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AmberKay
09-30-2006, 03:33 AM
My buddy's getting married and I'm a bridesmaid. The wedding's Dec. 30th, which is exactly 3 months from now. I want to lose around 30 lbs by then, more or less...which isn't exactly unreasonable because I know I'm retaining a good 6 or 8 lbs of water right now (I know...I'm bad. stupid sodium.). I know my body and I'm pretty sure I can lose the weight.

Right now I'm a 10 or 12. 30 lbs loss should put me at an 8, maybe even a 6 (I'm one of the lucky ones, my stomach is one of the first places to lose fat.) I have to tell my friend a dress size by next week, so what should I tell her? I don't want to go too big, but I really don't want the dress to be too small!!!

Which size should I give her?


NemesisClaws
09-30-2006, 03:38 AM
Hmm..sticky question....Is there no way you can have it altered later on down the line?

I would say go with a size 10 for now, because it would be easier to take in a dress if you lose weight than it is to gain it. If you're absolutely confident that you can lose enough for a size 8, and that you will be committed to doing that, then say size 8. Hope this helps! Either way, you'll be looking good for x-mas! :)

AmberKay
09-30-2006, 03:55 AM
Yes, alterations will happen. But I won't be able to fly down until 4 days before the wedding, and even then I'll be really busy planning the bachelorette party (yay!) and helping to put the final touches on the wedding. I want the dress to be altered as little as possible.

hm...I want to say 8. But that makes me nervous. :) Actually, I think I was a size 8 at 150 lbs, so if I do lose the 30-odd I'll still have to get it taken it in. hum hum hum....I wonder if I'm being overly optomistic here?


sh3l5
09-30-2006, 09:29 AM
well at 154 im a 16, so my god u r lucky!

TamiL
09-30-2006, 09:42 AM
Wow a 10 at 172 and 5"1'!!! Thats great!!! I am 5'3", 149 and still need atleast a 12 in a dress...................its the boobs!!! I'd say go with what you are sure of and take it in if necessary. Its more fun to have to say you need to take it in than to pray it fits!!!

callystia
09-30-2006, 09:44 AM
Yes, definitely OVERestimate the size. It's a heck of a lot easier to get it taken in than to exchange it at a late date for a larger dress! And also remember that many times, formal dresses are sized far differently from "regular" wear. Is there perhaps a bridal shop in your area which sells the same design? You can go there and get measured, and they can tell you exactly which size you need now, and you can choose from that which one you'll need. Good luck!

kl_life
09-30-2006, 10:31 AM
I just went through the same thing with my best friends wedding that is on October 7th. I got my measurements taken and called them in...I wear an 18 now (a 20 that was too big at that time) and wanted to order an 18 but the lady said it would be best to order an 18W for the 2 more inches that I needed in the waist. Of course the dress regularly would have cost me 140.00 it ended up costing me 200.00 cuz of it.
I knew that I was losing a good amount of weight and could lose enough by the wedding but I really didn't want to take the chance of not losing and not having a dress that fit.
I got the dress when I went back home and tried it on and it looked like someone draped a curtain around me it was horribly big. I had since ordering it managed to shed about 20lbs or so.
I took it to the seamstress and she said that I should have ordered a 16! I had to take a bunch in all over but luckily she only charged me 25.00 to do it. She would have like to take the skirt in at the bottom as well but there wasn't a seam...anyways it looks waay better now than before.
Be very realistic if your going to order smaller...maybe a size only...you can always have it altered! It's really amazing what a seamstress can do in a short amount of time!!

boaterswife
09-30-2006, 10:54 AM
Congratulations on the weight you've lost so far, and on committing to your goal!

Just one note of concern: Bridesmaid dresses (at least here in St. Louis) tend to run very small. Last wedding I was in I wore an 18 in regular clothes, but a 24 in that god-awful dress.....

kykaree
10-01-2006, 12:11 AM
well at 154 im a 16, so my god u r lucky!

In the US you are a 12-14!!!! ;) Move over the pond and drop two dress sizes!!! Better than when I moved from Australia to England and I gained a size overnight!

redlight
10-01-2006, 12:27 AM
Amber,

Why don't you tell your bride-to-be friend what you've told us?

nelie
10-01-2006, 12:51 AM
You should also remember that formal gowns are a little tighter. My wedding dress is a size 22 but i am a size 20. It would be better for it to be a little big than too tight.

AmberKay
10-01-2006, 03:35 AM
I got sized at David's Bridal, which is where she's buying the dresses.

Yeah, I've noticed that I'm small for my weight. I wear a medium in most shirts too...I've got really muscular legs. Verrrry large thighs. I think that might have something to do with it...? Maybe. Nobody ever believes me when I tell them how much I weigh. In fact, the bride-to-be said she wasn't even going to ask for my measurements, and she was going to order me a size 6! (and she's not the type to flatter...) my response was, "You're kidding. I'm a looot bigger than that."

Hmmmm...I think I'm going to go ahead and tell her to get me a 10. I do not want to get there and pop the seams of a dress that's too small! :o It'll shock her size 2 butt. :D I think a 10 is going to seem unimaginable to her,:p she's tiny.

sh3l5
10-01-2006, 04:47 AM
In the US you are a 12-14!!!! ;) Move over the pond and drop two dress sizes!!! Better than when I moved from Australia to England and I gained a size overnight!

Well to be honest I can squeeze into a UK 14 it is just not very comfortable thats all. With most of my clothes I have I am having to wear them on my hips so that they dont fall down!

