100 lb. Club - Desperate newbie!!!!

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11-19-2006, 08:05 PM
Hi everyone. I'm new here :o) and yes, desperate. I'm 33, 2 kids, single...and as of tonight...hold on....I weigh 277. I've always been the big girl. And, as many others I'm sure, have always gotten the 'such a pretty face' comment. My problem I know is emotional. I know HOW to lose weight, I've just chosen not to. Why you ask? Good question. Lazy? Not really. I stay busy with work and kids. Couch potato? No. I don't even watch TV that much, just 3 shows I must watch each week. I read instead...which is just as bad on my derrier.

So...what now? I'm heading in the direction of yet another 'get healthy' phase. They usually last a month or so. I reall really want to make this stick. I do WANT to be healthy, not just skinny, but healthy. I broke out my old WW stuff and decided to go that route. Not joining the meetings, just food tracking and all that good WW stuff.

I even worked out for a bit this evening. And I'm making my daughter start walking with me again nightly. So please wish me luck! And my best to all of you!!!! We all deserve to be happy and healthy!!

11-19-2006, 08:34 PM
Welcome toomuch ~ glad you've joined us. Sounds like you are off to a good start ~ sometimes making that first step is the hardest part, but once you do that you are on your way. Go, go, go ~ you can do this!!!!!

11-19-2006, 08:50 PM
Good for you Toomuch! You are definitely in the right direction....

I know what you mean about reading.... :o I am an avid reader myself! I certainly have the ability to get lost for hours in a good book.

I am new here as well - there is so much good information and support around. You are right - we owe it to ourselves to be healthy - we definitely deserve it!

Hope to see you around!

11-19-2006, 09:19 PM
Welcome to the forum toomuch! Good luck on your lifestyle change!! It won't be easy, but it will be well worth it. I look forward to seeing your progress. :)


11-19-2006, 11:53 PM
Welcome in! I too can get lost in a good book. In fact, if I'm reading a book I don't want to stop to do anything else at all! One solution may be to get the books on tape from the library, pop them into a headset and listen to the book while you walk or workout.....good luck!

11-20-2006, 08:00 AM
Hi Toomuch!

I, too, am an avid reader! My other problem is that I really ENJOY food! When you mix the two together it can really pack on the pounds! I'm finding out a lot about stress, too, and how the stress causes you to pack on belly fat. It is a very complicated thing to lose weight!

I WILL tell you that once the weight starts coming off there ARE a lot of big benefits! I can move around so much easier and am buying clothes in the Misses department rather than the plus-sized department for the first time in 25 years. THAT has felt GREAT! I have more energy now and am finding that it definitely IS possible to find time to exercise each day.

Another big benefit of exercise is that by adding more muscle and eliminating more fat, the muscle NEEDS more calories to survive. Because of that I can eat more and still maintain my weight. I LOVE THAT!!!

Try planning out your day on paper. You will find a time slot or several smaller time slots that you can use for YOU. Try fitting in some exercise and watch portions of food that you are eating. You can do this! The benefits are HUGE!

Cheryl:cheer2: :cheer2: :cheer2:

11-20-2006, 08:37 AM
Thanks for the support everyone!!!!

11-20-2006, 01:10 PM
:welcome: You've got a lot of good advice here. My only addition to you is to consider changing your user name. When I look at it, I see self-defeat already because you see yourself as having "too much" to lose. How about something really positive like "goingtolose" or "losingitall"? The messages we give ourself can be powerful positives or negatives. Just a thought. . . :)

11-20-2006, 02:12 PM
Thanks for the advise Sheila. I actually thought about the name possibly being negative last night. It was how I felt at the time, and do for the most part. I went in to see if I can change it, but I don't see a way without re registering.

11-20-2006, 02:35 PM
It's easy to change your user name (and lots of others have done it :) ) ... just send a PM to Suzanne 3FC - she's the site administrator - with several new choices (in case your first choice is already taken). You've got a great attitude and need a name to go along with it. :D

11-20-2006, 04:17 PM
And, as many others I'm sure, have always gotten the 'such a pretty face' comment.No, I've never ONCE heard that, hahaha. Welcome & good luck!

11-20-2006, 05:14 PM
So, soon to be ex-toomuchtoloose, what is your plan? What can we help you with? It's not enough to want it, you have to DO it. (If it was enough to want it, I would have lost the weight 20 years ago.)

The doing can take lots of different forms, however. And figuring out how to make it work for you can take time...

11-20-2006, 09:32 PM
Well, I did it. I sent a PM for a name change, so stay tuned. As far as a plan goes, I really haven't got one. Horrible, I know. Basically, I'm simply started out today with eating the way I did on WW. Some of the girls at work that sit by my have those bad bad bad snack size candy bars. I admit I had 1, okay, 4. Other than that, I did fine.

I am facing a problem right now though. I am so used to having a desert, anything sweet really, after a meal. It's well after dinner, I want something sweet!!! I have some yogurt in the fridge...that's what I'll have.

I'm trying to focus on one day at a time. The big picture scares and intimidates me. Any complicated diet plan will not work for me. I tend to get overwhelmed. It has to be simple, and affordable. That's way I'm leaning to WW. I can't afford to join up, but at least I can try to follow.

Hope everyone is having a great Monday :dizzy:

11-21-2006, 03:33 PM
Sounds like you are on the right track!!

I just wanted to pop in and say :welcome:

It's great to have you...and you CAN do this :cheer2:


11-21-2006, 10:22 PM
Good luck tomuchto loose...You can do it! That is wonderful you are taking walks with your daughter..So much easier on having a exercise partner.Looking forward on hearing you lighter..

11-21-2006, 10:39 PM
Welcome!! I know what you mean about reading -- I've always been a constant reader and I could sit around for hours doing it, preferably with snacks by my side! :lol:

Honestly, in many ways you are ME four months ago. On July 18, I weighed 275 (our stats are quite similar, as you see) and I knew I had to do something. I've done WW before and I couldn't afford to join again, so I decided to do it on my own because I, like you, can't stand to do something too complicated and restrictive. I too started with short walks. Now, four months later, I've lost 50 pounds (as of this morning!) I've stayed on track with my eating and I've progressed to more intense workouts but have mostly focused on walking. I'm almost halfway to my ultimate goal, and you know what? It was hard, but I feel AMAZING and I'm enjoying the journey. And you will too. Those months are going to pass whether you commit to changing your body and getting healthy or not, so it's wonderful that you're making this choice NOW. Stick around this board, because I can tell you it's been a HUGE factor in my success so far!

Send me a PM if you want extra support or WW info or anything at all!! :)

Laura Philly
11-22-2006, 05:52 AM
Good luck and welcome! I hear you about feeling like you have too much to lose. In July I weighed 260 pounds. I think I was probably more than that a bit earlier in the summer, but I refused the scale. I joined Weight Watchers and today I'm 230 pounds. I'm working really hard, but I'm really beginning to see change. My humble advice is "fight the fight". We are all too important to give up and give in. I had to really do some aggressive work with myself regarding the very same issue. I wondered - why now? what is going to be different from all of the other times I've tried? The difference is that I don't let one "slip up" become my ticket to "food freedom". Best of luck to you!!!!

11-23-2006, 12:51 PM
:welcome3: to the forum!

11-23-2006, 04:40 PM
I just wanted to wish you a warm welcome! :welcome:
You've found a wonderful place!

Losing weight is so worth it and great! I'm sure you can do it!! I totally agree with what you wrote, that it's about being healthy more than just the weight itself! I think that attitude can take you far :D Hope to see you around!

11-26-2006, 08:58 PM
Welcome! I have not been p osting here lately, but I am glad to be back. I have lost 46 pounds, and I do like the slider -- it is helpful to see how much progress I have made!!

My husband is on a diet with me, which does help. We are also walking together now.