I think we tend to think about unplanned eating more. I don't do yoga but do love to meditate. Kudo's for DH being so support of the chocolate vs wine snack!

maryblu - Food will always be signal to me and not noise That is well said.

chinamarie - Kudos for snow shoeing! So many credits, too. GREAT! My recumbant bike is a stationary bike - it's a little different in style than the old kind of exercise bike. It's a bit of a different angle and it's suppose to be easier on the knees.

futurefitchick - Glad you feel like your moving forward. Many good credits...Kudos. Hooray for a scale surprise.

midlife - there does come 'peace with a plan and less obsessing. WOW...two grand piano's. Well, that's.....GRAND!

Billbe - Feel better soon. If you aren't eating - don't forget to drink and stay hydrated.

seadwaters - glad you posted...I totally understand how 'one bite' can trigger so much eating. Forgive yourself and hop back on your plan - it's a new day.

gardenjoy - it's amazing how Super Bowl parties have gotten a bit healthier over the years. Have fun and enjoy your chili.

nuxmaga - you take care and be safe!!! Leaving half a sandwich is amazing credit!!

Ceejay- great, yummy food plan. Lots of credits. Kudos and carry on.

Kidslibrarylady - sorry about your little one being sick and all. take care now.

Have a good day, folks.

onebyone · 02-07-2010, 11:08 PM

Evening Coaches

I went to the school to work in the ceramic room and when I left, after being informed by front desk staff that the school would be closing in 15 min and promising I'd be out ASAP she nodded and said no problem and then I was done and I rushed downstairs and into a darkened front lobby where I tripped the motion detector and set off all the alarms!

She'd left forgetting I was there and had armed the school alarms.

So, after panicking and finding the one phone available to me in the school (I *gasp* do not own a cell phone) I called information to get the number of Pat who works in the office, called her, and got her machine and left a panicky message. Then I walked up to the alarm and tried entering my security code from the summer...and it worked. The alarm stopped. Thank god for the school's security slackness. So I then called Jeff the head of the school and told him my predicament including that I feared I couldn't leave cause I had no keys to lock up and he told me it locks automatically so I just had to arm the alarm and leave. I put my old code in again, it worked, and I left feeling really rattled.

Earlier in the ceramic room I found myself reaching into my bag and removing a tiny mandarin orange, peeling it, and popping it whole into my mouth like candy. This was right before I buckled down to getting some test glazes done. I think it was an avoidance tactic. It didn't buy me much time if that's what it was. It was completely non-thinking/unconscious this orange eating episode until I was popping it in. O well, but curious.

I, coaches, have not gathered a single thing for the CP people tomorrow. NOTHING. No de-cluttering was done, no clean up, no sorting, no bagging or boxing. Nothing. Talk about resistance and procrastination. Wow. ENORMOUS procrastination. I am now aiming for ONE bag of stuff to be done before 8am.

One bag seems like all I can manage. This makes me feel very

I don't feel like I had a very successful day but I guess I did. I guess. The whole not getting things sorted and packed for the CP pick up tomorrow has coloured my whole mood. I have to give them something or it will really depress me.

AnneWonders · 02-07-2010, 11:16 PM

Coaches/Buddies After finally seeming to get my act together, I got serious, made a goal to give myself a 10 lb gift for my birthday, and put together a serious plan. Then backlash! Oh my! The diet equivalent of falling on my face. My excuse? Superbowl. How freaking stupid! I fell for this line of BS from my own self?? Really????

Ah, well, the plan remains.

I'm having my (relatively minor) surgery a week from tomorrow, and I'm going to start a concentrated period of effort a couple days after that. This is the day after a major bike race I got talked into doing, because, you know, that's just how I roll. Halfway nothing.

I am again sort of distracted. Life intervenes, does it not? I continue.

Anne

maryblu · 02-08-2010, 02:06 AM

Just a quick note of thanks to all my Beck coaches. I appreciate/learn from you all so much.

I never feel pressured to do a complete personals list. Since you all say so much of meaning to me at different times, I am happy to be able to acknowledge and respond to you as I am inclined. I do marvel at those of you who can manage to do the whole list, however; it is way cool, and it is meaningful, for sure!

