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08-18-2006, 08:21 AM
Good morning gals! Glad it is Friday I guess. Though with me, one day kind of runs into the next.

Jack's test went fine, but we were there almost 3 1/2 hours. I guess it takes a long time. I know no stranger so struck up a conversation with one lady and when she left, talked to someone else! I also had brought a book and started on it. Because Jack had not had a thing to eat, I took him to lunch at his favorite place, Abuelos. They have pretty good Mexican food. We kind of pigged out because I felt sorry for him so I didn't eat breakfast either. Unfortunately, my body rebels when I do something like this so I had to make a hurried trip to the bathroom before we could leave. I know better than to do it, but if I were smarter, I would probably be thinner too.:^:

Jean: I imagine this kid's mom acts as bad as he does. They learn it somewhere and it is usually at home. I got an email from my sister and she was complaining because her grandson, who is a year older than Thomas, has parents who are convinced he has ADHD. I told her that it was bologna. Her grandson controls himself in some situations and doesn't in others, ie with his parents and other family members. I guess he is fine in school and at church. I told her flat out that a child with this condition cannot and does not control himself in one area then lets loose in another. He has behaviour problems, because he doesn't eat right, his parents have lax if any discipline, and he is overly spoiled. Besides, I told her he probably doesn't go to bed properly either. The kid is a brat and he is a brat because his parents made him a brat.

Fortune went to the groomers and came home looking like a different doggy. He was pretty scruffy looking when I took him and he was so pretty when he came home. I told him he must be the mascot for the Grateful Dead as he had on a rainbow striped kerchief. :lol:

Nothing else exciting from this part of the world. It is still very hot and very humid and no end in site. I saw on the news yesterday that Jack's hometown and that part of the country has some severe flooding. Well, DUH, it is desert and they have had a LOT of rain and usually only get a couple inches for the whole darn year. Sand doesn't absorb water very well anyway.

Have a great weekend you all.


08-18-2006, 07:16 PM
Good Afternoon, Flowers! It started pouring :rain: about an hour ago and we have had almost an inch. We were supposed to do a practice emergency bomb threat drill this afternoon and end up at the DQ across the street for treats. When we were finished with our meeting, and ready to get the evacuation announcement, the clouds opened and the rain began. So no treats for us today! :( Most of us weren't too sad about that because it was terribly sticky and breathless in the building again today . . . time to call it a day and go home! I need to make a grocery run, but will wait for the rain to let up.

"Gma" -- Thanks for starting the new thread! :cp: I'm glad Jack's stress test went ok. I've done the very same thing in restaurants and it makes me so :mad: at myself! Then I can do it another time and it will be fine. Usually if a child is a behavior problem all one has to do is look at the way the parents handle the child and situation. I feel sorry for the kid's teachers and classmates!

Guess I will go make my grocery list and find my umbrella. Have a nice evening and a great weekend!

Jean -- :wave: from Iowa!

08-19-2006, 07:33 AM
Good morning ladies! Hope your weekend is starting out right. Mine is starting a little rocky. I got up out of bed and put a gown on and got stung by a wasp on my right hip. I am sitting on a bag of ice right now! :lol: It was in the dark so I thought I was imagining it except I saw one on the carpet last night and went to kill it and it flew away and I couldn't find it. When I got downstairs, I felt the area that was stinging and sure enough a bump had formed. I haven't been stung in a long long time and forgot how much the dang thing hurts!

Jean: We don't have Dairy Queens here, just phoophoo ice cream that costs a fortune like Stone Cold Creamery, Baskin Robbins, and a place called Brusters. It has great ice cream but is pretty expensive. Jack loves Dairy Queen and I know he misses it. It was one of our date staples a long time ago. You must be getting all the rain we don't seem to able to get a spit of. It rained one day and that has been in for weeks.

We are supposed to take our sil out to dinner tonight for his birthday, which was Wed, but I haven't heard a word from my dd where or when so I don't know if maybe she meant next week. I am going to have to check. I know she has been in Savannah Geogia since Tuesday sometime so I don't even know if she is back yet. Her husband was in Miami until Tues then she left and went to Savannah. Thomas has been one parented this week! :)

I guess I should get my morning chores started. You all have a very nice weekend, try and keep cool and enjoy yourselves!


08-19-2006, 04:35 PM
Good Afternoon! I will chat with you while I wait for the dryer to buzz. It is much cooler today and cloudy. I noticed in the paper that the sun is rising 2 minutes later for the next couple of days and setting 1 - 2 minutes earlier each evening. I guess fall is really on the way. :( It's not that I mind fall, it's what comes after fall that is not my favorite.

"Gma" -- I don't think, no I'm SURE I've never been stung by a wasp. Poor you! I hope the pain is better by now. We had a hornet's nest this summer and Bob demolished it. They can get mean too. Tell Jack I will think of him when we go to the DQ! They have chicken salads now and they are pretty darned good for a quick meal. :T I hope your dinner plans work out and you have a nice time!

I am off to fold clothes and start the next load. Have a great weekend!

Jean -- :wave: from Iowa!

08-20-2006, 07:08 AM
Good morning gals! Wasn't planning an early rising, but I started coughing and couldn't quit. I get some congestion sometimes that I can't seem to dislodge and I cough until I seem to make it better. Unfortunately, laying down in a bed just doesn't work. I plan on retreating back upstairs as soon as I feel I am over the coughing jag.

We had a good time with the kids at Olive Garden, but Thomas was kind of standoffish, which is unusual for him. My sil was talkative though and that is unusual for him, especially to me. Maybe we were in a temporary alternate universe! :lol: He was funny because he started his new job with FedEx on Wednesday and he was saying all he does is sits and stares into space. It takes a week to issue email addresses, which he says means he has no computer, no telephone, etc. They take pictures on Tuesdays so he doesn't have a badge yet so he said he has to go to work every day with one of those stick on paper visitor passes and has to hang around the door until someone shows up to let him in. If I understand his job, he is part of the computer security for the company. I had my favorite, chicken alfredo for dinner last night. Not a diet menu item, but I didn't eat the whole thing if that gives me any points! :lol: On the other hand, they now have gelato and I wanted to try it so.....

Today is race day so I am just going to make some mexican food for lunch today I think. Nothing fancy, just some hard shelled tacos and some spanish rice. I miss my mil's spanish rice as she put green pepper in it. Jack hates the taste of green pepper so I have to leave it out when I make it. I think we are just going to hang out at the house today. They are predicting rain, but it is supposed to be 96 today so no relief from the heat. I just don't feel like getting out in the heat if I don't have to.

Well gals, I need to clean the litter box, feed the pets, etc so I am going to go. Have a great Sunday.


08-20-2006, 11:22 PM
Good Evening, Flowers! We just finished putting the house back together and wiping up/off sticky fingerprints. Jason, Amanda, and the kids came after church and just left an hour ago. We took the boat out and Ian had his first ride (with Jason) on the torpedo (?) behind the boat. He was fine as long as we went slow and he didn't get water splashed in his face. They all went swimming along the beach area and then we cruised back towards home. Needless to say since we didn't know they were coming until early this morning I do not have my ducks in a row for school tomorrow, and what's more I don't even care. Bad attitude, I know. :shrug:

"Gma" -- Glad to hear you enjoyed your dinner with your family. I love The Olive Garden! One is being built in Sioux City and I can hardly wait! :yes: You could do with green pepper like some people (not me!) do and make two dishes . . . one with and one without! ;) It has cooled down here and we've had enough rain that the grass is turning green again. The backyard gets sun most of the day and it is bare in spots. Bob did put some grass seed out and is hoping for more rain soon.

I need to figure out what I am doing tomorrow. I did look at my schedule and they have me in two different rooms at the same time during two different periods. I'm good but I'm not that good! :crazy:

Have a marvelous Monday and a great week! Send positive vibes my way . . . I will need all the help I can get!

Jean -- :wave: from Iowa!

08-21-2006, 09:13 AM
Good morning ladies! It is wet and sticky and nasty here today. We had a huge storm roll in last night, which was great for the rain, but did nothing to help the humidity and temps. On top of that, it blew out the power and it didn't take long for the house to heat up. I was giving it an hour then we were gonna pack up the pets and go to the Red Roof Inn for the night. It's bad enough if for some reason you don't have AC, but not to have fans in this heat is unbearable.

Jean: I am going to send you vibes, but truly which ones do you want, the "I QUIT!" vibes or the "hang in there and hope it gets better vibes and my attitude improves." :?: Bless you heart. This is the first year I have ever heard you really be down about having to go back to school. Hang in there and if it doesn't get better this week say adios! Just think of what you can get done in your house!!! :lol: Sounds like everyone had a good time yesterday. Thomas swims like a fish and loves the water. It won't be long until they close their pool for the year though. I don't know how much his grandparents bring him over to his house to swim after school. Man, if it were me, I would be over there with him everyday! If they didn't live across town, I would go to their house and swim more. They have told us to feel free and come swim whenever, they don't have to be home, but like I said they live clear across town.

Susan: Hope things are going ok with you and Stan. I assume they have done the procedure on his bone again? Hope you have gotten your nursing situation straightened out as well.

Gloria: I hear the coast is becoming quite comfortable now. It must be nice. We are still cooking down here.

We just hung out at the house all day long, watched a CUBS game in which they got beat and the NASCAR race in which our favorite driver came in 3rd. About the only thing I did, outside of regular chores, was make us lunch! :lol: Consequently, I have gobs of cleaning to do today. I forgot to do the upstairs vacuuming all weekend long so I have to double up on that besides the fact that Thursday is shot because Jack has a cardiologist appt and I want to go and see what his test results are and Friday I have an eye appt that takes up the morning. Ahh well, as Jack says, the house will still be here when I get to it.

We got a letter on Saturday from Tricare saying they changed the name of the patient. Jack also talked to the lady at the PT place and she said she had changed the date as everything was dated with his birthdate being 2000 so maybe just maybe they will pay the darn things now. I do wonder if we are going to get a bill for all the copays as they never collected any. I ask her the first appt if she wanted the copay and she said they didn't ask for one and if Tricare doesn't indicate to pay one we don't. I guess if we get a bill for 13 copays we will just pay it! :lol:

Gotta get going and get the laundry in the dryer. Everyone have a good Monday!


08-21-2006, 04:57 PM
Faye, I know what you mean about the coughing spells. That's what sent me to the doctor and I was diagnosed with asthma...I coughed for 2 hours without stopping and my husband said go to the doctor or he was taking me. I know you have a lot of allergies, maybe that is what is causing it.

Had some storms last night and the heat and humidity are back today.

Stan's bone procedure will be Friday at 7:25 am. I took him Saturday for the preop stuff at the hospital - the nurse said she saw his name and was hoping it wasn't him having another procedure. He's doing so much better, gaining weight and eating good. If we could just get this foot over with, I think he might be able to stay out the hospital for awhile. The last bill just came in from his hospitalization - $173,000. I almost died on the spot until I saw that we have to pay $100.

I officially became an old lady, on paper at least, today and signed up for Medicare.

08-21-2006, 05:21 PM
Susan: Nah, you are just starting the great part of your life! Well, other than the Medicare part, which can be a nightmare, the rest can be fun! Maybe sometime next year you and Stan can take a little weekend trip together or something just to have some fun time. I am praying for that leg and foot that they will finally be able to get it cleaned up. I know that you are glad he is finally taking a health turn to the good as far as eating etc. I was thrilled to hear that.

I got the nicest note from my sister. My son was in California for his Jiusitu tournament and on Saturday night he and a couple friends had dinner with my sister and her family. She emailed me this morning and said my son was such a joy to be around. Makes his mom so proud of him even if he is in his thirties! My sister's family doesn't get to see my son very often so to hear her say how nice he is made me very proud.

Well, I am in the middle of cooking dinner so better get back to it!

Have a wonderful afternoon!


08-21-2006, 10:44 PM
Good Evening, Flowers! It is getting dark already and not even 8:30 yet. :( It wasn't too bad at school today, but we still got out early at 1:30. Then we had to stay for the in-service which was BORING! At least it was in the air-conditioned library so we were comfortable. The day went better than I expected because we have class meetings throughout the morning and it was PE day for the freshmen, so there weren't alot of students in the study halls which was nice. Of course several haven't shown up yet and probably won't until after Labor Day at which point they will have used all 10 of the their 10 days absence. Then it will be whine, whine, whine, and petition before the attendance committee.

I see the Chunky Monkey has disappeared! I miss him!

"Gma" -- I would really like to hang in at school at least another year to get a bigger severance package. :shrug: At least now I don't feel much of any obligation or responsibility to any one teacher or student. I guess I need an attitude adjustment because I'm thinking "who cares?" if anyone asks me anything too tough. :lol: One thing about it, I can sure hide out and take my time going between classes! :lol3: I hope your insurance mess is finally straightened out. It was nice of your sister to write about your son! No matter how old they get, it's nice to know that you did a good job of raising your children. :yes:

Susan -- I hope Stan's surgery goes well. I will be thinking of you both!

I need to check the weather for tomorrow and figure out what I am wearing. Have a nice evening and a terrific Tuesday tomorrow!

Jean -- :wave: from Iowa!

08-22-2006, 08:21 AM
Good morning everybody! It rained again last night and it very very humid and sticky this morning. I don't know when we are going to get a break from this heat. I did mention to Jack that the days are getting shorter as he had to leave on the deck light when he left for work because it was dark.

Jean: I guess you kind of have to look at it that you can survive the year to get better money, etc., especially if you schedule is such you don't have to deal with some teacher's personality quirk. I am amazed as how offhanded people here are about their kids going to school. My sister is like that about her dd. She would take her out of school so they could go on vacation and all kinds of stuff. My kids went to school unless they were sick or we had a family emergency like a death or something. The kids have enough time off from school as it is. It is no wonder they come out not knowing a thing. There is one thing I think they should change though and that is college scholarships. I think they ought to be offered an extra year in case a kid wants to take one year off from school. I think kids that are serious about a college education would go back and I know I was kind of dreading continue school after I graduated because I was tired of it. Of course, you have to get the kid through regular school first, which is always a challenge.

Susan: I think you mentioned you use the South Beach Diet. Do you like it? I belong to a book club and decided to order his book and see if I think it would be a good fit for me. I have to do something as I am creeping back up on my weight and I need something I can really follow and be committed to. I see there is a big area about South Beach here at 3fc to help with if I decide to start it. What if anything do you NOT like about it? Thanks for anything you want to comment on.

Jack has his very last PT appt tomorrow. He said his foot is feeling much better and he thinks the sessions did his foot some good. I just hope that it made a permanent difference. Jean, did you have to go back somewhere down the line because you started having problems again, or did your sessions fix the problem permanently?

I need to go and unload the dishwasher and put the laundry in the dryer. Today is mop the floors day and I always hate doing that so I want to get it over and done with.

Have a great day everyone!


08-22-2006, 04:25 PM
Faye, I like SB a lot. The only thing I really don't like is not having white potatoes, but even that is not forever. To tell the truth, I still have one about once a week. I like being able to eat out and all and still make healthy choices. It does allow a few treat calories per day but some days I save them up for a whole dessert. Be glad to help if you decide to try. There are a couple of good yahoo groups that are extremely helpful as well.

08-22-2006, 06:10 PM
Good Afternoon! It is another hot and humid day in my neighborhood. I really am ready for some cooler weather! We had an in-service this afternoon, skipped the break, and we got out 10 minutes early. My attitude hasn't adjusted yet; tomorrow is supposed to be a full day in 90+ degrees so I'm hoping we will get out early, but I doubt it. He who makes that decision sits in air-conditioning! :(

"Gma" -- My kids went to school unless they were sick, no matter what. We had a student come yesterday and was absent today . . . the family left for Mexico for three weeks! :rolleyes: Our charter school is set up so that it is really a 5th year of high school, but the students can get a two year community college degree by taking dual credited classes their junior, senior, and 5th years of high school . . . of course it is free to them! I did have another heel spur but on the other foot. I didn't wait so long before I went in for PT so it didn't get as sore. Knock on wood I haven't had any trouble since.

Susan -- "Hi!" I hope your day has been a good one! :D

Have a nice "rest of the day" and a wonderful Wednesday tomorrow! I only have 178 more days of school until summer vacation :spin: . . . I found our handbook and sometime along the line they changed the two week notice to 30 days! The nerve! Let's see from November 20 through December 29 would be 30 days not counting weekends. TA DA! (in my dreams maybe!) ;)

Jean -- :wave: from Iowa!

08-23-2006, 08:51 AM
Good morning girls! I know it sounds boring, but it is still hot and sticky here. A nice 75 degrees sounds like heaven. I haven't even been out of the house except to walk to the end of the garage and get the mail. I need it to cool off so I can start walking outside again. I like it a lot better and seem to go farther than if I do a treadmill. On top of that, it is uphill going one direction, which works the heart nicely. I will still use the treadmill and need to get working back on weights again.

Susan: Thanks for the info. I am anxious to get the book and read it. My biggest problem will be pasta I think. I love pasta. Not big on potatoes for the most part so that doesn't bother me and maybe I will start getting sweet potatoes, which I think are on the list of things you can have and fiddle around with those a bit. Jack, of course, won't eat them, but that is ok, I can fix him a white potato. I think I can adapt to getting rid of sugar and using sugar free products. Fruit may be an issue, but I can deal with that also.

Jean: :lol3: :rofl: I laughed out loud at your comments about how much school time you have left. Jack figures out his work time according to when is the next day off. They changed their benefits and took away the two floating vacation days and gave them Presidents' day and Veterans' day off instead. Now except for March, June and October of next year he has three day weekends off every month. In April he has a week where he is off on Wed and Friday as Wed is Mlk memorial day and Friday is Good Friday. I guess it is a good thing you perused the handbook, huh? Jack has nine years as of this month until he can retire and believe me he looks forward to every year he can mark off.

He is off tomorrow for his yearly cardiologist appt so we will be doing errands and stuff. He needs to get the car tags as he has been putting it off. He has had the car inspected so all he has to do is go in and get them. He was Navy retired tags but they said that they are readily available and don't have to be ordered so we will see. No matter what, they have changed the tags for this year so we get new tags not just stickers. I am hoping it isn't too busy and we can zip right through.

I am delaying the inevitable. I have work to do and need to get to it so Iam going to go.

Have a great day gals!

08-23-2006, 02:32 PM
Hello, ladies! Faye, you reminded me I got to get tags (I KWILT is my vanity plate) and renew my driver's license. We do that on our birthdays that end in 0 or 5. Gads, hope they don't make me take the test again!

Faye, SB only limits fruit the first 2 weeks then you can have it again. Whole wheat pasta or pasta blends, too. The first 2 weeks are hard but it really gets the sugar and sweet cravings under control and you stop thinking about the stuff. I can walk through the bakery now and nothing even looks that good. Even better, most of it doesn't taste good anymore. My real downfall is lemon meringue pie and then I don't care for the crust.

We finally broke down and bough a new tv. Ordered it from Wal*Mart website and it was only $22 for delivery so I don't think that was bad considering I have no idea how I would have got it home. My neighbor is coming over to hook it up for us and take the old one for his son.

I was reading the Wall Street Journal at lunch time...there was an article on electronic toilet seats - heated, and they wash and dry you so you don't need paper. Probably electrocute me.

I see the countdown has begun for Las Vegas. Tell you what Faye, we'll all send you a $1 and see if you can run it up to several thousand for us.

Jean, I don't envy your job. I was certainly not cut out to work with children on a daily basis, although I did teach English as a second language for 3 years when we first came to Virginia.

08-23-2006, 03:30 PM
I peeked in and saw Susan's post and had to reply!
I then decided to go ahead and post this morning on the same post since no one has been in since yesterdy afternoon. I hope everyone is doing well.

I am a little concerned about our cat. Night before last he started doing these sneeze like things just out of the blue. I am wondering if he got stung or something. Jean, do you know what could possibly be worng when cats sneeze, more than occasionally?

Susan: Yorktown medical examiner: "As you can see, this 50+ year old woman has multiple burn marks on her bum. She was found sitting upright on an electronic toilet and we think she may have flushed causing a short circuit. Sad case really as she had so much {{{GOING}}} for her....." :lol3: :rofl: Sorry, just had to do that! You would be mighty trustworthy sending me a dollar :lol: ! Believe me, I would lose it in about 2 seconds on a slot machine.

Say a little prayer for Jack. The cardiologists office called again today and said it was imperative he keep his appt tomorrow as his stress test has some "issues" and the doctor wants to speak to him face to face. I now have a rock in the pit of my stomach until we see Dr Anderson tomorrow.

I need to run!


08-24-2006, 09:37 AM
Faye: So sorry to hear the news about Jack. Hope is something that can be handled with medicine. We will keep him in our prayers.

Susan: Oh, my electronic toilet seats...I have enough problems setting my digital clocks, how could I ever handle those. :) We just got our new registration but no new plates so it was send in the money and get the new sticker. Whew!

Jean: Your frustration with the school is understandable. If you only have to survive this year to make it to retirement then it could be done. Difficult but doable. Hope you can hold out. Retirement is great but every bit of extra money helps. Good luck.

We had a family party on Sunday and it was hectic but fun. Had all but the Raleigh contingent here....7 gks and 5 adults and us. It was raining hard early in the AM but by the time everyone got here it had stopped so that after we ate the boys were able to go out to the driveway and play football catch. Little Stephanie, 6, was in high gear and didn't stop giggling and laughing all day. Her brother, Ryan, 9,...he's the one who played Santa last Christmas...was in rare form as well. He started out, as he was looking at my computer and a screen saver of the Vatican came up, by saying "Oh, that's that place in Rome". I never knew he ever knew where that was. Later, as he was eating his ice cream cone, he held it in front of his mouth and said, "I would like to thank the Academy". Where he comes up with this stuff I will never know. But, the topper was just as they were getting into the car out front. He was in the front passenger seat and I leaned in the window and was saying 'what would you like to be when you grow up...a scientist, a mathamatition?' He didn't know what he wanted to be but his father who was in the driver's seat piped up and said 'Ryan, you want to be just like me don't you, debonair, and handsome?' Ryan looked at him and said "Does that mean I will have to grow hair on my privates?" Well, I just fell over laughing and I think his mother wanted to crawl under the seat. He is too funny and you never know what he is thinking. Every one had a great time and it took me quite a while to wipe the laughing tears from my eyes after they left.

08-24-2006, 04:21 PM
Jack went for his yearly cardiologist appt today. His nurse called yesterday and said they found an "abnormality" on his stress test from last week and to be sure and not
miss his appt today. The doctor says Jack may have what is called restinosis, which is a renarrowing of the artery where his current stent is. Dr Anderson AND the Nurse practicioner both said that his catherization and tests were
totally clear in July when he had the chest pains and went to the hospital and this situation more than likely has occurred since then. The doctor said it is
actually rare for this to happen in this way.

The decision was made this morning for Jack to go to the hospital a week from today and is having another catherization, but they will be inserting an ultrasound device down into the artery to find any blockage that has not shown up otherwise. He said if blockage is found and they can do it, they will go ahead and put another stent in, if it is something more serious that would require surgery, then he will stop, remove the catheter and discuss with us
what he feels needs to be done. We decided to do it next Thursday so if Jack has to stay overnight or in the hospital,
he would have the holiday weekend to recover. Dr Anderson won't be there on next Friday so he suggested next Thursday instead.

That's about all I can tell you right now. He has to be at the hospital at 6 AM and the procedure is scheduled for 8:30.


08-24-2006, 05:52 PM
Faye, so sorry to hear of Jack's problems...and having to wait a week to get the test done. I hope it turns out to be nothing or something they can fix with a new stent. Stan has 5 stent's in his left leg. Do you have to carry the card around with the stent bar codes?

I'll be awol until Monday - get Stan's OP surgery over with tomorrow. I have to have him there at 7:15 and the procedure will be at 9:30.