FionaMSC
10-01-2006, 05:07 AM
I was wondering what the difference in sizes for women are from the UK to the US... I am going to America in December, am a size 18 here in the UK (hope to drop a size by then...) - so would that make me a 14 in the states? With the so good against the $, it would be rude not to shop! :D

And Amber, congrats on the weight loss - I would say a 10, I have found from experience if I put that kind of pressure on myself, it doesn't always go the way I want it to. Alterations from a 10 to an 8 will be possible, and think how good you will feel as the dressmaker has to nip in the inches!

freiamaya
10-01-2006, 12:34 PM
A dress is easy to take in, but almost impossible to let out. Each dress fits differently. AND, the best laid plans may not come to be. Go with something SNUG but acceptable now, and relax!
Congrats on your weight loss!

sotypical
10-01-2006, 01:53 PM
hm...I want to say 8. But that makes me nervous. :) Actually, I think I was a size 8 at 150 lbs, so if I do lose the 30-odd I'll still have to get it taken it in. hum hum hum....I wonder if I'm being overly optomistic here?

For starters I don't want to burst your bubble but I think you are being too optomistic. Losing 30 pounds in 2 months is very unlikely and not to mention unhealthy - that is about 3 pounds a week. I would be aiming more for 1.5-2 (at most). And don't forget, the closer you get to goal the harder it is for you to lose.

Also, just because you were a size 8 at 150 pounds before doesn't mean you will be again. I am the same weight I was when I went to prom, and wearing more or less the same size clothes... I went to try on my prom dress and it was a no go - I could hardly get it zipped half way.

I say go for the size you are now, better safe then sorry.

Good luck.

AmberKay
10-01-2006, 02:36 PM
Yeah, that's what I was thinking. I'm sure my body's changed a LOT since I was an 8!

Minor correction...I have 3 months to lose 30 lbs, not 2. So that's about 2 lbs a week. And I would be perfectly happy losing 20 lbs. I just don't want to look the way I look right now at the wedding. :)

Oh, and I've been noticing that you're dropping some lbs! Good job!

sotypical
10-01-2006, 07:20 PM
Yeah, that's what I was thinking. I'm sure my body's changed a LOT since I was an 8!

Minor correction...I have 3 months to lose 30 lbs, not 2. So that's about 2 lbs a week. And I would be perfectly happy losing 20 lbs. I just don't want to look the way I look right now at the wedding. :)

Oh, and I've been noticing that you're dropping some lbs! Good job!

Sorry your right 3 months... BUT during the last two weeks of december do you plan on stay on track? haha.. I dont... BRING ON THE TURKEY AND STUFFING!! lol - good luck :)

almostheaven
10-01-2006, 11:56 PM
Not only the last two weeks of December, but don't forget that Thanksgiving turkey in there too. Why create stress? Buy a dress that fits. If you lose, great, take it in. If you don't, you're not stressed. The wedding will be stressful enough.

About the difference in sizes...I'm wearing mostly 10s now at 145 lbs. and 5' 4" I can wear a couple size 8s. A lot of it also depends on how they're made. This dress may be sized differently than your normal clothes.

AmberKay
10-02-2006, 01:51 AM
oooo, I hate thanksgiving and christmas food!!! Not kidding! I actually lose weight during the holidays (except new years, but that's a different story...hehe)

almostheaven-I know the dresses are sized differently than my normal ones. I've been sized at the same chain she's buying the dresses from. A 12 would be a bit too big on me and a 10 would be a big tight...I'm in between the two.

start8
10-02-2006, 03:54 PM
Bridesmaid dresses are made small. I normally wear a 6 at 128 (same height) and my dress (last weekend) was an 8. It's easier to alter down than to let it out. The smallest I'd go with would be an 8.

Tisha___
10-02-2006, 04:26 PM
Is there any way that she could FedEx the dress to you about a month before the wedding, and you could have it altered when the time is right, then take it with you when you go to the wedding? If you're going to need it taken in, 4 days doesn't give you much time... especially since it's around the Holidays and everything is always busier/takes more time around x-mas.

alinnell
10-02-2006, 05:58 PM
A dress is easy to take in, but almost impossible to let out. Each dress fits differently. AND, the best laid plans may not come to be. Go with something SNUG but acceptable now, and relax!
Congrats on your weight loss!

Tell me about it!! My friend was getting married, I got fitted for the dress, and voila! I got pregnant. I didn't worry--at first, but then 5 months went by and I was showing when the ceremony took place. Thankfully, the dress was able to be let out a wee bit so that I could WEAR it, but I couldn't SIT DOWN in it. I had to discreetly hike the dress up past my hips so I could sit down. Not fun but definately funny now that we look back at it!!!

Zorak
10-02-2006, 08:53 PM
I would get the size that fits you now. Even if you stay 100% on plan, that doesn't always mean that you will lose weight. There's always the possiblity that you might hit a plateau.

Worst case scenario with a larger dress is that it will have to be altered if you lose enough weight. No biggie.

jillybean720
10-03-2006, 06:51 AM
Is there any way that she could FedEx the dress to you about a month before the wedding, and you could have it altered when the time is right, then take it with you when you go to the wedding? If you're going to need it taken in, 4 days doesn't give you much time... especially since it's around the Holidays and everything is always busier/takes more time around x-mas.
I completely agree--4 days for alterations (other than maybe a quick hem) is rarely enough time if you go to a busy seamstress. We just got our dresses from David's Bridal in the spring, and you can order the dresses all together at any David's Bridal (to ensure color sameness by being of the same dye lot) and have the individual dresses sent to the individual party members (I don't remember if they send them directly to your home or to a David's Bridal location closer to you--but either way, it would give you more than 4 days for tailoring!).

I typically wear a size 22 and had to order my maid-of-honor dress in a size 24, and it was STILL really tight. Just because they already measured you means NOTHING--different styles of dresses can fit very differently. I would go to David's Bridal and try on the dress in whatever size you need now to ensure that your measurements taken by the associate actually match up with the size of dress you need.