100 lb. Club - Stuck with it for more than 4 weeks?




2bfree
07-02-2006, 07:59 AM
If you have stayed with your plan for more than 4 weeks, please share why you think you were able to do this and what you are doing (differently or in general) this time. I've followed these boards long enough to know that most people, including myself, quit after a few days or a few weeks. I'm sick of being fat and want to be free from this weight. Brief bio-I'm the mother of 6 and a professor. I've tried Lean For Life (lo-carb-probably my favorite) and weight watchers. I'm at 275 and should weight 240. I huff and puff walking across campus and I know my family would love for me to lose weight. I don't have the respect of my students anymore. I put on weight after my 3rd child and just kept going and sadly, I barely care about my health and looks. I do want to be healthy for my children who are still young and at home. I do want to get rid of this belly. I do want the thin me back. I do want to be free to laugh and dance in the sunshine again. I


karistiana
07-02-2006, 08:58 AM
First of all, WELCOME! We are glad to have you here. This is a wonderful group that is so helpful and supportive. I'm sure you'll find something that will work for you here.

Well I've been on my body cleansing program for over 12 weeks, and I've lost 47 lbs, and went from a size 22W to a regular 16 (soon to be 14 woo hoo). One thing that changed for me is I was very much ready to lose this weight. I was probably borderline diabetic before I got started. I was approaching my pregnancy weight all over again. I felt absolutely awful ... no energy for anything or anyone like my husband and kids, and I was depressed and moody.

It took me 6 months to get started with this program, but I'm very glad I did! It happens to be one of the easiest things I have done in regards to weight loss. I like that it's not actually a weight loss program, but for those who need to lose weight it works wonderfully! It's not your typical diet either ... it focuses on nutrition and full body cleansing which helps detox your body. Our body is the miracle in all this, we just help it do what it needs to do. The program promotes lean muscle and burns fat, so you lose weight safely and naturally.

I can't speak highly enough about this program because it has changed my life so much already, and I will keep going with this because I feel great using these products!

Anyway, I don't want to ramble here lol. If you have anymore questions about it, let me know, and I'd be happy to assist. There are some links for more info in my blog if you'd care to take a look.

Cassie501107
07-02-2006, 10:12 AM
I am calorie counting and exercising. The thing that I think has made me stick with it is that I am not giving myself the option to fail. Even if I have a bad day (or even bad WEEK), I still do my best to pick myself back up.

Welcome and best of luck to you!:hug:


Cheryl14
07-02-2006, 11:18 AM
Hi 2bfree!

Welcome! You have good goals, and already sound like you've made up your mind that this is IT...time to DO IT FOR YOU! Congrats! :cb:

I'm pretty much a free spirit, so I don't follow anybody's specific plan or any special program. What I HAVE done over the last nine months that I have been seriously working on losing weight is take the best and most sensible and doable ideas from all of the different plans and books that are out there and create my own plan.

I read A LOT and enjoy finding out the research behind claims, programs, DVDs etc. I wanted THIS TIME to be different. I wanted THIS TIME to be successful!

Here's what I came up with in a nutshell:

1) I focus on eating a high volume of veggies to keep me full, healthy, and REGULAR (lots of fiber!).

2) I drink water instead of diet pop.

3) I weigh myself every morning after voiding.

4) I keep a journal that focuses on all the successes that I have had each day

5) I exercise every morning for an hour, sometimes more. (I cross-train instead of doing just the same thing over and over) I pick things that are fun and those that I will actually DO. I went to the library and got TONS of different DVDs and picked the ones that I liked best. Right now my focus includes yoga, Turbo Jam, dance, weight training, walking, and jump roping. I exercise during commercials in the evening and even during regular programs.

6) If I really get a craving for some food, I eat it, BUT I incorporate that craving and the eating of the food into my daily calorie count. (For example, I really felt like eating some chocolate pudding this morning. I made some fat-free- sugar-free cooked Jello pudding and had it as my breakfast! It sure was yummy! My chocolate "thing" is satisfied now, and I can move on!)

