Weight Loss Support - When (and if) to part with fat clothes?




MileHighMama
11-19-2006, 07:24 PM
Hey, everyone. I've been lurking for several weeks (I just introduced myself in the Introductions section) and have been meaning to start a thread to find out what all of you have done with your clothes that no longer fit. As I said in my intro, I've lost a regained a couple of times in the last 15-20 years and am so hoping that this is the last time. I'd love to donate everything in my closet that is too big, but there is a side of me that holds back. For one thing, I wouldn't have hardly anything in my closet! I have purchased 3 pairs of slacks in my new size along with some capris and shorts, and about 6-8 tops. The other thing is I'm afriad that I will gain the weight back and wish I still had those size 14s. My sister-in-law says I should get rid of everything because that will prevent me from back sliding because if I do I won't have anything to wear! What do you gals think?
Thanks,
Pam


Ilene
11-19-2006, 07:28 PM
I gave away all of my fat clothes when I lost my weight and when my smaller clothes get tight this is when I get back on track with a vengeance because there is no way I want to go back to my large clothes :nono: no way!!

Just do it, get rid of them and don't look back...

p.s.: this was a recommendation in Dr. Phil's book, so I took it to heart :yes:

drake3272004
11-19-2006, 07:39 PM
I plan on donating my clothes, if there is anything to them by then because I REFUSE to buy anything new in this size so I am kinda wearing them ragged:D


jtammy
11-19-2006, 07:40 PM
Absolutely get rid of them as soon as they're too big. I agree that knowing you have nothing to wear would be motivation for not gaining weight.

Mel
11-19-2006, 07:46 PM
Get rid of them! If you've got really good clothes, try a consignment shop or donating to organizations who help women who are just getting back on their feet and need professional clothing to wear to interviews. If you have mostly casual, older clothing, Purple Heart or Goodwill always happily take donations.

The only things I kept were a few old t-shirts to wear as painting shirts, a fairly new parka (which I haven't worn in five years- guess I should take my own advice!) and some nostalgia sweatshirts. I like remembering where they came from...not that I wore that size ;)

I'm like Ilene. When the new clothes get a little tight, it's time to really reassess my eating and exercise. I'm not going back there. Period.

Mel

kateful
11-19-2006, 08:25 PM
Good question. I'm getting rid of mine as soon as I can. There are a couple of jackets in my closet now that I know are too big. I really can't stand to have them around and *need* to get rid of them.

But, like you, I'll have little left when I do that. We'll be moving soon, so I'll take that opportunity to purge this stuff.

BOUNCY
11-19-2006, 08:36 PM
Hey, everyone. I've been lurking for several weeks (I just introduced myself in the Introductions section) and have been meaning to start a thread to find out what all of you have done with your clothes that no longer fit. As I said in my intro, I've lost a regained a couple of times in the last 15-20 years and am so hoping that this is the last time. I'd love to donate everything in my closet that is too big, but there is a side of me that holds back. For one thing, I wouldn't have hardly anything in my closet! I have purchased 3 pairs of slacks in my new size along with some capris and shorts, and about 6-8 tops. The other thing is I'm afriad that I will gain the weight back and wish I still had those size 14s. My sister-in-law says I should get rid of everything because that will prevent me from back sliding because if I do I won't have anything to wear! What do you gals think?
Thanks,
Pam

Hi Pam. I agree with you sil.I gave three big trash bags of clothes that
were to big for me to a co-worker. I have three pairs of slacks for work
with about ten tops and two skirts and several sweaters. of course
3pair of jeans. I want to lose 14 more pounds . So i thought i would
wait until i get to the goal i want for myself until i buy some more things.
I have found it was a good thing for me to get rid of the fat clothes.
for me it was letting go of that person forever. lol I Hope I made
since to you. Then if you gain that will be a warning sign to lose , cause
you have no more clothes!! ha!! ha!! works for me. Have agood night

srmb60
11-19-2006, 08:44 PM
I heard Dr Phil say that too and I agree!

MileHighMama
11-19-2006, 08:55 PM
Thanks for the quick responses everyone! I really am leaning towards getting rid of everything. I have a nice leather lacket in an XL that wouldn't zip when I was 190. Now it hangs on me. I might try to sell that at a consignment shop, along with a few of my nicer slacks and blouses and sweaters. I agree that not having anything to wear will keep me on track if I start to gain, but as I said before, I've lost and gained before and not having anything to wear didn't stop me from eating too much. I just bought new stuff. I keep thinking too that even if I did gain back that weight several years from (and believe me I have absolutely NO intention of doing that) the stuff I have would be out of style and dated. For example, I got down to 145 about 13 years ago and had a bunch of size 10 Gap blue jeans. I saved them, and while I can fit into them now, they are not stretch like many of the jeans today are so I don't like them anymore! I saved them all these years for what? Same with some Eddie Bauer shorts. They're not stretch and are oh-so-uncomfortable, even though they firt properly. I could put my stuff in boxes, but what's the point in that? Time to do some weeding, I think...
Pam

ennay
11-19-2006, 09:11 PM
Get rid of them!!!!! Unless, and this is a very specific unless, you intend on getting pregnant within the next year. I got rid of all my fat pants and I am 20 lbs from wearing my good pants. If you do intend to ttc, keep a very small wardrobe in those sizes. 2 pairs of jeans, 1 dress or skirt, 2 pairs of shorts - something along those lines. I have 1 pair of size ~16-18 jeans from my last pregnancy and 1 pair of ~14-16 jeans - both of which survived the purge because they were in with maternity clothes. And then nothing til size 10.

MileHighMama
11-19-2006, 09:16 PM
No more pregnancies in the cards for me, at least I hope not! I'm 45 and have two kids, 21 and 15.
Pam

kiwichic
11-19-2006, 09:22 PM
:) when this happens to me, I will take great joy in getting rid of any clothes that don't fit. Like the others say it's just to easy to slide back into bigger sized clothes just for a week or so until you get rid of the xtra pounds. but then you might just keep slacking off untill they feel tight to. I would deff stick to your new clothes, and you really don't need as many clothes as you might think. Out with the old clothes, old eating habits. :)

ValRock
11-19-2006, 10:00 PM
Donate them! I've only kept clothes that I think I'll need during a pregnancy and they're kept up up and away! Here's to shrinking and nothing else :D

Lifeguard
11-19-2006, 10:39 PM
I have only clothes that fit in my closet. Those that are too small (& there are plenty that are too small) are packed in boxes according to size. When I move down a size I take out the next box & donate the too big stuff. Only what fits in the closet. I find this less stressful on a daily basis when I get dressed. I've donated old clothes to the paramedic program at the local college because they need to practice cutting off/removing clothing when they are practicing & the big stuff is nice for them 'cause they will fit most people over their clothes. LOL - kind of embarassing but at least it feels like the stuff went to a good cause.

KnitALisa
11-19-2006, 11:15 PM
I've decided mine are going to the local women's shelter. They do such fabulous work; so many of these women leave with nothing but the clothes on their backs. I may keep one pair of fat pants, just as a reminder of how far I've come and how I'll never go back.

lilybelle
11-19-2006, 11:33 PM
I got rid of all mine except one pair of my biggest pants. I use these for motivation when I need to see how far I've come. I gave most of my clothes to friends and family. Sold some of them in my yard sale.

boaterswife
11-19-2006, 11:47 PM
What perfect timing for this thread! I went on a closet cleaning binge over the last couple days. My Mom stopped by today and asked what I was doing with the pile of clothing. I told her that it was all too big, too big to even make it work for a couple more weeks, etc. She immediately told me NOT to get rid of it. Now, she's been a huge supporter and so encouraging through the weight loss so far, but it was so disheartening to hear her say that. It made me feel like she was saying that I'm going to gain it back, so don't get rid of the stuff. I've been walking around with a black cloud over my mood ever since. I think I'll listen to all of you and my own instincts and get rid of it anyway!

futuresurferchick
11-20-2006, 12:06 AM
I agree that you should get rid of your fat clothes, but keep one pair of pants in your biggest size so you can take a pic like Meg's got. :D

crazynette826
11-20-2006, 01:46 AM
Kelly get rid of that black cloud, and get rid of those old clothes. Think about what you've already accomplished 42 lbs is awesome!! I think it's hard for some people to justify getting rid of stuff. I know my mom hates to throw anything that is still of value away. Go with your gut and get rid of it. I know I plan on donating mine when they get too big. The women's shelter thing is a great idea. I never would have thought of that.

rockinrobin
11-20-2006, 08:11 AM
I got rid of a huge majority of my huge clothing almost immediately, like as soon as I had lost about 20-25 pounds. It was great, so liberating. I am very lucky I have a place near me that you call them and throw it in a trash bag and they come pick it up and it goes to charity. I did keep a few things and now I am ready to get rid of those as well, I will take care of it immediatedly after Thanksgiving. Of course I am now left with the new clothing that I have bought which is 2 shirts, 2 skirts and 1 bra. But I plan on doing a little shopping tomorrow.

I remember telling my sister that I had given away my clothes and she was like "oh my G-d, you're crazy" and I was like thanks for the vote of confidence. But there was no doubt in my mind that I would ever need them again. Goodbye, good ridance, good luck, have a nice life.

*I did keep one or 2 skirts to show me what I left behind and I tried them on the other day, it was amazing to see the difference. It is a wonderful indicator of just how far you have come. And you never know, I might need them to show to Oprah when I go on her show. LOL

MileHighMama
11-20-2006, 11:04 AM
Okay, I am so ready to clean out my closet and purge everything that's too big. There will be lots of space in there but that's okay. I'll fill it up in no time, I'm sure. Shopping is so much fun when clothes fit! Now I just need a nice of block of free time to spend in my room weeding. I don't want this stuff around and I am NEVER going back it.
Pam

cantforgetthis
11-20-2006, 11:47 AM
Here's just another thought... While I am for not keeping clothes that are to big, I do have a number of very nice pieces that are special blends of colors, fabrics, leather or styles that I love that I know I would never be able to replace. I plan on keeping those and having them altered. Otherwise, just jeans or common stuff are donated.

OnePerDecade
11-20-2006, 12:58 PM
I guess I'm the materialistic one around here -- I sold all my fat clothes in lots on eBay :) I didn't make a lot of money, when you add in the cost of listing the items but it felt like I was contributing in another small way to my family by losing weight.
And I definitely still have my size 20s for inspiration. Sometimes, in a sick way, I am sorry I didn't hold onto my size 26s from 6 years ago. The only thing that I will not part with is my wedding dress, which was a vanity sized 16. (it's not the white wedding-kinda dress -- this was from my wedding in Las Vegas and since I was A. 40 B. pregnant & C. on my third and final marriage, it was a beautful shade of cranberry-red :) )

Sojourner
11-20-2006, 01:51 PM
Definitely get rid of clothes that don't fit! This is an expression of your commitment to permanent weight loss. Keeping the clothes because you think you might gain it back could be a sympom of emotional issues that have to be dealt with. I am convinced that 90% of weight issues are psychological. If we don't believe that we can lose it and keep it off, then we are almost guaranteed to fail. Tailor, donate, or sell the fat clothes and go buy some new, updated clothes that fit you today and make you feel wonderful.

BlueToBlue
11-20-2006, 02:28 PM
I live in CA so I have a pretty small house with pretty limited closet space. So decision to get rid my clothes was made for me by my closet. Once I bought news clothes that fit, I had no room for the old ones and I had to get rid of them.