1X1, thanks for sharing yourself so completely and especially for the decluttering thread.

ChinaMaine, thanks for the advice on snowshoes, and especially for the connection to remote lake living in the same climate zone. You *so *seriously feel my joy and my pain!

Midlifecrisis, I can only echo the astonishment of other Beckies at *2*grand*pianos! And, why, btw, is the plural of piano "pianos" rather than "pianoes"??? hummmmm??

FutureFitChick, lovingly known to me as FFC, I know you will use the scale as a tool, rather than an instant read on your day's activity as it relates to weight loss. I know that maintainers who weight daily are more successful, but for those of us on a long weight loss journey, it is important to remember that consistently following Beck will give us the result we want, and that we don't succeed or "blow it" in one day. The scale is not an accurate, instant measure of our efforts based on one day's reading. I hope I made sense with this train of thought.

wndranne, you go, girl! If you say you are giving yourself a 10# birthday present, then I know you will find a way to wrap that succa, too.

Shepherdess, I am so busy picturing you in your birthing cabin..it is a cross between my memories of what I pictured reading Heidi and Broke Back Mountain.....*laffin"...and feeling a little sheepish Oh, I know..I'm baaaaaadddd.

BillBlueEyes · 02-08-2010, 05:09 AM

Diet Coaches/Buddies - Congratulations to the fans of the New Orleans Saints everywhere. Thanks for the so many well wishes. Never left the house yesterday. Feeling a little better this morning so I'll go in and see how that goes - can always come home. I do have about two hours of work that I gotta do so I'm not blocking the rest of my team. Exercise zero; Ouch. Food was below plan. I make a lousy sick person; feel sympathy for my DW.

Felt a silly elation when the scale showed a two pound drop this morning - as if dehydration was a good thing. It does require me to accept its return without panic.

maryblu - I hear ya that "Food will always be signal to me and not noise" - but I'm not ready to believe it yet. I still dream the day will come when it's just food - it's not about me.

onebyone - Screaming Kudos for keeping your cool during that blaring alarm situation. Neat that you resolved the whole situation without a major visit from school security - or worse, the town's fire department with three ladder trucks.

Anne (wndranne) - Yay for yet-another-major-bike-race; you are living your life. Sending supportive thoughts that your recovery next week is also only minor.

ChinaMaine - Yay for the fearless explorer breaking new trails in virgin snow.

Shepherdess - LOL at "one hand that didn’t get the memo." That Inter-organ communication stuff is a challenge.

FutureFitChick - Ouch for overly tired - hope today is a more rested day. Welcome to the two-faux-pounds-lost club.

midlifecrisis57 - Congrats for surviving the sleepover with the IL's. hmmm... "2 grand pianos" - I have a friend who manages to play both hands on the same piano, LOL, sounds fine to me.

Beverlyjoy - Yay for healthy Super Bowl snacks. Ouch for your foot - hope the hurting goes away.

Readers -

Quote:

tip!
If you finish what's on your plate, and feel disappointed that you can't eat more, remind yourself that you'll be able to eat again soon. You might say, It's okay, I'm going to have a snack in three hours - an apple and a cheese stick ... I can wait. Then immediately read your Advantages Response Card to remind yourself why it's worth putting up with this momentary disappointment.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 159.

seadwaters · 02-08-2010, 05:26 AM

Hi Coaches
Here's me being accountable. Today was weigh-in day and I have lost another 1.2kg so that is pleasing (in spite of the sorbet!). Today was physical therapy again (missed on Friday because of a fairly wild storm) and it is fairly strenuous - takes a few days to get over. But worth it I think. It will be nice when some of the benefits come.

Credit today for

Reading my cards
Checking in
Measuring my food and eating on plan
Reading my Beck book
Eating mindfully most of the time
Eating sitting down (except when I 'noticed' myself eating a slice of cheese as I made a salad)
Weighing myself
Breaking 100 kilos!
Found myself stuck without food and didn't panic - waited until I got home
Exercising and taking opportunities for 'spontaneous' exercise (couldn't find a parking spot )

Not so good

Haven't made a food plan for tomorrow yet
Haven't made a schedule - both of these are difficult because I am on holidays and it doesn't seem so urgent - can make my food plan in the morning - but I must do it

Working on:

Everything
Staying accountable
Developing structure - especially for when I am back at work next week

Thanks Beckies - have a good day

ChinaMaine · 02-08-2010, 08:21 AM

WI-no weigh-in. Read my cards, made a plan. Food – on-plan; Exercise – off-plan.

Felt tired yesterday, so decided to take a rest day. Then I went to bed for a 3 hour nap. Oh well… BTW – It’s scary how the ads on 3 fat chicks seem to keep track of keywords in my posts. Today I have a huge celiac disease genetic test ad.

The Good

- Throughout the day, I identified satisfaction vs fullness while eating, and I stopped eating when satisfied – credit!
- Throughout the day, I identified hunger vs non-hunger before I ate – yep!
- Tolerated non-hunger without eating – yep!
- Eat mindfully, enjoying every bite – credit!
- Used resistance techniques – yeah!
- I posted here – yes!
- Give credit throughout the day for every positive eating behavior – credit!
- Read the pink book – credit!

The Bad, and the Ugly

- Don’t think there’s any thing to post here…

shepherdess Kudos for taking it easy, and for skipping bread at dinner to make up for the behavior your errant hand.

Future Fit Chick Although you used yourself as a human garbage disposal it looks like you’ve gotten right back on a good path. Kudos!

one by one What a crazy experience at school, but it sounds like it ended up okay. Good luck with decluttering this morning.

Anne Yay for coming up with a plan and a timeline!

Bill Hope you keep feeling better, in spite of being in the office…

seadwaters

for passing the 100 kg milestone! I’m glad the physical therapy is helpful. And lots of credits!

Beverlyjoy · 02-08-2010, 10:04 AM

Hi coaches/buddies!

Yesterday went well.

Everything was planned for the Super Bowl gathering. DH went to the store to get something and came home with Dove Dark Chocolate & olives and artichokes from the olive bar. Well as soon as I saw them - I kind of panicked.

I wanted some too. I took a few deep breaths and said that eating those things were not an emergency. That I could have some of those things planned later in the week. MAJOR CREDIT.

Our friends came with brq smoked beef for sandwiches and popcorn for the microwave (they said they weren't bringing anything) Again I panicked. I wanted that smoked beef ALOT. I did pass it up

- & she said she'd leave me some for another day (but, she took it home later - I was kind of disappointed - but, it's really OK!) Last of all - my friend made her popcorn and plopped a small bowl of it in my lap. I did eat some of it and counted it in my daily total of calories. I was still within my calorie range. I am not worrying about a cup of popcorn, really. All in all - I am giving myself credit for a good evening!

I am grateful.

I am at the part of the book where you leave food on your plate - so I took two pieces of corn bread for dinner and only ate one. YAY

I took about 25 minutes to eat my chili and cornbread CREDIT -

while other folks were back for more quickly. It's amazing.

Today is working in my office on things.

Credits for yesterday:
passing up lots of temptations
giving myself credit - most of the time
making my plan ahead
sticking to it with one exception
reading beck book
arc no choice cards - 1
rc cards 1
fork down between bites and no seconds
mindful eating/ really talking to my tastebuds - almost all of the time
lots of water
left food on my plate
used anti craving techniques

working on
exercise
spontaneous exercise
feeling fullness (just starting to think about this)

china marie - oo - a three hour nap - you must have really needed it. - Throughout the day, I identified satisfaction vs fullness while eating, and I stopped eating when satisfied – credit!
- Throughout the day, I identified hunger vs non-hunger before I ate – yep!
- Tolerated non-hunger without eating – yep! Wow - I think those are MAJOR credits. Good for you.

seadwaters - losing more weight - that is wonderful! Good credits too! I am glad the pt is working out and feels worth the effort and being so strenuous.

Billiebe - I am glad you are feeling a bit better. I understand about feeling happy about seeing the scale go down - even if it's sick weight loss. You take care now.

maryblu - don't worry about who you do or don't reply - I think we do as much as we can and how we can. I know there will be days when I can't do personals. That's life.

wndranne -I think a ten pound loss for your birthday is a lovely present. Super Bowl is gone - hop back on your plan and carry on.

onebyone - goodness the alarm fiasco must have been awful. I think one bag is better than none. Keep working at it. Would you be as hard on others as you are on yourself?

I hope you all have a great day! BTW - thanks to all you Beck folks that have been so kind and helpful as a coach and food buddy. This makes a huge difference.

FutureFitChick · 02-08-2010, 05:01 PM

Coaches/Buddies, yesterday went really well for staying under my calorie target, but my plan did get modified a bit when my husband requested SuperBowl guacamole. But, I stuck to a single serving of tortilla chips, which while not one of the things I consider a danger food, rarely am I disciplined enough to do so. I grocery shopped too and did not bring home any item I did not plan for. My workout this morning went well and although I had several deadlines today, managed to get my tasks done before they were due. Off to plan my food for tomorrow…

Today’s Essentials:
Weigh-in: +1.0 lbs.
Read Advantage Cards two times: once
Read Response Cards at least two times: once
Ate slowly, sitting down, noticing every bite: ate sitting down, but worked through snack and lunch
Gave myself credit when I engaged in helpful eating behaviors: yes
Did spontaneous exercise: no
Did planned exercise: yes
Wrote out food plan for tomorrow: not yet
Tracked today’s food: yes

BeverlyJoy, terrific job on putting the unplanned food into your plan. Great job! Really fantastic job for being the slowest eater at your table. That is major for you!

BillBlueEyes, bummer about the exercise, but maybe you need the extra rest. Glad you are on the upswing of the illness.

ChinaMaine, way to go on giving yourself credit! I’ve been looking for that post!!

Maryblu, thanks so much for reminding me to put the scale in context…

Onebyone, oh goodness! What a high tech school building you have. Great thinking on your toes. I bet that was enhanced by your healthy diet. Too bad about the unthinking orange eating, but better than a vending machine candy bar! Here’s to hoping you cheer up soon!

Seadwaters, fabulous on the 100 kg! That is terrific. Cheers to you as you progress on your journey.

Wndranne, what a cool approach to just setting out to give yourself a 10 # gift. You are powerful!

onebyone · 02-08-2010, 11:59 PM

Evening Coaches

So I checked in at the school today to see if all is well after setting off the alarms yesterday. Pat, who I called but who didn't get the message at all, said the security company sent someone out to find the doors locked and the alarm set. All due to me but it cost the school $35 for that. Apparently two weeks ago a student got locked in and set off the alarm and they called 911 and the cops gave them a hard time so I was lucky to a)be on staff and b) be on staff with a security code. PHEW.

After stopping by there I went to visit my mom and we went out to the mall.
My mother's memory being what it is I deserve umpteen CREDITS for refusing her offer to buy me candy and chocolate, oh at least 20x while we were in the dollar store. My mom has alzheimer's but is really functional and physically very strong but boy. Sometimes she can really repeat stuff and buying me candy was something she kept asking me. I almost got irritated but didn't; she's only being kind afterall. I need to take it-this is the way things are now, as in I don't take candy home with me ever and my mother repeats things. 99.9% of the time these two elements never come together.

I started doing something again that I stopped doing a while back. I step on the scale before bed curious to see how much I drop by morning. It seems to be on average 2lbs. Why this is of interest to me I am not totally sure, except it reinforces the ephemeral nature of the scale and of bodies and of how much they fluctuate, while I do nothing but sleep, and in this way it helps me detach from that number on the scale. Dr. Beck says weigh once, everyday, so I am not following Beck on this

Should I? What do you guys think?

Other than this I walked a lot, avoided sugar, sedentariness and seconds therefore on plan all the way. credit. I am also waiting to eat until I am definitely hungry, very very clearly hungry, these days and that too is working for me.

Have a good restful rejuvenating night's sleep coaches.

PS CREDIT to me for getting one bag of clothes donated to the CP pick up people this morning. I got rid of some stuff that I was truly happy to see go byebye. CP left me note with a # to call for pickup anytime of dishes, linens, books, small furniture &etc. I plan on using this #

BillBlueEyes · 02-09-2010, 05:56 AM

Diet Coaches/Buddies - Yay for slow recovery, even when it's slower than I want. Ate reasonably at a working lunch with food brought it - rather pleasantly surprised that 3/4 of the people chose the boxed salad with chicken on top. Also couldn't help but noticing that the largest person and the thinnest person were deeply into the chips and cookies. No insights; it was just one sample of one meeting.

Still no exercise; Ouch. But did get to a grocery store so I have some veggies to make for my lunch today; CREDIT moi.

onebyone - Monster Kudos for remembering patience when talking to Alzheimer's; that's a tough one for me to even think about when reading your post. And Kudos for avoiding the three evil S's, "sugar, sedentariness and seconds." You sound like you're doing well.

ChinaMaine - Yay for becoming more aware that Big Brother is here and now. The point was driven home to me when I wrote of my trip to Chi-na and started getting Mandarin adds from Google, LOL.

FutureFitChick - May I salute you for getting tasks done before their deadline. I've read that there are people who can do that, LOL. And Kudos for continuing with your exercise.

Beverlyjoy - Standing down olives and artichokes is strong stuff; olives sneak past my filters by whispering in my ear that olive oil is good for my heart, LOL.

seadwaters - Yay for putting out for your physical therapy - keep the faith. And Kudos for eating sitting down all day; that one also takes practice, but at least it doesn't leave you sore, LOL.

Readers -

Quote:

day 18
Change Your Definition of Full

Break the Connection

Do the following:

For a month, after each meal, ask yourself, Could I easily go for a moderate to brisk walk? If you're not sure whether or not you can, try it.
If the answer is yes, tell yourself, Good, then I'm experiencing normal fullness.
If the answer is no, tell yourself, This is what overfullness feels like ... It's not normal ... At my next meal, I'm going to make sure I don't put too much food on my plate.

. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 159.

seadwaters · 02-09-2010, 06:08 AM

Tuesday went well - even though I hobbled around a bit after yesterday's exertions with physical therapy

Credit today for

reading my advantages cards - I added one - Can't wait to be able to do up my shoe laces and not faint
making a food plan and sticking to it
making an agenda for the day and achieving what I wanted to
reading my Beck book
weighing myself
sitting down to eat usually

Not so good

eating without thinking
feeling hungry - but a good opportunity to practice resistance and distraction fairly successfully

Working on:

Being on holiday - not too good without work to structure my life

I have to say I was really impressed by Beverlyjoy's excellent resistance in the face or remarkable challenges - something to work towards!

Hope everyone continues to have a good week and that BillBE continues to improve

ChinaMaine · 02-09-2010, 07:20 AM

WI-no weigh-in. Read my cards, made a plan. Food – on-plan; Exercise – off-plan. Still tired so took another rest day

The Good

- Throughout the day, I identified satisfaction vs fullness while eating, and I stopped eating when satisfied – credit!
- Throughout the day, I identified hunger vs non-hunger before I ate – yep!
- Tolerated non-hunger without eating – yep!
- Eat mindfully, enjoying every bite – credit!
- Used resistance techniques – yeah!
- I posted here – yes!
- Give credit throughout the day for every positive eating behavior – pretty well, partial credit!
- Read the pink book – credit!

The Bad, and the Ugly

- No spontaneous exercise

Beverlyjoy Great job on the super bowl party! And Kudos for feeling fullness…

one by one Kudos for being a good, patient daughter – and for waiting until you are very, very hungry to eat.

Future Fit Chick Sounds like you had a terrific super bowl experience – congrats!

Bill Hope you keep feeling better, and more quickly.

AnneWonders · 02-09-2010, 10:00 AM

Coaches/Buddies I thought yesterday was on plan, and lo and behold, not so. Oh well. But a big eye opener that I've been eating off plan long enough that off plan now looks on plan. Time for adjustment.

Have to take DD in for a blood draw. This will not be fun. Four-year-olds and needles are not a good combo.

Have a good day everyone.

Anne