Support Groups - ~~ Thin Wannabees Chit-Chat #21 ~~




CJ
09-19-2006, 10:15 AM
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Hello and welcome to the Thin Wannabees! :cheer:

We are a friendly group of ladies who have one thing in common. We are all working together toward our goal of being healthier in our daily lifestyles and to lose weight. There are all different ages and backgrounds here and we all have different ways of losing our weight. We all love to have fun and laugh, but we also give a lot of support, encouragement and motivation for one another, not just in weight loss, but in all of our daily joys and struggles.

Everyone has their ups and downs and we’ll be here with you thru both! Please feel free to post with us - just jump right in and believe me, you will be welcomed with open arms. The more the merrier!

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CJ
09-19-2006, 10:29 AM
Good morning everyone! How are you all doing? Where is everyone? Not much going on at this end - had more company over the weekend - my very good girlfriend from downstate came to visit us! I am still going to Curves Monday thru Friday - and still loving it. My weight is still at the same tho - I hope it will drop soon. Hope to hear from the rest of you gals soon! We do have a new member - Scalewatcher - and I do hope our "absense" doesn't scare her off - lol.

Well, need to get dressed and get to Curves. I'll check back in here later and sure do hope to hear from you all soon.

Love, CJ

TamiL
09-19-2006, 12:55 PM
Hiya CJ and welcome to scalewatcher!!! Same old same old here. Still not sure I like my new job. I'm supposed to work 7 to 11 pm at night but due to mandatory overtime conditions in place for over a year, my schedule seems to be 5:45 to 11 5 days a week right now. It really interferes with dinner time and my husbands schedule. I figure one night he won't be home on time and I'll get myself fired for being late to work. First time for everything.

I bought a new scale last week because my five year old son decided to jump on the old upright one and now it doesn't seem to work properly. The new one is a cheapo digital one and I can't get the same weight twice!!! I range from 148 to 157 depending on how many times I step on it, LOL Gonna go get a simple old fashioned one I think. I don't think I have gained anything or lost much in the last month. I can now where a size 8 jeans, which is about as small as I care to be anyways so it doesn't really matter what that stupid machine says.

Well gotta run off and take Nick to kindergarten. Good job on getting to curves CJ!!

TamiL


Sassy
09-28-2006, 04:26 PM
:carrot: Hi guys,
Man I have been busy going as usual. I just went to San Francisco with Chrissy, from out Thin Group/Wanabee's. We had so much fun, it was a last minute trip but neither one of us had been there and we had a ball, such a beautiful town. We went to Carmel, Monterey, Pebble Beach, Sauslito and Muir Woods. San Francisco is a wonderful town, we rode the cable cars, went to Chinatown, Haigh Asbury, North Beach, Alcatraz and Fisherman's Wharf too. Had such a good time, was not wanting to leave. But it won't be my last time if I have anything to do with it. I want to go back with Ken one day. :dancer:

Sylvia-I completly forgot you lived there or it would have been so nice to see you. Where have you been? Are you doing OK? I haven't been here in a while but will have to try to get here more often. If I go back again I will try to see you. How are you doing? Family OK, sure hope so. Post when you have a minute and let us know how you are doing. :listen:

CJ-It sounds like you have been doing so well with Curves, I am back in the swing of things and going once again almost every day. Lot of excitment between all of your family and your girlfriend and her daughter visiting.Hope you had a great time with all of them. How does your new countertop look? I am sure it looks great. :yes:

scalewatcher-Hi there and welcome to our group. :welcome3: You will love it here. We are a great group and we will give you lots of motivation, encouragement and support.

KimV-Glad that Hannah is doing good in school. That is horrible what happened to the Crocodile Hunter. I really liked him and know that he is Hannah's Idol. Let us know how it went when you told her, I feel so bad for her and hope it went well. :)

TamiL-Sorry about your scale, but I would do as you want to do and just go out and buy a new one. But don't worry, what matters is how your clothes fit. By the way congratulations on making it to your goal. You have done an amazing job and I couldn't be prouder of you. :bravo:

Well better go, have lots to do. Tomorrow Ken and I are going back to California. This time to Santa Barbara to see our son, Alan in the Air Force. He was soppose to come home on leave yesterday, but because of work, they are short handed and he can't take his leavel and come home. One of the guys got on a motorcycle and smashed into a tree in Santa Barbara, but another one was with him and let him ride his extra bike without making sure the one who died had his certificate that said he took the safety classes, so he is in trouble too and they are investigating the accident. But the thing is, is that he is going to Korea for a year in a couple of weeks and I don't to wait over a year to see him. I was in tears when I found out they cancelled his leave. So if he can't come home than we figure we will go see him at his base. He is stationed at Vandenburg AFB in Lompac,Ca. But Ken and I will have to amuse ourselves during the day as he is working 8 and 12 hr days, with no days off so he is going to talk to his supervisor and see if they can give him at least a part of the day off for a couple of days so we can spend some time with him. Otherwise I guess we will be seeing him only at dinner. We will see. :dizzy:

Take care everyone and see you after I get back, which will be after Wednesday. :joker:

Love you,Sharon

KimV
09-29-2006, 02:11 AM
Hi everyone,

Boy, have I been busy. But I will get to that in a minute. First, the good news...

I am wearing a pair of jeans I have not been able to get into in a long time, probably at least 6 months. They are tight, but not uncomfortable. They are a pair of men's jeans, with a 38" waist. Used to wear them all the time, but gained weight last winter, then gained more while on sick leave. Boy, do I really feel good about myself right now! :carrot: :dancer: :D

Hannah took the loss of the Crocodile Hunter like only Hannah can do. Being autistic, I never know how she will react. She hasn't cried or acted upset by it. She has been angry, but that is directed to the stingray. She has asked questions like "Will he make more shows?" and "Is he in heavan?" I just take it one question and one day at a time with her. Watching his memorial service on TV kinda got to her, and she was full of questions that night, and almost cried, but didn't. So, we just play it by ear with her, and answer her questions, over and over and over again. She still wants to work at the Australia Zoo when she grows up, and it's like she is more determined than ever. I do hope she can achieve her dream.

I have recently joined the local civic theater here in town. A friend of mine has been involved in it for years, and finally talked me into it. I am working backstage doing set changes, and having a blast. Opening night is Friday, and I'm actually nervous about it. Can't imagine what I would be like if I was on stage.

My friend is so good in his role, though. He makes it look so easy. He is trying to get me to try out for a part, and I told him maybe one day. Right now, I am happy working on the sets and helping out backstage.

Work is going so much better than it has been going. I have a new supervisor that actually compliments peoples work. Not just point out all the things they do wrong. So, my attitude at work is improved some, and I believe so has my job performance. I almost like my job again. But I am still looking for another job. If the right one comes along, I might take it.

Guess that is all for now. I promise not to make it such a long time in posting. Hopefully, after this weekend (the show is this weekend), things will slow down for me.

Kim

TamiL
09-30-2006, 10:35 AM
KimV

Congrats on fitting into your pants!!!! Now that is a wonderful achievment.

My daughter, she's 7, was a bit taken back by the loss of Steve Irwin too. She asked alot of questions about death in general. I'm glad Hannah is doing ok now.

Glad to see work is better now. Its amazing what a change in a supervisor and attitude can do for the environment. My workplace sees changes in staff on a daily basis.....7 quit Tuesday alone, LOL Unfortunately the change isn't coming from the management levels and that is truly where this company's problems exist. Perhaps I should point this out, I don't have anything to lose because I don't really care about my job right now.

The civic theater sounds like alot of fun....good for you! I wish you luck and happiness with that.

Yesterday I woke up with the right side of my face swelled to twice the size of my left. It hurt so bad and I couldn't get to see the doctor until after 6 pm because it was my last training day and I had to take a stupid idiot test and work the phones for 6 hours. Normally the phones don't bother me because god knows, I can talk to a total stranger for hours on end if you let me. But yesterday was different because it hurt just to move my mouth.....some would have considered this a blessing, LOL Went to the health clinic and go 2 lovely shots in the rear quarters and a prescription for antibiotics. This morning the swelling is still there but its slowly receding. The doctor doesn't think its an abcessed tooth, he said it started too high on my cheek and thinks I have a dreaded sinus infection. My first one........don't I feel blessed, LOL

Well gotta run, hope everyone has a wonderful weekend. TamiL

KimV
10-03-2006, 09:29 PM
Tammi, I feel for you if it is a sinus infection. I have had those for years. Due to my allergies, and all the infections, I had to have surgery to finally fix things (had polops in my sinuses, blocking them from draining). I'm fine now, and would go through that surgery again just to be able to stay well. lol.

Anyway, glad to hear the swelling is going down some. I am a talker, too (couldn't guess could you?) and I know some people probably would be consider it a blessing, too. lol. My soon-to-be ex used to joke he hoped I would get larengitis when I caught a cold.

Hope you get to feeling better, and excuse my poor spelling.

Kim

TamiL
10-04-2006, 12:57 AM
Kim,
Thanks! The swelling has mostly gone away, I still have a lump on the side of my nose. It doesn't hurt much anymore but I am really leaning towards the tooth problems. But with no dental insurance atleast until the new year when the post office finally gets to get dental coverage I will just have to tough it out.
Don't worry about your spelling, I used to be a champion speller in grade school and now I just type whatever comes to mind without paying much attention to if its spelled correctly, LOL
Now thats funny what your ex thought!! I work in customer service for a cell phone carrier.......I talk nonstop to these people, mostly I just talk in circles because I really can't help them much. Sad but unfortunately true. Did I mention, I hate my job!!! The turnover rate is incredibly high because we aren't treated very well. 7 people quit on one day last week. I figure I'll try to tough it out until Christmas and then search for greener pastures. That is ofcourse unless they fire me first....it will be a first time for me if I get fired but for some strange reason, I actually look forward to it, LOL I think I just have a low tolerance for idiots the older I get.
Well I hope all is well at your house. The next few months are going to be busy busy busy here with the holidays coming on. I just love Christmas with the kids. I just wish they liked toys still. Its going to be an electronic Christmas here and thats just not as much fun as all the cute little toys they used to want. Gotta run, time for bed.

Tami

CJ
10-04-2006, 10:30 AM
Hi ladies! A real quickie here as I am trying to type in between storms and will have to shut down real soon! REAL SOON!

Sorry I haven't been in lately ... have had a alot of stuff to do and just haven't been on the computer much at all.

Tami: I don't want to alarm you but please do go see the dentist as soon as you can and have that checked out. It very much could be an infected tooth! The same thing happened to my hubby a few years back - he is not prone to sinus problems at all and he woke up one morning with his whole side of his face swelled up! My first reaction was an absessed tooth but he dissagreed with me (of course, men don't like us women to be right) ... he just got some over the counter sinus medicine (we weren't close to home when this happened) and the next day he was even worse than the first so we took him to the clinic and they sent him to the hospital for exrays and their conclusion was also a sinus infection. Well, of course theanitbiotics worked and the swelling went down but when he went to the dentist when we got home he mentioned the incident to the dentist and they took exrays, then took exrays again and indeed their was a tooth that was absessing - it was in a hard to find place. Problem taken care of and he has had no problems since. Definately no sinus problems! (like me)! And ... he even admitted that his wife was right! LOL So please, have it checked out when you can just to be sure.

Sorry I can't post individually to the rest of you all now .. gotta run - here comes the storms again! I'll be back.

Love, CJ

scalewatcher
10-04-2006, 12:48 PM
Hey Yall - I have great news I lost 3.6 pounds this week. I am so excited. I have a busy next few days (until Sunday) so I may not be able to post very often but don't forget about me I'll be back.

CJ
10-09-2006, 12:58 AM
Hey there Scalewatcher - great news! 3 1/2 lbs is greeeeeaaaat! Keep up the good work. Sorry about our missing gals ... I'm sure things will get more chatty soon - I hope anyways. Guess we're all just busy.

Hope everyone is fine and hope to hear from EVERYONE very soon!

Love, CJ

KimV
10-11-2006, 01:44 AM
Hi y'all,

Well, the show is over, and the set is torn down. Back to my 'normal' life. lol. I'm actually glad everything is done for right now. As much fun as I had, I need to get things done around the house, and have school work to keep up with, besides trying to keep up with my seven year old.