The only things I've hung onto are my business suits because I plan on donating them to an organization that provides professional clothing for low-income women and I just haven't gotten around to it yet (and if I wait until March, we can bring them to The Menswearhouse and my SO will get some sort of discount on men's clothing in exchange for them).

mandalinn82
11-20-2006, 02:45 PM
The only things I've hung onto are my business suits because I plan on donating them to an organization that provides professional clothing for low-income women and I just haven't gotten around to it yet

I was just going to suggest doing this! The donations they get tend to be from smaller women, so they ALWAYS have need for larger-sized suits and interview wear. If you're in the Bay Area in CA, a great organization that accepts these donations is Wardrobe for Opportunity.

boaterswife
11-20-2006, 03:41 PM
Well, the dark mood is almost gone, and I think this weekend when I finally get all the clothes packed up, the mood will be gone for good! Thanks for all the inspiration! I believe the things will be divided into several catagories...ebay, local charities including those for women who need businesswear, and a few pieces to family members who have always liked them and may want them. Any way you cut it though, they're out of here!

alinnell
11-20-2006, 04:48 PM
I had yo-yo'd off and on for a couple of years, so I had some kindof "skinny" jeans in my closet. I needed a pair of older jeans for my Halloween costume and I pulled out all of my jeans and tried on each pair. Of course, the largest ones, the ones I bought last year when I was at my highest, didn't fit, so they went to the give pile. Then I tried on the so-called skinny jeans. Too big as well! I ended up wearing my new jeans (which didn't look as good in the costume, but it was dark!!). So I had 6 pairs of jeans to give away. MIL is losing weight also, so I let her have them all. She is really excited to be able to fit into all of them. She has a friend who hemmed them for her (I'm about 7 inches taller). She really looks good in them, too! As for my other "fat" clothes, I gave them to a charitable organization for re-sale. I hate having clothes at garage sales!!!

My actual problem is almost the opposite.....12 years ago, I was fat and pregnant and I thought that no way would I ever fit into some of the clothes that I had been saving for a few years. So I donated them. Then 2 years later, I weighed 128 and I could have worn the clothes......I ended up buying a lot of new clothes (I kept the weight off for about 5 years). Then the weight started creeping up, but I didn't get rid of my skinny clothes. I hauled them to my new house when we moved 4 years ago. Finally, I cleaned my closet and donated all those clothes. Now, I could be wearing them again!!! Silly me! I guess one should never get rid of the skinny clothes!!

Stinger
11-20-2006, 05:21 PM
Get rid of those rags!

If you are tight on money for new clothes go to a nice second-hand store. Instead of trading up (in size) you'll be trading down!

mtp_and_hmp
11-21-2006, 01:16 PM
I'm actually keeping most of my clothes. I wear mostly t-shirts, so those are being kept for lounge wear and working out, and my pants were all really expensive, so I can't bare to part with them. Not yet, anyways. Besides, if I'm going to get fat again I'm going to do so whether or not I have clothes in a larger size.

buckettgirl
11-21-2006, 01:51 PM
I have been getting rid of clothes as I can. It was a difficult decision to make because of the "what if's"... but I decided that I will never weigh 350lbs again; even if I gain, I'm NEVER getting that big again.
I have a box started with clothes that are way to huge to wear anymore; I have also given my good friend some of my really nice big clothes. When my box is full, I'm gonna take it to Goodwill or to the thrift shop and let them deal with it.
You need to get rid of the clothes. It is a liberating feeling. I have, however, kept my biggest pair of jeans and a shirt as a reminder of where I was.

boaterswife
11-21-2006, 03:29 PM
I am definitely on a purging roll now! :D As I was doing laundry earlier today, I went to put my clean undies away and thought...I haven't worn many of these in a while because they've gotten baggie (YUCK!) or the elastic is wearing out, etc, so I got the trash can and started pitching! Now my undergarment drawer is just about empty.....looks like I'm in need of a trip to the store with the pretty pink bags....:devil: