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12-04-2006, 08:51 AM
This is my biggest problem after I get the kids to bed and sit down to relax and have some me time my cravings start full blast. I need to find something to fill in that time. I'm looking for some input as to how to stop this from happening. Any ideas???

12-04-2006, 09:10 AM
Yes, this is a huge problem. It's the end of the day, you're finally finished with everything and you wanna chill and relax and the first thint that pops into our heads is "Hey, I deserve a little treat."

Drink hot flavored teas with splenda, crochet or knit or sew or do needlepoint, come on the computer and visit 3FC, straighten up the house, exercise, dance, drink water, write in a journal, read, take a bubble bath, give yourself a manicure/pedicure. Eventually the cravings will stop as your body gets used to doing without that "nightime snack".

12-04-2006, 10:10 AM
last night at around 9 I was starving, so I cut an apple into wedges and actually had trouble getting throught it. I also like to eat oranges and clemintiens at night because along with eating them, you have to peel them and it keeps you busy.
Good luck

12-04-2006, 11:33 AM
I have that same problem. I'm so used to it, it's almost an automatic action. I like that thing about the clementines. Keep busy. I took up doing simple crossword puzzles. My hands are busy and so is my mind. If I can get food out of my mind, most of the battle is won.

12-04-2006, 11:37 AM
This was exactly my biggest problem!! I would sit down every night and eat a container of Ben and Jerry's. Every single night! Even worse was if I bought a regular carton of ice cream, I would polish the whole thing off in 2-3 nights. The hardest part is breaking the habit, but once you do, it gets easier. I try to save some of my busy work now for nighttime, like folding laundry. Sometimes I even wait and do my exercising at night. It takes away my desire to have ice cream when I've just worked out.

12-04-2006, 11:50 AM
I have the exact same problem. Even worse, my husband and I share the problem... so we don't really help each other. Lately I have been relaxing with a nice cup of coffee with flavored creamer or a cup of peppermint tea. I know it's not the same, but it's soooooo relaxing to me.

[QUOTE=mthrgoos68;1488518]I would sit down every night and eat a container of Ben and Jerry's. Every single night!QUOTE] I had to laugh when I read this because my husband and I used to sit down with Ben & Jerrys every night (we each had our own). The funny part though is that one time I was talking to a friend about Ben & Jerrys ice cream and I mentioned that I liked it because the containers were personal size (like I said, my husband and I would each sit down with our own). My friend then piped up and said, those are called pints. What an eye opener!!!! What I call personal size, other people call pints. Yikes!

12-04-2006, 12:26 PM
Hi there, Colleen!

This became so much of a problem for me that I actually made signs and posted them all over the house which say, "Cheryl! You did GREAT on your diet and exercise today! :) DON'T BLOW IT BY EATING STUFF YOU DON'T NEED!"

Also, awhile ago I watched an Oprah show, and she mentioned that she eats NOTHING after 7:30PM- "...not even a grape!" The reason for that is that her trainer, Bob Greene, had told her that the body begins to slow itself down around then. If you eat, the body doesn't use the food...it STORES IT! Yup! STORES it! And we all know WHERE our bodies have STORED much of what we have been eating as we "relax" ourselves with food!!! After hearing that, it made SO MUCH sense to me that I vowed to follow her pattern. I have a cup of tea or as much water as I want, but NO FOOD after 7:30PM!

When I need to relax after a busy day I do whatever I want (read, watch TV, talk on the phone, exercise AS I watch TV, etc.), but I DON'T eat..."not even a grape!"

Believe me, it is MUCH easier because you don't have to CHOOSE what is good to eat and then get sabotaged by all kinds of stuff that just seems to jump in your hand without warning! You just DON'T eat anything.

Bob Greene explained that the grumbling sounds that you will hear during the first few weeks are your body getting used to the new plan AND your body burning fat. I don't really completely understand this process, but I CAN tell you that it definitely is one way to feel better about all the effort that you put in each day! I have kept off the fifty pounds that I have lost, and I know that this one thing has been a big part of me being able to control that.

If the grumblies get bad, just drink more water! You may be up at night more often to pee, but water is good for you, and I figure that getting up at night gives me some extra exercise, right? Also, Brushing your teeth after 7:30PM helps say, "Body! We're done eating! Get over it!"

Good luck! Hope some of this helps!


12-04-2006, 01:21 PM
We (my husband and I) didn't eat Ben and Jerry's - our drug of choice, oh I mean ice cream was Haagen Daz'.

12-04-2006, 01:56 PM
I agree....night time is the WORST for me. I've ruined many a great day, doubling my calories in front of the TV.

Popcorn with white cheddar seasoning is my saviour when I'm on plan.


12-04-2006, 02:08 PM
These are all great thanks for the input I really like putting up the signs may be a picture on the fridge or a mirror ..Tea sounds really good to it suppresses my appetite so maybe I'll just have to stop and get decaffeinated of course.

12-04-2006, 02:12 PM
It's the invasion of the 5 footers!!!! :lol:


12-04-2006, 03:31 PM
That sounds like it could be a joke in the making. Three 5 footers log onto a weightloss website and...........

12-04-2006, 03:53 PM

BEWARE.....we're sneaky!!!!!


12-04-2006, 03:56 PM
Sorry to break the 5 foot roll, but I wanted to add that I brush AND floss AND use mouth wash after I finish eating because then there's no way that I want to have to go through all of that again...

Wanted to add that Sundays are typically REALLY hard for me because I just want to eat and eat and eat... so yesterday I planned out 3 delicious meals so I would have something to look forward to and sure enough it worked! Didn't snack at all, ended up subbing a TB of PB for the turkey burger I was going to do and it was even less cals... YAAAY!

12-04-2006, 09:33 PM
Thanks for the great ideas..Man I am having a bad just keep thinking about the oatmeal rasin cookies, chocolate cream pie & cheese cake in the kitchen. I just keep repeting to myself "This will not taste as good as being thin will feel"
The kids are in bed and I want to snack!!!

12-04-2006, 09:47 PM
Umm I hate to be blunt, but ummm why the heck do you have oatmeal raisin cookies, chocolate cream pie and cheese cake in the kitchen? Why have temptation there? It's too difficult. Why make a difficult task (losing weight and sticking to it) more difficult then it needs to be? When I started this I had to rid my house of all junk and non-healthy foods and stocked it with only healthy things. This way if I went on a "binge" I was safe. I mean how much damage can 3 cucumbers do. Did I feel guilty, nope. My 3 kids and hubby don't need the garbage either. My husband is down 20 pounds without even trying. I told them that if they need to eat something fattening do it outside of the house. I hope you don't think I'm being mean. I promise you my intentions are only to help you. I want you to lose weight just like I want me to lose weight. Since I've started (finally) losing weight I've had this overwhelming urge to help people and see them succeed. Please don't take offense. BUT RID YOUR HOUSE OF ALL TOXIC FOODS!! :hug:

P.S. Please don't hate me. :smug:

12-04-2006, 09:57 PM
I bought the cookies from a bake sale at church because they are my ds favorite. The pie & cake are left from my oldest sons sleepover this weekend. I don't usually have all this crap in the house but it just so happens that I do right now. I will however bring the cake and pie to work tomorrow and that will get rid of that. I can withstand the cookies. I have been really craving something sweet all afternoon. It has been really bad all day and tonight is even worse.

PS I don't hate you I love you for telling me like it is I need this to get back on track and loss these UNwanted pounds. THANKS

12-04-2006, 10:13 PM
You're sure you don't hate me?

12-04-2006, 10:20 PM
Yeah I'm sure sometimes we all need that kick in the butt

12-04-2006, 10:26 PM
Oh Thank G-d!!! :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

P.S. Please when it's my turn for a buttkicking promise me you'll kick me really, really hard, like with all you got. (I've got a big butt, so it will have to indeed me a BIG kick) :kickbutt:

12-04-2006, 10:45 PM
lol...I promise when it is your turn I'll kick hard.

12-04-2006, 10:54 PM
All right then. Good night. (And good luck) ;)

12-04-2006, 10:59 PM
Thanks and btw I have been so busy here that my craving has passed....hip hip hoooorraaaayyyy!!!!

12-04-2006, 11:26 PM
Awwwww! :hug:
That was too cute!


12-04-2006, 11:45 PM
I mean how much damage can 3 cucumbers do.

12-05-2006, 12:46 AM
I know it was mentioned earlier but I do find that doing some kind of crocheting or knitting or needlework works really well. It is impossible to eat & do something with your hands & it is relaxing. I crochet a lot - I taught myself with a kit from wal-mart & it doesn't take a lot of brainpower.

I like the brushing, flossing, mouth was idea - I think I'm going to start that!

12-05-2006, 09:01 AM
I know it was mentioned earlier but I do find that doing some kind of crocheting or knitting or needlework works really well. It is impossible to eat & do something with your hands & it is relaxing. I crochet a lot - I taught myself with a kit from wal-mart & it doesn't take a lot of brainpower.

Kit from Wally World hhhuummm..I think I may try that. I always thought it would be really hard to learn but I love the home made stuff and would really like a new blanket and I just found out last night that if I keep my hands and find on something else that my cravings pass.


12-05-2006, 09:25 AM
Yay!!!!! I'm so glad you got through last night's cravings. You really are strong!!!! I don't think I could have - I absolutely LOVE cheesecake. And chocolate cream pie. And oatmeal raisin cookies. But once those cravings pass...............ahhh, it's such a relief and it feels soooo good that you've resisited.