The experience with the civic theatre was fantastic, though. I learned a lot, and made some new friends. I got involved in the show in the last couple weeks of rehearsal, but was made to feel welcomed and part of this extended family. And the producer made me feel like I really did some good there. It's always a nice feeling to be wanted. lol. She did tell me she would call me the next time she produces a show.

And I've decided, once Hannah gets older, if she wants to volunteer, or even try out for some parts, I would love to see her get involved. She came to a couple rehearsals with me, and seemed to fall in love with all the activity going on. It was hard to keep her off stage. She loved the attention she got from everyone complimenting her on how pretty she is, and how good she was.

I had parent/teacher conference last week with Hannah's teacher. I knew Hannah was doing well in school, but she amazed me. She got all 100%'s on her report card, hasn't missed any spelling words, math problems, etc yet (and I say yet. I know she's not perfect and the day will come when she gets stumped by something). She did very well on the state and local testings, though she could have done better if they weren't timed tests. She is too much the perfectionist was the problem. One test she received the highest scores for first grade. (A "mini" achievement like test that I don't think students officially do until third grade). The way the teacher explained it, most first graders are expected and usually get around the low 20's in points out of 40 possible. Hannah got 32 out of 40. It seems her only problem was it being timed. Talk about being blown out of the water! I'm amazed. I don't even know what to think about her some days. But, I know she has the ability to do well in school, and I will probably end up being very tough on her. I had a mom who hated school when she was a kid, so didn't push us kids. As long as we passed, she was happy. I dropped classes just because I didn't want to work hard at them, and she was always okay with it. Now, I think I'm going to turn into some kind of monster with Hannah if I'm not careful.

Her teacher and I did discuss her autism, and she thinks maybe Hannah has Asperger's Syndrome. People with Asperger's are high functioning, and show high intelligence, and it is a form of autism. I'm wondering now if I shouldn't have Hannah re-evaluated to make sure we have the right diagnosis for her, and if it would do any good to change her diagnosis from mild autism to Asperger's if that is what she has. Will it make any difference in her life? I guess I will have to do some research on it. By the way, can't tell I'm the proud mom right now, can you? lol :D

Well, not much of a difference on the weight loss end of things. I haven't gained any weight that I can tell, but don't think I've lost any, either. I'm not really worrying about it right now. Not watching what I eat, and definatly not drinking water like I was. I'm also hitting the pop hard at work again. If I'm not careful, I will be back out of those jeans again before I know it, specially with winter coming.

guess that is all for now. I'm going to head to bed so I can start another wonderful day in that lovely factory I feel like I call home some days.

Take care and talk to you all soon,

Kim

Sassy
10-12-2006, 06:51 PM
Hi guys,
Is everyone ready for the weekend? I am! We are having our Ethnic Expo and I look forward to it every year. There will be rows and rows of ethnic booths with all different foods. I like to try to stay on program, I like the asian booths where I can get some chicken or beef on a stick. But there are also the Polish perogi's, German potato pancakes and other no so good for me foods, which I love. Not to mention the booth where they have tables and tables of deserts for this womans service league. I guess I will just split something with Ken and eat 2 bites and tell him to eat the rest. LOL

KimV-That is great that you are fitting into your old jeans. How good a feeling is that? Glad you had a good experience helping with your show. And how great is little Hannah doing so good at school? Considering all she has to overcome, that is great. You have done such a great job with her, give yourself a pat on the back as well.

TamiL-Sorry about all your recent trouble with the sinus infection, but I am glad your swelling is going down and hopefully things will return to normal. I had a sinus infection many years ago and thought I would die it hurt so bad. Sorry about your job, But I think it is a good move to tough it out, with Christmas coming up, it will sure help you out.

scalewatcher-Congratulations on your 3.6 lb loss too. You should be proud and I am sure that your clothes are getting bigger and bigger on you. Don't worry if you are busy and can't post, I know the feeling. Post when you get unbusy and don't worry we won't forget you. You are a great addition to our wonderful group.

CJ-My gosh you have been a busy lady lately. I am sure things are a bit quitier with all your company gone. I love when my family comes around, in fact Tracy and her husband, Brett just surprised us on Friday and popped in on us. Didn't tell me, Just Ken, so Kelly and I were both surprised. We got together a couple of times and had a great time. I know you too love when your family comes for a visit.


We had a great time when we went to Lompac and visited Alan. I think he was so happy that we took the time to fly there before he went off to Korea. We had a great time, visited Santa Barbara and some other beautiful places on the Pacific ocean. He is now in Korea and just called yesterday to let us know he got there safe and sound. I know with everything going on with North Korea, it worries me. But I know that North Korea is communist and in Osan, South Korea it is not so I am hoping and praying that he stays safe. I miss him though and hope that the year that is is gone passes quickly.


Well take care guys and talk to you all later, Love you, Sassy Sharon :carrot:

CJ
10-18-2006, 11:23 AM
Good morning everyone! Where are you all??? Come out come out wherever you are!

Just getting ready here to go to Curves - still going 5 days a week and still loving it! I get my third weigh-in in another week so we'll see ...

Kim:
Good job on getting into your smaller jeans! I'm in between a size right now so hopefully I may be able to do that also - soon! I hope anyway.

Sharon:
Hey girlfriend - sounds like you had a lot of fun with Allen - I bet he was really happy to see you and Ken. I'm sure he will be fine in Korea - we'll just all keep him in our hearts and prayers that he will be safe while he is there. Hey, I sent you an email - did you get it? We may be right in your area the end of the month - shall I bring the buttershots? just in case? LOL

Tami:
How is your sinus infection? Hope you are feeling better - did you get checked by the dentist tho in case it is a tooth problem? Speakaing of sinus isnfections - I have been fighting one myself for the last 2 weeks. They are definately not fun!

Everyone else - please do come back and post with us! We miss you all - let us know how you are doing.

We are still undecided on whether we will be going to Indiana the end of this month for a family reunion. So many things are going on right now - we'll probably be deciding at the last minute .. anyway - Sharon - if we do go I sure do hope we can get together! How fun will that be!

OK ... hope to hear from everyone SOON! Talk to ya all later...

Love, CJ

Sassy
10-19-2006, 12:06 AM
Hey CJ,
Thanks for the well wishes and the prayers for Alan in Korea.Yes, hopefully we can see you if you come at the end of the month for a visit. Maybe I have some Buttershots, I will check and see and let you know. I did get your email and the one you resend as well today I think I got it and plan to answer it soon. Glad you are doing so well with Curves, I also try to get to Curves almost every day and when I don't go I try to either walk or jump on my new exercise bike downstairs or do one of my Leslie Sansone video's I have. You are doing great CJ with your exercise program. Keep up the great work.

Yes, where are the rest of us Wannabee's???? Come on back and post with us. WE MISS YOU!!!!

Take care guys and talk to you later, Sharon

KimV
10-19-2006, 01:42 AM
Hi everyone,

Just checking in. Not much going on here. I'm working a 'split shift' this week and maybe next (11 am - 7:30 pm). Not that great, but better than getting up at 5 am. I was offered second shift, but turned it down because I would never see Hannah except for the weekends. I love second shift, and if she was grown, I would of taken it. It was a nice feeling, after all the trouble I have had at work, to be offered the shift and to feel I am really appreciated by someone. It's kinda interesting the lead on second shift told my lead on first he doesn't see where I'm struggling with my job. Maybe it's the atmosphere of another shift?? Maybe the fact I'm complimented on my work once in awhile instead of always critisized??

Well, I think I'm off to bed. Got the furnace repair people coming out to fix the furnace. Darn thing isn't working (again). Wonder how much that is going to cost (My dad is going to pay for it because I don't have the money, or else I would probably have to figure something else out for the winter).

Talk to you all later.

Kim

TamiL
10-19-2006, 08:52 AM
Good morning ladies! Hope everyone is doing well and keeping busy.

KimV- split shift doesn't sound too awful. I only work part time from 5:45 to 11 (it's supposed to be just 7 to 11, damned mandatory overtime). I don't really dislike the hours too much, for me its just the job. I really am not cut out to lie to people on a daily basis and thats what I feel that I do! If I don't get myself fired by Christmas, I think I'll quit........okay I might quit on a whim if someone says the wrong thing to me. My husband justs laughs when I actually go to work and stay there. He expects me to just walk out one evening, LOL Hope the furnace man comes soon and gets your house warm. Normally I would think its too early for the furnace but this fall I am literally freezing. My old "layers" must of kept me warmer than I thought.
My daughter (she is 8) came home from school yesterday and told me her friends mom died. All she knew is that her friends mom didn't get a new heart. I feel bad because I didn't even know she was ill. Holly has been making a sweet little card for her friend. She is such a caring little girl but now of course she will worry about us dying for awhile now. 8 is just way too young for kids to have to deal with death.

Not much going on here, I am down to about 145 now..........no longer dieting, just losing still. This always happens when I get lazy about my walking (haven't done this in 3 weeks now) and quit worrying about my eating. Its like my body gets on a plateau and then its stunned when I quit trying so hard, LOL Well have a good one ladies and hope to hear more from you all!!!

Sassy
10-23-2006, 09:38 PM
How is everyone tonight? We just got back from Michigan, and it was not a happy time there like when we usually go. My husbands, Ken's sister, Carol is terminally ill with cancer. She has been battling this for over 4 yrs, she had a breast removed 3 yrs ago and has been getting radiation and chemo for years since than. But now it has spread and there is nothing more they can do. She has had all the treatment they can do, the last one, called The Red Devil, they did 2 times and it hasn't worked for her.

So now she is in Hospice and is not expected to live too much longer. So we went to Michigan with another sister, Janet that lives in Columbus, Indiana too. It was a really sad time, we wanted to see her while she was still alive and could talk to us. She wasn't the most alert, as she is on Morphine and other drugs for the pain. Ken has a really big family and we were all there all weekend with her. She is only expected to live a short while, the dr's said it could be 2 days or 2 weeks. She is only 57 yrs old and too young to die. I have been in this family for over 30 yrs and known Carol since we were both in our 20's and I just love her so much and it pains me to see how much they are all hurting.

The sad thing is that she lost her husband over 4 yrs ago of a brain anurism and not 2 months later they found the cancer. It has now spread to her live and lymph nodes and everywhere else. Her poor stomach is all bloated like she is 9 months pregnant, because it is so full of water and she is so weak and lost so much weight too. It was so hard seeing her like that, she did know who we were, but I don't know how she stands being is so much pain and I can only imagine what she is thinking because she hardly talks much, just one word here and there. She is seeing all these people, relatives and church people coming to say goodbye. My heart was breaking for her and her kids.

She has 2 children, a girl and a boy, both in their early 20's that really need her, they are both single and living at home. This is Ken's first sibling loss, unlike me that has lost my Mom and 2 of my brothers. One was murdered and the other, who lived with me just died July 15th. His Dad passed a way 5 yrs ago, but his Mom is still alive and we feel so bad that she will be burying her daughter, that is not natural to outlive your children as my Dad has with his 2 sons.

So this weekend, it was nice to see all my brother in law's and sister in law's but hard on us. We had to have a family meeting with all the legal and medical stuff and information about the will, providing for her kids and everything else it involves. They will have a tough time without her, but we will do the best we can to help them along. So we might be going back as soon as they call, which I don't look forward to.

Kim-It sounds like your shift is working out for the best for you and the people on your shift are appreciate you and all your hard work. Take care of yourself, I know you will.

TamiL-So sorry about your daughter's friends Mother. It must be especially hard for her being so young to lose her Mom. It is not fair at all for her friend to lose her Mom at just 8 yrs old. Life is sure not fair is it? Life is not fair, as I have found with my Sister In Law too, but I guess we don't get to pick and choose when we go. But that is sweet of your wonderful daughter to make that card for her friend.

Well hope to see more Wannabee's soon, take care everyone and talk to you later. Sharon

KimV
10-24-2006, 02:16 AM
Sassy--My prayers are with you and Ken and family. I will add you to our prayer list at church if that is okay. If you need anything, or just want to talk and still have my number, call me, or email me.

Kim

Sassy
10-25-2006, 12:18 AM
Thanks Kim, for your post.We are headed tomorrow to Michigan to be with the family and for Carol's funeral. Got your sweet email and wrote back as well. Will see you and everyone else when I get back, will post than.

Sassy Sharon

CJ
10-25-2006, 12:36 AM
Sharon:
I am so sorry to hear of Ken's sister .. You both are in Dick's and mine hearts and prayers. I sent you both an email ... I would have sooner but haven't been on here for a couple days. Have a safe trip to Michigan - my love to you and Ken. Remember, you have a friend here if you need me for anything.

Love, CJ

TamiL
10-26-2006, 10:51 AM
Sharon- So sad for your loss sweetie. You are in my thoughts right now.

I had a very teary morning yesterday. I was dropping my 8 year old daughter off at school and saw her friends father (the friend who just lost her mother last week) walking her to school......what really got me was he also was walking with a very young little boy holding his hand. I didn't know they had little ones. My older daughter told me thay have 5 children. Now 5 motherless children. It was just so darned upsetting to me and I don't even know them. I can't get it out of my mind. I so much want to help but I am a stranger to this family. Would it be impolite for me to ask if maybe I can take atleast the little girl (my daughters friend) for a sleepover and perhaps a shopping trip sometime over the next few months?
My husband says I should, but I have doubts. Mostly because they don't know me, but also because I really haven't ever dealt with death before and don't know how to approach people who are grieving. OK I admit I am a looney bird sometimes. This just really makes my heart ache.

Well gotta go and try to pretend I am a good housekeeper, LOL LOL LOL

KimV
10-27-2006, 04:16 AM
Tammi,

No, I don't think there would be anything wrong with you inviting your daughters friend over. It probably would do her good to go about with some 'normal' kid activities right now.

When my grandma died, it helped for me to go on with my daily routines. Didn't always make it easier, but it helped. It also helped to know I had the love and support of my friends and church family. It sometimes bothered me to talk about my grandma, but gave me great comfort when someone I didn't know very well at church would come up and let me know they were praying for me, or sometimes just give me a hug. I don't know what it would be like to loose a parent since both mine are living, and I can't begin to imagine what it would be like to loose one as a child, but if I would die while my daughter was young, I would be thankful if someone like you showed how much she cared to my daughter.

Hope this helps some.

Jane
10-30-2006, 05:23 PM
Just popping in to say your group and the Jaded Ladies are mentioned in a national magazine, if you didn't already know it! First magazine, dated November 20th, says this on page 31: "Do you love a good laugh? So do the gals at 3fatchicks.com. And they aren't shy about speaking their minds on any diet out there. Plus, groups with a tell-it-like-it-is monikers such as the Jaded Ladies and Thin Wannabees bolster lagging willpower with strategies for fighting ever-present temptations."

Although I don't always agree with some of their fad diets, and processed-food recipes, I think it's really cool that our groups were mentioned. :)

CJ
10-31-2006, 09:40 PM
Hi Jane and thanks for the info - I hadn't gotten the magazine yet but did so when you called. How cool is that! Our two groups mentioned in a national magazine! Hear that everyone?? We're FAMOUS!!!

Hope all is going well for everyone .. we were out of town for a couple days ... still going to Curves faithfully - my monthly weigh-in was yesterday - I am still only down 2 1/2 lbs but my total in inches is 12 inches!

Sharon - how did everything go downstate for you and Ken? Are you home yet? Post when you can.

Well, am very tired tonite so am hitting the bed early. We just got home from town - had to go see all the little trick or treaters in their costumes. They were all so darling.

Hope to see some more chit-chat in here!

Love, CJ

Sassy
11-01-2006, 01:30 AM
We just got back from Michigan last night. It went well, but was so sad, she was only 57, same age as me, but now her suffering is over. Thanks CJ, Kim and TamiL for your condolences.

Jane-How wonderful that we got mentioned in that magazine, I will be sure to go out and buy it right away. Thanks so much for posting and letting us know about that. How are you doing? I hope you are doing well.

CJ-Way to go with going to Curves and even better on your weight loss and your inches off too. Thanks so much for the beautiful flowers you sent to the funeral home. It was so kind of you and Dick to do that.

TamiL-That sounds like a very good idea to invite that little girl over for a sleepover. I know she would love it, it sounds like she has been through so much. Let us know how it goes if you do have her over.

Kim-How is it going my friend? Work going alright? Are you still on the same shift? Hope all is going well for you and Hannah?

Well did everyone have a good Halloween? Hope you didn't get into too much of the candy. Now if I can just avoid picking up some of the half price candy they have at the stores than all will be well. Why oh why do they do that anyways?

Well take care guys and talk to you later, Sassy Sharon :jig:

KimV
11-01-2006, 02:14 AM
Hi everyone!

Just a quick post before going to bed. I'm finishing up my second shift rotation this week, then back to day shift. I can't believe I'm going to say this, but I'm looking foward to going back to days! At least getting back into a normal routine again.

It is so cool that we are mentioned in a magazine. I have never heard of that magazine, but I'm going to try and find it and buy a copy just to have it.

Sharon--Glad your back. You and your family will continue to be in my prayers. I will try and email you when I have the time. I got midterms this week, and tons of homework to catch up on, so it may be awhile.

CJ--It's good to see you have the willpower to go to curves regularly. I can find every excuse in the book (no money, no time, school, etc) not to get involved in something like that. My mom keeps pushing me to join Curves or the YMCA (my preference), and the more she pushes, the more I resisit. My mom is a 'fat-a-phobic'. I never realized how much she is turned off by anyone overweight, and I think her feelings about that is what makes me resist doing anything about my weight. Doesn't make any sense does it?? I feel like she is ashamed of me at times because I am overweight. Oh well, I need to do this for myself, not for her, right?? Good luck and way to go!!

Got to run,

Kim

Sassy
11-02-2006, 12:31 AM
I went out and bought my copy of the Nov 20th "First" magazine Jane mentioned. The front cover is green and has a red banter on it saying "drop 43 lbs by Christmas". I had bought the magazine before, it is kind of like a Family Circle or Womens Day magazine. We are mentioned on page 31, under FIND THE RIGHT ONLINE SUPPORT FOR YOU! Here is a link to see what exactly what they said in case you want to sneak a peek.
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=96709

I feel it is an honor for our group to be mentioned in the magazine. Hope we get lots and lots of people joining our wonderful 3 Fat Chicks website and maybe some wonderful Newbies for us too. :grouphug:

KimV-I hope you do great with your midterms and ace them. Write when you get done with all you have to do, I can wait. I am glad you are getting back on the day shift if that suits you better. :cheer2:

Talk to you later, Sassy Sharon :dust:

CJ
11-03-2006, 02:30 PM
Just popping in to say hi and hope everyone is having a great day so far. Just got home from Curves. Boy do we have SNOW! About a foot and 1/2 at the moment and still coming down lightly now.

Kim: You should join YMCA because you want to not because someone is pushing you to join. I'm sure your mom doesn't look down on you for being overweight - she probably is worried about your health being overweight. You can do it and you will - and when and if you decide to join the Y or a gym, it will be (and should be) because YOU want to do it for yourself. You can do this - and you know we are all here for you!

Well, let's hope we get some more chit chatting going on in here! How's your Thanksgiving plans going? It's right around the corner you know .. and then you know what comes after that!! I'll give you a big clue ... C _ _ _ _ _ _ _ S!!! LOL

OK ... later
Love, CJ

joannahunt
11-07-2006, 06:51 PM
Hi all! Just wanted to drop by and say hi. I used to belong to the group when it was still the Thin Group! I saw the name change a while back when I was lurking and then just last night I saw you name mentioned in the First magazine and thought I would drop in.

I don't remember my old login but I was Joanna Freeman back then and I met CJ at an Olive Garden restaurant in Michigan bakc in 1999. So much has changed since then epxcept my weight! I am glad to see CJ, Sharon, and Kim V are still here, but what happened to Jello? Keep up the good work!

Hugs to all!
Joanna