100 lb. Club - Is my fat worth $100.00 per pound?




famograham
08-27-2006, 10:26 PM
My mother in law has just challenged me to the full time job of weight loss.
Out of love and fear for my health, she has offered me $100.00 a pound.

She is psychic and recently had a bad feeling about my health/heart.

What do you all think of this, and if you were in the same position, would it be enough motivation to get you through the entire journey?....will it be enough for me??

Food for thought,
:hug:
Linda


jtammy
08-27-2006, 10:36 PM
Hi Linda,

Wow....Well, I'm not sure if it would be enough motivation if you aren't in the right frame of mind.....It's hard to say. When I first started losing weight, I asked my husband if he would agree to reward me at certain milestones. The first 50 lbs was a digital camera, the second 50 lbs (100 lbs total) was a new laptop (which he still hasn't bought me, but that's another story), the remaining 60 lbs was a trip to Paris. I'm planning to lose the next 60 lbs but I'm not holding my breath for him to give me a trip to Paris. Initially it was all a little motivation for me, but not as much as the "if I don't do this for myself, I'll not live to see my kids grow up" feeling I had inside myself.

I can unequivocably say that there have been many periods of time in my lifewhen that would not have been enough. For years, I didn't want to think about my weight much less do anything about it. So during those years, it wouldn't have mattered if you had offered me the moon. I couldn't/wouldn't have done it.

Do you think it will be enough for you?

Sandi
08-27-2006, 10:38 PM
Holy Bad words Linda! $100.00 per lb?!?! For me that would end up being $20,00.00. I get could get so much reconstructive surgery with that!!!

Um, yes, it would motivate the heck out of me!!


Heather
08-27-2006, 11:08 PM
It sounds like a neat opportunity on the one hand, but has the potential to create odd family dynamics. But, that might just be my opinion.

rochemist
08-27-2006, 11:17 PM
It would totally demotivate me, if I don't work on self improvement for me than who am I working on it for? Just part of my rebellious nature I guess. I mean weightloss comes with benefits ie. your healthier therefore you live longer. But if I don't choose myself to be healthy it isn't going to happen.

mizz186
08-28-2006, 12:28 AM
That would solve so many money problems for me so yes it would motivate me...maybe A little too much...lol

madscientist
08-28-2006, 12:29 AM
Wow, that is a very generous offer. But I think for me, it would create problems. When things didn't go as planned, it's always bad enough when I'm disappointing myself, but to have another person to be accountable to for reward reasons would really do a number on me. The fear of not losing would manifest itself and then turn into a consuming guilt that I was disappointing someone. I need to be accountable to me, for me, and for my own reasons. Not with anyone else involved. Plus, weight loss isn't linear. What happens when you gain a pound or two back, do you have to give the money back and get it back after you've lost it again? What if you spent it, would she take offense that you're not holding your end of the bargain? Or is it just a lump sum payment when you're at your goal weight? My brain already hurts and I'm not even in that situation! I couldn't possibly handle the pressure.

So, the answer to your question would be a resounding no, IMO.

kathi
08-28-2006, 01:45 AM
When I first read your post, I thought, "I wish someone would do that for me!"- but then I remembered that there have been several times throughout my life when someone HAS. When I was a chubby child, my Grandmother told me that if I lost my double chin she would reward me greatly. Didn't do the trick. When I was an overweight (but not extremely) teenager, my mom offered me ten dollars a pound and I did not lose a single pound at that time. I think when you have someone else trying to motivate you in such a way, it almost backfires. Yes, it would be a lot of money. But, I don't think any of us are here for material reasons. Maybe instead, you can say to her that AFTER you lose the weight she is more than welcome to send you and your hubby on a trip to Hawaii. Or something to that extent (personally, I would ask for the plastic surgery). But, it has to be YOUR decision, and it will take a long time. Besides, if it were really motivating to you- you wouldn't have asked for our opinion.

Good luck in whatever you decide!

Kathi

HarpoChicoGroucho
08-28-2006, 02:29 AM
That would have been so cool if someone offered that to me. I would have looked at it as an extra incentive. And I wouldn't have to acquire more credit card debt buying a new wardrobe either. I'd already be $13,330 richer!!!! No fair!! I'd be happy if someone would have paid me $10 a pound!!!

I'd really take her up on her offer - but don't use it as your sole motivation - unless she's willing to pay you through maintenance as well.

Yogini
08-28-2006, 02:37 AM
Wow. If someone offered me $100 per pound of weight loss I wouldn't need to work so much and could afford to focus ONLY on health/me and I could afford to by the right foods, the gym membership, the personal training sessions, the massages and so on that would make my journey so much easier! What a blessing! How lucky you are to have a wealthy relative. Make the most of the situation and look at it as a 'life scholarship' that you've been awarded with! :)

Misti in Seattle
08-28-2006, 03:49 AM
The $$$ would be nice but personally I would not do it... too much "control" being exerted by her and IMO it has the potential to create massive family problems.

PollyRB
08-28-2006, 06:13 AM
I don't think the reward on itself would be a big enough motivation if you don't really want to do this. My gramma offered me $10 a pound a couple of years ago (less money, but I was also 17 ;) ) and that wasn't enough for me to start eating less and exercising more.

Now, on the other hand, I really want to do this, just for me, and the extra $$ I get from my gramma come in really handy, even though I know I'd be just as motivated if she didn't give them to me.

Charles78
08-28-2006, 08:21 AM
While I think it is a nice offer and I am sure her heart is in the right place - I would echo what some others have said. Motivation has to come from the inside. I just don't think that would have motivated me.

tolose85
08-28-2006, 08:32 AM
It is a nice gesture but I agree with the others, If you aren't mentally ready to start the journey it might not matter. I know for myself, I could have been bribed with anything but the truth is, I would have made excuses until I was ready. Its a tricky decision.. Let us know what you decide.

Its very sweet of your mom.

BreakingFree
08-28-2006, 01:05 PM
It's hard to answer this question without knowing the nature of your relationship with your mother-in-law as well as your husband's relationship w/her, etc. It feels slightly coercive to me, esp. if you really "need" the money vs. it just being a nice extra. The word "bribe" also comes to mind. Not trying to be harsh, and since I don't know your MIL, I could be way off base. I agree with others who say the motivation has to come from within. Easy to say it but oh so hard to live it.

Good luck making your decision.

boiaby
08-28-2006, 01:35 PM
Anyone see Spanglish (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0371246/) with Adam Sandler and Tea Leoni? The neurotic mom (Tea) bought the slightly overweight teenage daughter a lovely outfit she adored; only she bought it one size too small. "Something to work towards" incentive to lose weight so that she could actually enjoy the insensitive gift from a mother who, by all means, meant well, yet was totally clueless... or was she?

The gesture from your MIL is tempting and perhaps harmless, but the emotions it conjures just don’t sit well with me. IMO you should do whatever feels right to you. If you think you can take it in the spirit for which it was intended, then by all means, take the lady to the bank! But if you have reservations, which I think you probably do considering the creation of this thread in the first place, then thank her for the thought and move on of your own volition. When you do get to goal, you can all celebrate together. And if she just so happens to bestow a pricey gift upon you for your valiant and remarkable achievements, then so be it, you earned it baby!

Beverly

famograham
08-28-2006, 01:46 PM
Woweee!!!!!

I have just read in this thread , all the things that have run through my own mind in the past 24 hours!!!!

BOY do we who know this struggle , think alike

Yes, it feels coercive and somewhat bribe-ish to me. Yes it is manipulative (I feel) Yes we really need the money.... but it is also out of love...etc.

I have a rather strained relationship with my MIL..far too long a story to tell here.

It's so funny how reading through this thread was like reading a transcript of my own thoughts.

BUT

I had jumped back on the wagon a few days ago, and have been feeling myself coming back into focus....my click has been surfacing in a big way lately. For those reasons, it is not the money that motivated me to start chasing that damned wagon down the dusty road again. It was myself, my concern and desire to be healthy for me...that had me chasing it down.

My head is spinning too. Believe me. I think that since I've begun on my own terms, and am doing it for the right reasons...then the money is just a side benefit. It will not be my main focus, but I will probably hear a cha-ching when I weigh myself :lol:

There's also no way to know for sure if she will follow through, so I would never get my hopes up that it will actually happen. Rudy got an inheritance when he turned 18 from his Dad's life insurance policy, he lent $10,000 of it to his mom and only received it back this year, so he waited patiently for 13 years.

I'll think of it as a nice little fantasy, and see if it comes true...all the while gaining benefits far greater than money....how's that sound?

It's all very bizarre, which is fitting for my MIL ;) The whole thing makes me a little queasy.

:hug:
Linda

famograham
08-28-2006, 01:54 PM
Anyone see Spanglish (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0371246/) with Adam Sandler and Tea Leoni? The neurotic mom (Tea) bought the slightly overweight teenage daughter a lovely outfit she adored; only she bought it one size too small. "Something to work towards" incentive to lose weight so that she could actually enjoy the insensitive gift from a mother who, by all means, meant well, yet was totally clueless... or was she?

I sure did, and I despised her for that. I've had many of these kinds of bribes before. In fact I think there are two others still on the table (expensive skin care line from my sister, and a shopping spree from one aunt) Those things did not motivate me, but will be nice WHEN (thanks Gretchen!) I make it.

:hug:
Linda

laurelei
08-28-2006, 02:10 PM
Holy Jackpot Batman! Of course I would do it for that money. Dang!

tolose85
08-28-2006, 02:36 PM
I sure did, and I despised her for that. I've had many of these kinds of bribes before. In fact I think there are two others still on the table (expensive skin care line from my sister, and a shopping spree from one aunt) Those things did not motivate me, but will be nice if I make it.



Take out if and insert WHEN! You can do this girl... and were all here with you! :hug:

famograham
08-28-2006, 02:38 PM
Will do! You're right :)

xoxox
Linda

jillybean720
08-28-2006, 02:40 PM
Ha, I'm 24 years old with a car loan, credit card debt, and student loans. I'm broke and would do it in a heartbeat for just that reason. Rather than needing some money and thinking, "Man, I'll have to pick up another shift at the restaurant," I could just think, "That's fine--I'll go to the gym and work off a few pounds this week!" You're still earning the money yourself through hard work, but with the weight loss, it earns double because it improves the status of both your health and your wallet ;)

Of course, it wouldn't work for everyone, so I understand your reservation. The relationship between the payer and payee is a MAJOR factor. Also, to really make it fair, I suppose you would have to pay HER $100 for every pound you might GAIN :o

Misti in Seattle
08-28-2006, 07:58 PM
It's hard to answer this question without knowing the nature of your relationship with your mother-in-law as well as your husband's relationship w/her, etc.

VERY good point! I agree.

And all else being positive... the relationship, etc.... it would certainly motivate ME all right... in a heartbeat! :) But then I don't equate "motivation" with being some kind of "mystical feeling" but a flat out determination and decision to do it.

DeafinlySmart
08-28-2006, 08:21 PM
Ive seen you on here enough to know, you've already started just for yourself. You struggle with the rest of us, but you are enriching yoursef daily through learning and progress. Take the money and run :), but know that you do it for YOU. My dad has offered me 1k if I reach goal (for new clothes). He offered this before I was pregnant with my 3rd. I was already losing it just for me. It was nice and I looked forward to it (but it wasn't the motivation). Then I got pregnant. The offer still stood. It took me another 3 years to get back on the wagon. I never did it for that 1k to begin with but I love my father for never withdrawing the clothing money. :)