My kids all crochet, my mom taught them how. And funny enoough I've never learned, but I too would love to make a nice warm throw for my living room. Gotta look into that.

12-05-2006, 04:04 PM
Yeah, I'm really new at this (again! Ha!) but it's so awesome that you're recognizing your crave time! That's 90% of the battle. If you have room in your food plan, why not actually plan a little treat for that time? Back in the day I did ediets and most days I found I had "room" for a serving of frozen yogurt. Oh, but I didn't choose just any frozen yogurt. I chose Ben & Jerry's chocolate fudge brownie frozen yogurt—it totally satisfied my evening craving and I didn't have to flip out about messing up.

Of course, if it's NON-hungry cravings, yeah, totally finding a use for those hands seems to help. Also of course, I "fell off that wagon" after about 6 months so realize my advice might be spurious. :p

12-05-2006, 04:56 PM
Thanks for the input not sure yet as to what I'm gonna do but I am looking for something. It isn't like I'm really hungery at that time it is just that I have always had something around that time I think I might try some of those 100 calorie snacks that they have out now.

01-17-2007, 11:03 AM
I think any pint of ice cream (especially ben and jerrys) should have some kind of warning label on it -- not single serve, if you are on a diet stay away, etc. I like to pop a bag of microwave popcorn at night, because I have to eat something and it takes a while to eat it. My best defense -- go to bed -- we could all use a good night's sleep and if I find I just can't stay away from the food, I tuck myself into bed!! I also work from home and should be typing at night, so when I have a binge, I end up working until 2 a.m. because you can't eat and type -- so I try to remember how tired I get when I do this and how hard the next day is.

01-17-2007, 11:09 AM
Hi Lucy,

This was a big problem for me as I cared for my mother for years so it was difficult to have 'me' time - so food was a way of kicking back and letting off steam. Think it is hard to get out of and not sure how easy it is for you to get out of the house if you have young children. I took up lots of evening classes initially to just get me out of the house - and I went to the cinema a lot. If you can't go out regularly - maybe you can use the special time for yourself to prepare a really delicious healthy meal - that's a way of treating yourself but that doesn't jeopardise your goals. Or just have a soak in the bath with a glass of wine....Not feeling very inspired at the moment - will think about it!


01-17-2007, 11:46 AM
Thinking that I will pick up the knitting kit today after work and that should keep me busy at night so the next time a craving hits me at night I will be prepared!!!!

01-17-2007, 12:01 PM
another 5 footer here with one more suggestion. I drink a cup of Swiss Miss Diet Hot Cocoa each evening around 7:30 or 8:00--my previous start snacking time. It has 25cal. However, it satisfies my chocolate cravings and because it is hot I have to sip it so that I drink it slow enough to savor it. There have been nights that I have just gone to bed early to keep myself away from the kitchen. :D

01-17-2007, 12:14 PM
I had to relearn how to relax without cigarettes and now I have to relearn how to relax with out food. Hubby and I would tuck the girls into bed, then settle down with a big bowl for each of us of Movie Theater Butter popcorn and caffeine free Coke and watch our shows. One bag = one serving, right? :D

Now, I have sugar free jello with 2 tbsps of Lite Cool Whip or celery with 2 Tbsps of natural peanut butter. I try to drink water, but sometimes I splurge with a diet soda. Tried a new one last night...the brand is Polar..this one was diet Fudge Brownie...tastes like a Tootsie Roll! It helps that my hubby is doing this with me as we can help each other stay on track. I also find a lot of encouragement and motivation when I 'surf' around on 3FC.

Mrs Quadcrew
01-17-2007, 02:56 PM
I have a hot cup of tea in the evenings, and I add a teaspoon or so of benefiber to it. You can't tell it is in there, AND it helps you get that "full" feeling. Works like a charm for me - and there are some wonderful flavored herbal teas to pick from now days.

01-17-2007, 03:44 PM
I have a hot cup of tea in the evenings, and I add a teaspoon or so of benefiber to it. You can't tell it is in there, AND it helps you get that "full" feeling. Works like a charm for me - and there are some wonderful flavored herbal teas to pick from now days.

That a great idea!!! I will be using that one for sure...I am planning a trip to walmart for Friday hopfully the weather will be good and our roads a little clearer by then....I hate winter

01-17-2007, 10:15 PM
Hi Lucy -

See how many of us can relate? Night time is the WORST for my cravings. Mostly, they're not hunger, they're wanting to feel full and satisfied. Right now, I'm buying many flavors of herbal tea so I don't get bored, and I don't know about you, but staying away from the TV helps me. When I sit in front of the TV, I want to eat.

One of the snack foods I've used in the past for a crunch crave is sliced up celery and carrots--into little rounds. It feels a bit like crunching chips and I don't need to worry about the calories. More veggies -- that's healthy!

You can do it!!!! :carrot: