Weight Loss Support - Lost 29 lbs. and no one notices!!

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07-05-2006, 12:57 PM
Hello! I'm new to the forum (have been visiting as a guest). I'm 31 yrs., 5'4", 199.2 pounds. I started at 228.4 in early April and am on my way to 130. Although I am doing this for myself, it would still be nice if someone noticed my weight loss. I'm down just over 29 pounds and no one in my office has said a thing about my weight loss. Has this happended to anyone else? How much did you have to lose before anyone noticed? Thanks!

07-05-2006, 01:04 PM
I have found that when I am losing weight, the last people to notice my change in size (besides me) are those who see me everyday. But people who haven't seen me in weeks or months, usually notice right away - or at least notice that *something* has changed LOL. At this point, my husband cannot tell a difference, other than my clothes fit really lose. But my mom, who I haven't seen in a month can tell right away that I have lost weight.
Also, no one notices if I don't wear clothes that show I have lost inches - my current problem is that I am not down a whole size yet, but all of my clothes that I have been wearing fit weird and are really baggy. Oh well, better to be baggy than too tight.

Beach Patrol
07-05-2006, 01:07 PM
Don't feel too bad! - my friend, who is obese, has lost 32 pounds. I hadn't seen her in about 6 or so months. I THOUGHT it looked like she'd lost SOME weight, but I was afraid to mention it, for fear that maybe she hadn't, or maybe she didn't want to talk about it, etc. So I said nothing.

Later on, she mentioned it, and said "Can't you tell?" .... well, of course, I was semi-mortified! - because I'm all about supporting my friends in their endeavors! - so I explained to her that YES I could tell, and I wasn't "just saying that" to make her feel better, and congratulated her & wished her good luck in this long & hard road.

So take heart... maybe lots of people CAN TELL that you've lost weight, & they may just be a little shy to say so. :hug:

07-05-2006, 01:09 PM
I started at 234 lbs. and it took losing 30 lbs. before anyone really noticed. I could tell the difference myself especially in my legs, hips and face. Sometimes people do notice and are afraid to say anything.. Keep up the great work and everyone will soon notice.

07-05-2006, 01:18 PM
I started at 215 and I am down 28 pounds. I took pictures of me at 210 and 190 and there was a HUGE difference even though NO ONE had said a word to me. And then:

One day I was sitting down with the two people I work closest with and we said something about eating healthy and they asked me how much I had lost, (about 22 at that time) and I told them and they said, yah I can totally see a difference.

Another day I was with my dad and I said something about the before and after pictuers and I couldn't believe the HUGE difference that 20 pounds made and he said to me, "well I noticed right away, but I am not good at saying stuff like that and didn't know what to say."

When I compared the pictures I showed my boyfriend I was in such a huge shock and he just smiled and said I noticed.

The ONLY person who said something on their own was my mom, and I KNOW it was just because she felt she had to, haha.

So even if you think people don't notice, believe me THEY DO!!!

07-05-2006, 01:20 PM
Oh, I just wanted to say, if you aren't already, TAKE PICTURES!!

07-05-2006, 01:24 PM
Nobody really noticed my loss till I was down about 40 pounds. When you're that heavy (I started about where you did) it takes quite a bit of weight before there's a noticable difference.

07-05-2006, 01:32 PM
It took almost a 40 pounds loss for people to start commenting and they only noticed in my face anyway. I noticed bones sticking out and a flatter tummy and that itty bitty space where my thighs used to rub together looooooong before the comments picked up. Do you notice? Because once you start noticing those little things, your attitude can change and people definitely notice that.

07-05-2006, 01:40 PM
I think now that I've lost 95 pounds it's safe to say that people notice. But many say nothing -- for many of the reasons outlined above.

And when I went home at Christmas I had lost 50 pounds and my own mother didn't even notice! sheesh!

07-05-2006, 01:43 PM
wyllenn - I just noticed how close you are to One-derland! Way to go!!! You must be sooooo excited! :dance: <--- for you! hehe

07-05-2006, 01:47 PM
Courtnie -- yep, I'm knocking at the Onederland door! Though I have learned it's not Wonderland -- things don't get perfect when you get there! :)

I AM excited! I am thrilled by my increased energy and stamina... not to mention the smaller clothes. One year ago I was into size 30!!! And now a 16W (18 reg).

Wonder where I'll be a year from now??!

07-05-2006, 01:54 PM
Yah, there really aren't perfect and it really is just a number. But I am sure happy with the smaller clothes!! haha

I think a year from now you will be at your goal weight and well on your way to maintaining!

07-05-2006, 02:40 PM
I started at 258. People started noticing when I lost 30 pounds. If you started lighter than me, and lost the same amount, then certainly there is a noticable difference. Perhaps the people around you are just shyer about mentioning it.

I do agree that you should take pictures. I hated having my picture taken before I started losing, but now I wish I had just one solid "before" pic to see how far I've come.

07-05-2006, 03:20 PM
Well, besides all that...people don't know how you will take it if they mention it. As I have said many times, I HATE when people notice if I have lost weight. HATE IT! I get embarrased and flustered and I turn red, because I figure..."What the heck are you doing looking at my body?" I hate to admit it, but I actually get p*ssed if anybody mentions it.

In that vein, I would never say to a co-worker that I noticed they have lost weight. That puts them under pressure to keep doing it. It makes them think I am watching them or looking at them every day.

Maybe that is why no one is saying anything.

07-05-2006, 04:55 PM
Thanks to everyone for their replies. I am noticing the difference in myself and I should definitely take more pictures. I have some "before" but no "during" pics yet. My in-laws are coming tomorrow (haven't seen them since Christmas) so it will be interesting to see if they say anything. My husband has lost 35 lbs. and will be heart broken if they don't notice (he was 245, now 210). He has been so dedicated ever since they said they were coming to visit. The weight has just melted off his stomach -- too bad it doesn't happen that way for women! Thanks again for all your thoughts on this.

07-05-2006, 05:56 PM
Courtnie -- yep, I'm knocking at the Onederland door! Though I have learned it's not Wonderland -- things don't get perfect when you get there! :)

I AM excited! I am thrilled by my increased energy and stamina... not to mention the smaller clothes. One year ago I was into size 30!!! And now a 16W (18 reg).

Wonder where I'll be a year from now??!
Girl, let me tell ya, it's a wonderful feeling to step on that scale and see your weight begin with a 1 instead of a 2 ;)

07-05-2006, 07:13 PM
I can't wait to see it!! But on my analog scale it won't really look very different!!

Official weigh in Monday -- I stepped on the scale and am up a pound... TOM maybe... I'll get there!

07-06-2006, 12:29 AM
No one really started noticing my weight loss until really recently when it got warm enough and all of my old summer clothes were WAY to big and I went out and got a couple of new outfits.
Point is that I was still wearing my old clothes even though they were big and bulky. But, when I got some outfits that fit better and were not hanging off of me that when I started getting all the comments!
After 30 lbs gone I bet your clothes are getting too big so congratulate yourself for your lose by buying yourself something that fits better and see if that helps!
Congrats on your 30 lbs!!! Thats great!

Misti in Seattle
07-06-2006, 03:40 AM
I had lost around 40 pounds before most people started noticing... then all at once a lot of people do! One person even said "wow that was really fast wasn't it?" Of course no it wasn't... just didn't really become that noticeable until that point. :)

07-06-2006, 03:52 AM
I started at 234 lbs. and it took losing 30 lbs. before anyone really noticed. I could tell the difference myself especially in my legs, hips and face. Sometimes people do notice and are afraid to say anything.. Keep up the great work and everyone will soon notice.

Lilybelle... you started off pretty much in the same predicament as me. I am 22 and my heaviest weight was 248lbs. I started on june 1st of this year.. so today it has been 1 month and 5 days. I have lost 15 lbs.. so im now 233lbs. My goal is 150 for right now. Im sure once I get down there I will want to tweek myself to 145, or 140 or something.. but im just wondering.. what all did you do to lose the weight? I have bought a bike and am biking to work (about 15 minutes each way) and taking the stairs at work. I am eating healthier... drinking 2litres of water each day, and walking/swimming a couple times a week as well. im wondering if im not doing enough? Im happy with my 15 lbs of weight loss.. so i know what im doign is working. i guess what im wondering is how long it will take me at this rate... what did you do that worked so well? GOOD PICS by the way you look sooo much younger!
Also: when you lost the weight did you have lots of excess skin? I've heard this happens and I'd almost rather stay fat.. im so scared that will happen.. but im hoping the fact that im young will stop that.

07-06-2006, 12:26 PM
I'm so glad that I am not the only one with this problem. I have lost 30lbs and no one notices. I had a breakdown just the other day and started crying and whining to my husband that I should give up because no one notices. We had a family dinner for Father's Day and I was so excited because I just knew that someone would comment and did they? NOOOO! I saw a friend at the grocery store the other day that I haven't seen in awhile and she had lost a lot of weight and I told her how good she looked. Did she notice my a weight loss? NOOOO! :?: My husband doesn't even notice but I figure that's because he sees me everyday. I guess I've worked so hard that I want everyone to comment. I can tell a big difference and that's all that matters in the long run. :dust:

07-06-2006, 02:53 PM
Maybe your lifestyle change and decision to lose weight was so subtle ... they didn't know you were trying to lose weight. Or possibly ... I do this with my mom (she had bariatric surgery 1/05) ... starting at 560lbs and now at 350lbs ... and I see her ... alot ... and it didn't dawn on me that my mom lost soooo much weight until I saw a picture of the day before her surgery ... I just cried ... as long as you feel it ... that should be all that matters ... keep going ... they will notice soon enough ....

07-07-2006, 11:11 AM
Congrats on your loss!
It may seem odd to you, but I didn't want anybody saying anything. I wanted to quietly lose weight, not talk about it, then try to live my life in a slimmer body w/o anybody making a big deal about it. Hahaha I wish I could throw some of the comments your way! You can have ALL of them! :dizzy:
It could very well be that people DO notice, but that you would react in a way that someone like me would react. hahaha

07-07-2006, 02:21 PM
In the past I've lost 20 lbs. and no one noticed-not even my husband! I thought..here I am so big no one even notices 20 lbs. gone! However, a 32 lb. loss had eveyone noticing. So your "point of noticing" may be just a few lbs. more.
Unfortunately I gained it all back plus more but I am new here , ready for another attempt, and hoping to be encouraged to stay motivated at 3FC.

07-07-2006, 05:45 PM
AGR - first - CONGRATULATIONS on getting to ONEDERLAND!!!

A couple of people who are really into being supportive mentioned my weight loss when I hit about 10% of my body weight lost, but not too many. I suspect it takes about 20% before it's really obvious.

Encourage DH to wear new, well-fitting clothes so that his folks can't miss it.

Enjoy the visit.


07-07-2006, 05:50 PM
30 lbs on your small stature, I'd have thought it would be really obvious....I lost 35 lbs and not a word....Most where uncomfortable I think. I had to bring it up to let them know I was aware how fat I am. ;)