General chatter - How long did it take you to get pregnant?

11-19-2006, 01:42 AM
DH and I have been talking and praying and talking and praying, and decided earlier this evening that we would like to start trying to have our first child. I know that I need to make an appointment with my OBGYN and with the dentist and be even MORE careful about what I put into my body than before. I've been on orth-tricyclen-lo since February of this year. My questions are:

1. How long after stopping birth control did it take you or someone you know to get pregnant?

2. Do you have any tips to boost fertility? (We were going to do fertility tests before trying, but have decided to go ahead and give it 6 months or so of trying before going in for testing.)

Any help would be GREATLY appreciated! Oh! And you're all the first ones to know...we're waiting until Thanksgiving to announce it to the family! :D


11-19-2006, 01:54 AM
Not sure how old you are, but I was 28 and 31. The first time was practically immediately after deciding to start, but I wasn't taking BC pills at the time. The second time, it took a month after stopping the pill.

If you have no reason to believe fertility will be a problem, I wouldn't worry about it. Just make sure there are lots of opportunities for fertilization to take place. :D

11-19-2006, 02:39 AM
How exciting, Kim! :D

I'd been on the pill for 8 years and casually mentioned to my OB at a routine visit that we were planning to start our family soon. She suggested that I get some blood titers done - the ones that show your immunization status - and it ended up showing that the MMR I'd been given as a kid wasn't providing immunity. Anyways, I got the shot, and was told to wait at least 1 month and up to 3 months before getting pregnant. I got pg the 2nd cycle after we started TTC.

As far as increasing your chances of getting pregnant... I'd been tracking my BBT each morning (along with recognizing other things about my body) for the months after I got the MMR until we started TTC and I found out that I ovulated like clockwork. Knowing when I was O'ing helped once we started TTC. I know many people who have good luck using pre-seed. I never used it, but probably would have early on if we had trouble. I got pregnant the 2nd time when baby#1 was 6 months old. Anyways, good luck! I remember those days of anticipation so clearly! I can hardly believe that at one time I actually had time to chart my BBTs!!

11-19-2006, 10:09 AM
Good luck!

11-19-2006, 10:43 AM
I was told by my ob/gyn to wait 3 periods to try getting pregnant after getting off of birth control pills, which seemed like an eternity, but that's what we did. I was thank G-d, very, very, very fortunate and with my first child it was the second try, same for my second daughter and the first try for my third.

Probably, okay definitely none of my business here, but are you absolutely sure you want to announce to your family and friends that you are trying to have a baby? Some families, certainly not all, can then be quite intrusive and bother you to pieces for info. Which can then perhaps lead to more anxiety on or your part.

I am so very happy for you. I wish you the best of luck. What a great Mommy you're going to be!!!

11-19-2006, 10:59 AM
Almost no time the first time. 9 months the second and number three was a very pleasant surprise.
We'd kind of decided that maybe it wasn't that easy for us with the second one so I didn't go back on the pill. We decided to let nature take it's course. Three years later ... a baby boy!
He's 20 now and a delight! I can't imagine life without my bear-hugging 'trailer'.

11-19-2006, 06:18 PM
I was on the pill for about five years before I got pregnant with my first. I went off the pill in January and I got pregnant right away. Had my son Oct 2nd. With my second I went off the pill and got pregnant one month later. So with me it was very quickly. I wouldn't announce anything to your family until you are pregnant. It can be stressful to have everyone asking question and giving advice on how to get pregnant. Trust me, do you really want you MIL telling you how she got pregnant with her son, your husband??? Not me. :o
Good luck and have fun. My husband said trying for a baby was the best but it didn't take long enough for us!

canadian mom
11-19-2006, 06:56 PM
My first 2 wre not planed but my 3rd it was the month after I wnt off bc and my daughter it was 2 months after I stopped nursing but the first month we were trying. There are alot of websites out there that will help you determine your fertile time according to your cycle.

11-19-2006, 11:54 PM
Both of my pregnancies happened the next month after deciding I wanted to get pregnant.:smug:

11-20-2006, 12:30 AM
Thank you all for your advice!! We're still very excited and I will be making calls tomorrow to set doc's appts asap! With the family thing, we're only telling my parents and two sisters until we find out we're pregnant. His family is very intrusive and lack self control, so it's best they don't know anything right now. My family, on the other hand, are very supportive and private when things need to be private. We need them to know for the prayers they'll be saying for us throughout trying to conceive and pregnancy. I found a website to track ovulation and will be checking into it further when we get back from Thanksgiving holiday! Thank you all and I'll be sure to post if/when it happens! :D

canadian mom
11-20-2006, 07:12 AM
Good luck

11-20-2006, 10:10 AM
Good luck exciting!!
My first pregnancy took 6 months after going off bc. Seemed like FOREVER! But after that pregnancy it was one right after another. My first ended in a miscarriage at 13 weeks, 4 WEEKS later I was pregnant with my son and when he was 4 months old SURPRISE pregnant with my daughter. Everyone is different, just remember to be patient, things will happen in God's PERFECT timing! Have fun trying! ;)

11-20-2006, 12:24 PM
Great advice. I would add to take a prenatal vitamin starting now. Folic acid is a good thing.

11-20-2006, 12:34 PM
Go out and buy Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Wechsler. It is an excellent textbook to learn all about reproduction. Temping is good, but it's only going to tell you after you've ovulated. TCOYF will help you fill in the rest of the picture.

And...well, you can go to a doctor right now. But there's not an actual need. Pregnancy isn't an illness or an emergency waiting to happen, and neither is TTC. Like many of the women on this site, I have PCOS, and knowing it I got wrapped up in TTC. And it was just more stress than I really needed. I see a lot of women who do something similar and wind up just stressing themselves too much, like I did. I've talked to women who think there's something wrong with them if they don't get pregnant immediately, and it's more normal for it to take about six months or so (as far as fertility testing, unless you're over 36, most doctors will tell you to come back after you've been trying unsuccessfully for a year).

Still need to answer the question. :)

It took me about 16 or 18 months (don't remember exactly) to get pregnant with my first. It took two months of actual trying to get pregnant with number two, and number three was a stealth baby.

After my experience with #1, I don't let hormonal birth control anywhere near me.

11-20-2006, 01:08 PM
Good luck!! It took my just about a year to get pg with both my kids.

11-20-2006, 06:54 PM
Good luck and have fun. My husband said trying for a baby was the best but it didn't take long enough for us!


You've gotten some good advice on here. I'd keep quite as well.

It doesn't hurt to make sure everything is OK BEFORE you get pg. If there is anything wrong, then your dr. can try and fix it without the complications of a pregnancy.

I had to claw the walls off the pharmacy to keep from getting pg. I had trouble with birth control. (bleeding while on the pill, an IUD that decided to travel, etc.)

Have a good holiday and I, for one, look forward to being a "cyber auntie".

11-20-2006, 08:15 PM
Although slightly off topic...
First of all, statistically, most couples will conceive within 2 years of starting to try, assuming everything is functioning. I wouldn't worry if you hadn't gotten pregnant within six months.
If I were you, I would RESEARCH MY OPTIONS... for instance, you should learn everything you can about pregnancy and delivery. You should interview ob docs and nurse midwives (assuming there are some available to you); you should check out your local hospital's birth unit and find out what their routine procedures are; you should check to see if there is a birth center located near you (and I'm talking about not hospital related).
I would HIGHLY RECOMMEND that you read the book The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth by Henci Goer (you can find this on
I would also recommend doing a search for a doula, who can work with you in pregnancy to create a birth plan and is basically a support person during labor who can advocate for your needs/wants. You can do a search in your area from the Doula's of North America website

11-20-2006, 10:56 PM
I LOVE THIS SITE!! Everyone is SO supportive here! I look forward to lots of "cyber aunties", cbmare! You'll be a great one! ;) :lol:

Here's the scoop on the "birthing" situation we're in. We live in a small town (pop 5200 when the university is in full session) and there are two OB's within 30 miles of here. I've picked the one 30 miles away, but I feel MOST comfortable with him. There are a few midwives in town, but we're waiting on our doc's suggestion on that one. The hospital for our area (and I mean covering several small towns in our tri-county area) is 5 minutes from our house and the OB actually lives in our town, but practices in the one 30 miles north of us. So, we're pretty much stuck unless I decide to stay with my family in central Texas. Not likely. This is a wonderful little town and all but the most critical babies are delivered here without incident. We trust our OB and are happy to have him.

We're hitting the bookstores while on Thanksgiving holiday and will be picking up or at least looking at the books suggested here. I'll keep everyone up-to-date! Thanks again! :D

11-21-2006, 02:29 PM
There are a few midwives in town, but we're waiting on our doc's suggestion on that one. :D

If there are midwives around, it is probably a good idea to interview them. Nurse midwives can only take low-risk pregnancies, as high risk is outside their scope of practice. Beyond knowing if you are going to be a high-risk pregnancy from the beginning, I wouldn't bother waiting for any doctors suggestion on a midwife - this is something that you need to decide for yourself: what kind of birth do you want? what kind of interventions do you want during labor/birth?
If you are a low-risk pregnancy, want a natural birth, and minimal interventions during labor, then it would be in your best interest to at least talk to midwife.
Believe me, I understand about options being limited as I live in a rural area myself and the ob docs are trying to take over everything - they have already successfully lobbied to restrict family practicioners from delivering babies at our hospital and we have no midwives or birth centers anywhere reasonably close.
Generally speaking, ob docs tend to take the approach that childbirth is dangerous and the woman's body requires interventions to deliver safely. Midwives will take the approach that childbirth is completely natural event and that a woman's body is built for and prepared to delivery babies naturally.

Yes, I am obviously biased toward nurse midwives and natural birth; however I cannot emphasize enough how important it is for you to do your own research, and be INFORMED before you get pregnant and certainly before you go into labor. From one woman to another, empower yourself to create the best possible childbirth experience - and that will only come from setting out on your own and gathering information from books, research, interviews, etc.

11-22-2006, 05:09 PM
Good luck!! I am still trying after 12 months. Glad to see there's some success stories of TTC a year or longer!

11-22-2006, 06:25 PM
First off, good luck Kim! you are walways so sweet when you post, and I'll keep my fingers crossed. I'm glad you realizethat part of your family should NOT be told right off the bat. Some of my family is the same way!
Second, I will now profess my ignorance. What is TTC?

11-22-2006, 10:05 PM
hoodj0080 - It means "trying to conceive" - sorry some of my fertility website lingo coming through! LOL

11-23-2006, 01:33 AM
First of all....good luck! and have fun trying!:carrot:

I was on BCP for 8 years....went off for one cycle at my doctors recommendation and got preg right away...for all three pregnancies....I never used BCP after I went off for my first preg....didn't seem to bother me one way or the other.....

It is an exciting time for you...enjoy it.


11-23-2006, 12:38 PM
About a day and a half! And then I had twins. Good luck.

11-29-2006, 06:39 PM
Hey everybody! I just wanted to clear some things up for everyone!

The reason DH and I have decided to have a consult with OB beforehand is because I, at one time, had elevated cholesterol. I was tested again about 4 months ago and all was back to a very normal level, but I'd rather not just assume it still is. I also had a recent (as in January of this year) week-long stay in the hospital due to a blood clot in my lungs. During that time I was put on a diabetic diet and given daily insulin shots. We feel this is something we shouldn't ignore and I'm having fasting blood work done as well as a pap smear just to make sure everything is hunky-dory. Finally, I'm asthmatic and have been on steroids most of my life. When I was younger, some extended use (as prescribed by my doc at the time) seemed to have done some hormone damage. I also want to make sure that I can continue on my maintenance medication since pregnancy hasn't really been an issue since I've been on it. I also need to make sure that my emergency meds are okay as well.

I have to admit that I know the OB will most likely deem my pregnancy moderate to high risk simply because of my asthma and family history of gestational diabetes. I'd rather play it safe than sorry and that's why we feel the pre-conception OB is necessary. While I think natural births are beautiful, I don't really think it's an option for me.

Thanks again for all of the support and well-wishes! I will be sure to update what's going on in baby-making land! (Well, I won't update you on everything! ;) :lol:)

Tara D
11-29-2006, 07:34 PM
Hi, Buckettgirl,

I'm kind of dragging this over from another post (the one about fear of going to the doctor), but I just wanted to take the chance to apologize to you. On the other post we disagreed on the prevalence of female OB-gyns. I saw here that you are from rural Kansas, and I can definitely see why you would have more male (and power-hungry) general OB-Gyn's there than in some other areas.

Where I live (good sized college town in the midwest with a large OB-Gyn residency training program), at least 70-80% of the general OB-Gyns practicing are female. The men have trouble getting patients! That's why a lot of them do high-risk OB here. I once had to make a gyn appt., and I could get in to see the guy in 2 weeks, but for the next woman it was 4 months, and some weren't taking new patients at all.

Anyway, the good news is that training OB-gyn residents are now overwhelmingly female (18 out of 20 at one of the hospitals I've worked at), so hopefully that will reflect changes in your area as well sometime in the next 10 or 15 years. I'd forgotten that things might be quite different in other areas (especially rural), so I apologize to you!

11-29-2006, 10:38 PM
First off, good luck Kim! you are walways so sweet when you post, and I'll keep my fingers crossed.

Second, I will now profess my ignorance. What is TTC?

Thank you, thank you! I'm a real meanie in real life!! ;) Don't worry, I had to ask about TTC as well! :lol: