I am brand new here and need a lot of help and inspiration. Sounds like the place to be. I am a stay at home mom of two children. A five year old girl and a two year old boy. I always hovered around 175 pounds and thought that was the end of the world. Now I am at 270 pounds and it is frightening me. I feel like I don't have time for myself. Like most of us don't. Any words or helpful hints on reading posts is much appreciated. Thanks in advance.:)
11-12-2006, 11:16 PM
Welcome to the board!
Post often so we can get to know you, OK?
You can do this
11-12-2006, 11:52 PM
:welcome: So glad you're joining us. You'll find a lot of wonderful people here who want you to succeed.
One thing I've found for me is that motivation waxes and wanes. So instead of relying on motivation, I've made a commitment to getting the weight off no matter how long it takes. Do you have an eating and exercise plan in mind? Remember that putting yourself first isn't selfish. You NEED to take that time for yourself because if you're not healthy, then you can't be all that you need to be for your family.
11-13-2006, 12:42 AM
11-13-2006, 12:46 AM
:welcome2: I'm so happy you've found this site, because honestly, it's the absolute best one I've found for support, and the people here are wonderful, and I think you'll love it here too!;) :hug:
11-13-2006, 12:53 AM
Hi I am like you I'm new here and I need to lose more than 100 lbs. The Drs. told me to cut my calories to 1000 and my fat to 15 grams. It sounds like a lot of fun but I have to do it for myself and my son. I want to be around to see him finish college and have a family of his own. I know with the Lord on my side I can do. Maybe we can help each other.
11-13-2006, 10:36 AM
:wel3fc: you've taken a fabulous step :yes:
I hope you find what you are looking for! :D
and hope to see you around!
11-13-2006, 01:14 PM
Welcome to adon1124 & Linda (24jfan)! This place is great for support and tons of information!
11-13-2006, 01:56 PM
A big hearty welcome to adon1124 and 24jfan!!! You have found a great place. It's loaded with support, encouragement and advice. Great to have you on board.
11-13-2006, 02:05 PM
Welcome! I was right where you are now several years ago plus five more pounds! I started gaining weight gradually since I was married but really upped the ante after our first son was born. I went down a bit after son #2 then back up. My heaviest was 275. I would be the "Mom" to everyone and run around like crazy doing everything. I was holding down a full-time job AND a part-time job, too. Of course there was all the house stuff to get done as well. I was sleeping just five hours a night so that I could burn the candle at both ends and get even more done. The lack of sleep and the stress not to mention eating just to comfort myself really packed on the pounds. I had been heavy for nearly THIRTY YEARS!
I really admire the young moms who can take off the weight as they raise their families! I wasn't able to do it until my children were older and I actually had time for myself. The 80s were a real blur for me, and even the 90s were! I just think that I tried to do WAY too much and have it all. I DID manage to raise two great sons, but I lost myself in the process.
A couple years ago when I realized that I actually DID have some time for myself, I began my weight loss journey.
The first step I would say to make is to find some times for yourself where you can plan out your "ME" time. Next, I would visit the library and read up on all the most recent information about weight loss. Come up with a plan of eating and exercise that will work for YOU.
I keep a journal of my successes. I weigh myself every morning and also reward myself with non-food "prizes" when I drop each five pounds. Sometimes it is a new CD that I have been wanting or a new pair of jeans (in a smaller size!) It really helps to acknowledge the positive rather than always focusing on all the weight that still needs to come off!
I wish you well, and I hope you will visit here often!
11-13-2006, 02:47 PM
Welcome. The only advice is to post a lot and read a lot. This is a very motivating place.
11-13-2006, 09:08 PM
Welcome to the forum!!! I'm looking forward to seeing more posts from you!
11-13-2006, 09:14 PM
Well I must say you all sound awesome and I commend each and everyone of you for the weight you have lost and for being so welcoming to me. I am sitting here with tears in my eyes because I know I can do it and I know I want to do it and reading your posts is making me feel real excited to get going. I don't really have an eating plan or an exercise plan. I need to do that because I am floundering around trying not to eat like I have been for the past two years. Does anyone have a suggestion as to what plan to follow or any other eating plan suggestions. I am so upset with myself that I got this way but I am trying to not be so hard on myself either because that will just backfire and who wants that? Not me. I will post often and I will take and and all advice or words of wisdom you have. Again, congratulations to all of you and thanks for the heartfelt welcome.
11-13-2006, 10:10 PM
This is a reply to: 24Jfan Do you have any plans for eating or exercising? Are you going to follow a certain diet? I feel the same way you do. I have two small kids and I need to be here and be able to run around with them. I guess you can all tell I am new to this posting/thread stuff. I have no clue. Sorry for an confusion.
11-14-2006, 07:36 AM
Adon, don't beat yourself up over your current situation. That is non-productive. We're all human. What's done is done. Turning your situation around is doable. You definitely can turn this around. I know seeing everyone's numbers here at 3fc was a great motivator to me.. Lots of people losing lots of weight. If they could do it why couldn't I? And there's no reason why you can't as well.
I've found the best plan for me is a combination calorie counting, high protein, low carb kind of a thing. I eat 3 meals and 2 snacks. This way I don't get too hungry. And in just a matter of 3 weeks I was no longer hungry at all and all of my cravings have stopped. I also find I must plan for my day, even the week. I need to know exactly what's on my menu. I also make very tasty food. Lots of veggies, white meat chicken, salmon and talapia, stir frys and so on and so on. I've also added exercise into the mix. I try to walk everyday, just a little bit at first. I have bad knees, no doubt from all of this weight, so lately I've just been dancing, yup simple and it gets me moving. And you can even do this with your kids! I also do sit-ups and I just generally try to move more then I did the day before.
You have to find something that you can do for long-term, for life. At this point I couldn't possibly see going back to my old life-style. It's that quick. 10 weeks ago for me. This becomes your new way of life.
If there's any questions or anything at all you need just let us know. We're all in this together and we're all here for you. :flow2:
11-14-2006, 09:04 PM
Fedup, you have lost 50 lbs.,wow, that is inspiring. Thanks for the encouraging words. I need to start counting calories too. I love this site. Thanks again.
11-15-2006, 10:06 PM
mine is calorie counting , portion control , staying in the low sodium range , and getting active , I too eat at least 5 times a day .... depends on how many calories I have put in. I like to stay in a 1200 to 1300 calorie range, but thats what works for me. I know you can lose the weight!!!!!!
11-15-2006, 10:13 PM
:carrot: :carrot: :carrot: I'm new here too Linda and Adon. Adon I can identify with a lot of what you said, especially about being upset when I was 170, and now years later I find I'm about a hundred more than that! But I've been so for years. But I just made a resolution to pull the reigns in quite a bit on my weight loss program. All it was doing was maintaining a 12-18 pound loss! It's true I do lose slowly, but I know I need to limit fats and even proteins more. (Cheese is my downfall.) I'd stopped exercising (when I thought it wasn't doing any good) and I started gaining even that modest loss back. Oh no! But I am ready to commit to stricter portion control, the only thing that has ever worked longterm for me BUT when I had support. (I did it originally and kept it off but before I was married when I only had twenty pounds to lose ---on weight Watchers.) I can't find a support group to go to that I like And can afford, but I read in a magazine that this group was fun and motivating. I've read through a few posts and it seems to be true. So here I am too! :)
11-15-2006, 10:26 PM
I feel like I need to be told what to do even though I do know what to do. I lost almost forty pounds when I was single and no kids. Yes, it came off easily because I could exercise whenever I wanted to. Now, this is a whole new ballgame. I eat for boredom and I am a very emotional eater. My husband works nights and over nights so it is easy for me to eat and not feel accountable to anyone. It is me who should care that I am sitting there eating twelve pieces of licorice or halloween candy. I need to get a plan and follow it. I guess I am waiting for someone to hold my hand and that isn't going to happen. I need to get this in gear and go for it. I love this site. Everyone is so encouraging.
11-16-2006, 06:33 AM
Hi Adon. I just gotta tell you this and I'm sure you know it already, no one's gonna hold your hand. This is up to you to do and you alone. Although you've certainly come to the right place cause we'd be more then happy to guide and support you.
I also VERY often ate out of boredom and frustration, but then I changed my habits and I do different things when I'm bored and frustrated like come onthe compa and log onto 3FC. I also make better food choices. And I promise you after just 2-3short weeks fo sticking to a good plan you won't even want the bad food. And if you really want somebody to tell you what to do then let me know and I'd be happy to help you. Whatever you need and I mean that.
PrincessinTraining :welcome: to 3FC. I'm glad you've found this place and I hope to see you around. There's no need to eliminate proteins from your diet, just the fatty ones, yup like cheese and you know everything in moderation and there are low fat cheeses. You shouldn't have to feel deprived, you need to find a plan that works for YOU and that you can stick to forever and well if you gotta have cheese, well then you've got to have cheese.
Good luck ladies!! And please remember you CAN do this!!! You really can!!
11-16-2006, 08:45 PM
Thanks so much FEDUP. I would love guidance. I did WW about ten years ago and it went very well. That was before kids and marriage and a house. Now I am not sure if I should get a notebook and write everything down including calorie count. Not sure if that is the best way. I don't want to do a fad diet since we all know they don't work, well, for me anyway. Maybe for some who can stick to it. If you would like to share plan ideas with me I would love it. I just need a starting point. I did weigh myself Monday and then again this morning and was down four pounds. I just wanted to check it out to see if it moved at all and it did. I won't weigh myself for another week. I don't want to become a slave to the scale. Thanks again for all the advice and help.
11-17-2006, 08:54 AM
Hi ! welcome :)
I also VERY often ate out of boredom and frustration, but then I changed my habits and I do different things when I'm bored and frustrated like come onthe compa and log onto 3FC
Also happens to me, it´s like I have an inability to stand still, so now what I do is I think about it first, whenever I´m reaching for food and I know it´s not because I´m hungry (that goes for emotional eating as well), I stop for a sec and think first, I ask myself if that´s what I really want... now the tricky part, the answer is obviously a big no, but sometimes it´s really hard to fight that anxiety sensation, and a great thing I´ve learned from some of the great people here, is that I go find something to do, to get my mind off of food, I clean or move the furniture, I go for a run, look at old pictures...anything ... with this most times I win, but a few times I screw up and end up eating, and I´ve learned to recognize the mistake, forgive myself and move on
One thing that I think you should take into consideration as well, is that it took quite sometime for us to get where we are, and we are carrying a lot of frustrations in these extra pounds, so take your time, change slowly but deeply, and don´t be so hard on yourself .... YOU WILL GET THERE !:)
All the best,
11-17-2006, 07:05 PM
Welcome ~ glad you have joined us.
11-18-2006, 06:08 AM
Adon that is what I am doing too the old W/W, mostly. About writing it down, I found a really pretty pink Monday through Sunday weekly sheet that I've started to write the meals and the fruits/milks/starches etc down on each day. So now I don't have to think about making out those stupid sheets to diary meals on. lol
Thanks for the Welcome and positive thoughts, ladies. :) Fed Up, yes I must have my cheese! lol I don't like low fat cheeses too much except maybe mozzarella/feta, you know, moderately low. But guess what? I did limit it and other high fat stuff like peanut butter and eggs this week, and I did lose like six pounds this week! I also made a couple of other changes like no 'borrowing' portions from the next day or eating after midnight, more water etc. Only tonight is different because guess what? I just became a Grandma for the first time ever! I am so excited-- haven't seen him yet though. Little Alexander, 9 pounds 8 ounces! Thank you Lord!
OK going to bed now.... :)
11-18-2006, 06:09 AM
Oh I meant to say, I found the pink diary sheets at the dollar store. And they are the ones you can rip off so I put mine on the fridge. Hope you can find something similar if you think that will also help you. :)
11-18-2006, 07:24 AM
Princess in training. that is great!! 6 pounds, wow, way to go. And I'm glad you had your cheese, we just can't expect to limit favorite foods forever if we're going to be on this plan forever. I'm so happy for you. That's all it takes, little changes - oh gosh that sounds so simple, but it really isn't all that complicated.
And CONGTATULATIONS on becoming a grandmother - that must be so exciting. Your grandson has a beautiful name and he should have a long and happy life filled with joy and happiness and excellent health. :congrat:
11-18-2006, 08:38 AM
Hi Adon, you asked so here goes some basics, let me know if you want more details.
My breakfast consists of either 1 cup of cereal - I eat quaker essentials crunchy corn bran cereal with 1/2 cup skim milk. Or I eat a 3 egg-white omlette with 1/2 cup cooked oatmeal, which is 1/4 cup uncooked. To the omlette You can add some veggies, like if I have leftovers from the day before - spinach, onions, whatever
Mid-morning snack - a 6 oz. fat-free, sugar free yogurt, they range from 60-90 calories depending on the brand.
Lunch for me varies (1) a 3 oz can tuna in water with a cut up cucumber, a cut up red pepper, 2 17 calorie multi-grain rice cakes and 5 almonds
(2) a morning star farms chick patty or a morning star farms spicy bean burger with cooked veggies - I usually have cauliflower I love it and it's very filling. You have to experiment and find what you like
mid-afternoon snack - 2 of the 17 calorie rice cakes with a TBSP peanut butter or 1 fat free, sugar free ice cream bar that is 60 calories, you have to find what they sell in your neighborhood and what you like.
Dinner is either 1 grilled chicken cutlet, or 1 3oz. piece of salmon, baked or I made meatballs the other night with lean ground beef , I ate 2 of them.
I always either eat lots of veggies or a salad. Experiment and find what you like. I make spaghetti squash, my kids really liked that. I also make brussel sprouts, sugar snap peas. I made a yummy spinach cheese souffle one night. I also make stir fries with broccoli, mushrooms, carrots, onions and a little soy sauce, ginger and garlic. I use pam cooking spray instead of oil. You can make a big batch and have leftovers. If you want specific recipes, let me know. You'll see as you go on that you'll find what works for you. I
I drink a lot of water, i try for 8 glasses a day, if I need to keep my mouth busy, I just fill up a glass and keep it with me, or a water bottle.
If you're still hungry during the day eat some veggies.
I also drink flavored tea with splenda.
I also exercise, start out slowly if you like, can you find time for a walk? If not how about an exercise video or dvd? Sit -ups, leg lifts. Just take it slow and do it at your own speed.
It's really important to eat breakfast, so don't skip that. It gets your metabolisim moving and keeps you satisfied.
If you have to keep stuff in the house for the kids try to make it stuff that you don't like. And remeber you're doing them no favors by letting them eat garbage, so don't feel guilty about eliminating some junk food that you normally would have for them. It's never to early for them to get good and healthy eating habits. For me it was very important to have only healthy food in the house, less temptation. And I find for me that I must plan, plan and plan, like I map out in my head a weeks worth of menus, but if you like you can write it down.
If you're bored at night try not to eat, well duh, but think of other activities that you can do - exercise, computer, sewing, knitting, your journal, have a cup of hot tea with splenda, read, straighten up the house, do your nails, anything, eventually the cravings will stop. I try not to eat past 7:00.
I also write in a journal. I bought a pretty little notebook for $4.00 I wrote all the reasons why I wanted to lose the weight and when I was having cravings I would go and look at it and read it. In the beginning I would look at it A LOT. It really helped keep me on track. But for the most part the cravings have stopped, but I still check in there occasionally and I keep on adding things that I want to do when I've lost the weight. I also write my future goals in there. I weigh myself everyday, but record my weight on Monday. If you can, try to weigh yourself only once a week, i wish I could.
I found the first 3 weeks the hardest and then I promise you it got sooo much easier. I hope I didn't bore you to tears.
Good luck and again let me know whatever else you need, whenever, either here or a PM. I hope to hear from you real soon. :hug:
11-22-2006, 03:55 AM
Thanks FedUp! I hope they will bring him over on Thanksgiving.
Well counting high fat proteins IS a sort of big change for me, at least it feels that way, and admittedly today I failed in it. But oh well.. still doing pretty well on 'the rest of it'. I'm going to keep plugging along and even if I don't lose with thanksgiving now upon us, I'll get right back on track. And tomorrow I will make an effort to get back to the cheese/protein limiting again. Can't argue with success right? And a good sign today I think was that I was hungry!
Linda and Adon, how you doing girls?
Have a great Thanksgiving everyone!
11-22-2006, 03:57 AM
p.s. FedUp that is a good idea about the journal.
I meant to say too that the slips I was talking about to write meals were just a 'to do' weekly list thing.
11-22-2006, 08:24 AM
Princess, you certainly have much to be thankful for this Thanksgiving. Let me know if you did indeed get to see the little guy.
Some meals we fail, some days we fail, but we pick ourselves up and dust ourselves off ---- and then we get right back to it!!!
I love my journal, to me it's mostly kind of like a dream book. I enter my hopes and dreams (weightwise) for the future. It has very positive stuff on it that I need to keep reminding myself of. And one of the first things that I put in there is that I want to be a fantastic grandma, active, cute, healthy, fit and ALIVE. I want to be able to get on the ground with the kids and PLAY with them, take them to the playground and just do stuff with them.
Have a wonderful, Thanksgiving. :turkey:
11-23-2006, 12:56 PM
:welcome3: to all the newbies! This is great place for advice and support!
11-23-2006, 09:34 PM
Rockinrobin (Fedup) I like you're new name. I too want to be a cute Grandma. lol But the right kind of cute of course. Yes I had a great journal I was writing the same sort of things in besides things I was praying about. It said, "Miracles" on the outside-- got it too at the dollar store. Only now it's disappeared. Guess I should get another one if they still have them....
Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving too, and all of you here. :)
11-23-2006, 09:35 PM
And Choclablover if you are around, good motto....
11-24-2006, 09:43 AM
Thanks very much!
11-24-2006, 10:06 PM
I'm right there with you. I work from home, and have a 19 month old son. There is NO time for me. It's always business time or mommy time. It's a hard cycle to break... we just have to learn the trick. Somehow, we have to carve out a little part of the day that is just for us. Then we have to spend that time exercising, and learn to enjoy it:^:
Good luck to you... I'm right there with you. We'll have to watch our tickers go down together :carrot:
11-25-2006, 10:58 PM
Rockinrobin thanks so much for all the help. I have read it and re-read it and everything you said is so helpful to me. I am going to try to write my food intake down for a few weeks. Not so detailed that I get bored with doing it but just enough so I can track what it is I am eating and then I will be able to make better choices. Hope everyone enjoyed Thanksgiving, thankfully I don't like pie so it isn't a tough holiday for me. Christmas is tough because I like chocolate and that always seems to be around during the Christmas season. Everyone here motivates me so much. Thanks for all the positive words and feedback.
11-25-2006, 11:04 PM
I am plugging along, thanks for asking. Hopefully you did see the little grandchild. I will be getting on the scale again for the first time on Monday to see how things have been going. Not sure as it is my TOTM and that always brings along atleast five pounds for me. It is kind of discouraging but then a few days later it is all gone plus more, hopfully. I do love coming to this site and just writing. You people are all awesome. Thanks for checking on me. Hope you are doing well too.
11-25-2006, 11:39 PM
Hi....i'm new to this board. Not new to threads and forums but to a weight-loss board...very new. I've tried everything I can think of and still I get frustrated by lack of progress, so I've decided to try the "friend" approach. Since I don't know many people in the real world and definitely none that would buddy up I hope this works better for me. I need to lose a whole lotta weight, and am hoping to do it before my school's 100th anniversary reunion in 2012. I've been big for 30+years as well. I was born big (10lb5oz) but steadily got bigger the more my mum tried to make me diet. I went from being 20lbs over-weight as a teen to where I am today....*sigh* she was always over-weight herself and pulled me into her world LOL. She lost weight once on the Scarsdale Diet, but when I looked at it I thought it should be called the Where's the Food diet.
Has anyone here tried the Shangri-La Diet? I've heard so much about it but wanted to get the "skinny" from people who may have tried it rather than just assuming that the guy on the front cover can be believed :D.
11-26-2006, 01:37 AM
Thanks for the welcome Choclablover. (Somehow I loaded in the wrong page last couple of times and didn't see all the replies.) Yes I did get to see the little one. :) It is great to see my daughter in law's maternal instinct kick in! And my son took some shots of me with Alexander-- whether I liked it or not. So man no way do I want to stay looking like that. I want to look more like 'myself'.
Shadowminx welcome! I'm a newbie too. I also get frustrated by a lack of progress. So we can encourage one another. Adon I'm glad you are still going strong. Just as long as you realize a gain is just part of the cycle. Maybe you should wait till it's over? Whatever you think will encourage you to stick with your program the most.
Talk to you guys later, the dog needs to go out. Good exercise and all that..... :)
11-26-2006, 02:04 PM
Rockinrobin thanks so much for all the help. I have read it and re-read it and everything you said is so helpful to me.
You are so very welcome. Anytime. I am glad you are doing well and that you made it through Thanksgiving. This is a really, really hard time of year. And is it possible that you can avoid the scale until TOM is over? Just a thought, I for one can't, although I know that I should.
And Princess, I'm glad you got to see the little cutie and it sounds great that your daughter in law is doing the maternal thing. He sounds like he's in good hands.
And a big hearty :welcome: to shadowminx. We're glad to have you here. I've never heard of the Shangri-la diet, although it sounds a heckuva lot better then the "Where's the Food Diet" :hun: Good luck to you.
Stay well everybody.
11-26-2006, 04:00 PM
Hi Everyone . . . I'm new here too but have already found wonderful support and invaluable advice and support - not to mention GREAT recipes!
I just DO NOT have what it takes to count calories, fat intake etc so have returned to the only diet/lifestyle that ever "worked" for me and the one that I feel GOOD on: Atkins/low carb. This entire Forum is Faboo and the welcome I got at the low carb section has been phenomenally motivational for me already!:carrot:
I'm incredibly busy as well - disabled hub, night shift etc etc . . . but have noticed that I am already loving myself/taking time for myself more! Just simple, quick things like extra time brushing my teeth . . . cocoa butter lotioning my body after a quick shower . . . putting make-up on every day no matter what.
Just really LOVE this place already!:)
11-26-2006, 08:55 PM
I also have a lot of weight to lose. I gained 150 pounds in about 4 years.
I agree with someone else who said motivation waxes and wanes. If I eat something I shouldn't, I pick up and keep going.... I do not 'start over' - my husband pointed out how self-defeating that message was.
I have lost 46 pounds, and have still over 100 to go. But I will get there, no matter how long it takes.
12-11-2006, 01:51 PM
Well I'm back. How is everyone doing? Guess what I am down a total of twenty pounds now, i.e. I lost two pounds in the last couple of weeks. I know it doesn't sound impressive but it is good to finally see the scale move-- and in the right direction! :)
12-11-2006, 01:52 PM
And welcome Aud! :) How you doing?
12-11-2006, 02:51 PM
One thing that I think you should take into consideration as well, is that it took quite sometime for us to get where we are, and we are carrying a lot of frustrations in these extra pounds, so take your time, change slowly but deeply, and donīt be so hard on yourself .... YOU WILL GET THERE !:)
I love that. It's statements like that that keep me motivated and excited about losing weight!!
12-12-2006, 09:26 PM
Since others have used this thread to say hello then I'll do the same. I have dieted and exercised on and off for years. It was on and off because I kept convincing myself that my weight wasn't really a problem. BUT IT IS!! So I'm gonna try again.