7) I reward myself with things that I like that AREN'T food. (New jeans in a smaller size, DVDs or workout videos, costume jewelry, etc.)

8) I watch the fat content of foods and also limit carbs when I can.

9) I eat half of my dinner at restaurants and box up the rest to have for lunch the next day. I tell myself that I can have ALL of the food, but I can't have it all at one time. It works to make me not feel like I am giving up anything that I really want.

10) I limit fried foods and don't eat fast food anymore. I tell myself that it is more important for my body to get EXCELLENT FUEL in the form of nutritious, healthy foods.

That's pretty much my plan! Hope that it is helpful! Good luck!

Cheryl

Misti in Seattle
07-02-2006, 11:18 AM
I have stuck with it since February and I attribute that to the fact that, as Cassie said, I am not giving myself the option of failing or even "cheating" or taking breaks from it. I eat right and exercise on a regular basis and won't back down from that regardless of how I "feel."

Also to the fact that my plan is sensible and not a restrictive "diet." I eat a LOT of fresh fruits and veggies, very little processed foods, no junk foods, etc. It may sound restrictive but believe me there are a LOT of wonderful foods, and I am actually eating far more delicious meals than in the past! I cook large amounts and freeze individual portions especially of my meat and stuff. LOL in fact I just found top sirloin and chicken on sale and bought several family packs of both so sure have to get busy this weekend and cook stuff up! BUT I won't have to cook again for quite some time except maybe bake or GF some veggies and stuff. YUM! I don't in ANY way feel deprived but instead fortunate to have such wonderful food AND be getting healthy and losing weight!!!

cardsfan2009
07-02-2006, 11:58 AM
I'm a calorie counter(and exerciser). I use Fitday. I've been doing it a little over a month, probably 6 weeks, and have lost 18 lbs. The reason i stick with it is because it works. :D lol I think this time there's something about it where i dont want to fail, and i wont. This isnt one of my half-hearted attempts where i give up after a few days and go back to being fat and lazy, finally something clicked with me and im gonna do it. I think with calorie counting, i like the freedom it allows me. You can mess up one day, but make up for it the next. You can incorporate any food you want, just in smaller portions(although its best to eat healthy foods, obviously). I don't feel deprived at all.

andoreth
07-02-2006, 12:39 PM
Welcome!

My change happened a little over 6 months ago. I think the key for me is that I don't see myself as following a plan or being on a diet: I adopted a new lifestyle that I've accepted as part of myself. I am now a person who eats a moderate, balanced diet and who exercises, both in structured and unstructured forms, almost every day. Basically, I'm just living the life of a "healthy person" and letting my weight take care of itself.

The trick, if there is any, to my way is that I've made sure that I am enjoying the new changes. The food that I am cooking tastes great and doesn't have any specific ingredient limitations and I only choose forms of exercise that I enjoy. I have specific expectations for my own behavior, but I don't beat myself up if I fall below those expectations every once in a while. Even healthy people who have never been overweight a day in their life don't eat right and exercise every day, just the vast majority of them.

Finally, I haven't given over my entire life to obsessing over my weight. I have a large life full of all kinds of interests and hobbies. My whole state of happiness isn't made or broken by the number on my scale each morning, so there is no reason to feel frustrated or like a failure when the number becomes stagnent for a week or 2. I know that the healthy changes I've made are good for me no matter what my weight does, so there is no reason to stop even if I never lose another pound.

Heather
07-02-2006, 08:52 PM
Hi and welcome! I'm a professor too and started last summer, so I've been at this about a year. It was a great time for me to get started.
I've never been at it this long before -- as you say most of us quit after weeks/months.

I'll assume that you know WHAT to do, but are looking for insight about how to KEEP doing it.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I think you have to make a commitment to this somehow. Commitment to me means I'm not "That Person" any more. You know, the one who feels she has no self control or willpower or what have you. I just feel I don't have any choice any more.

So, in order to be healthy and have the life I ultimately want, I have to do things differently. I have to think about what I ultimately want (health and a lower weight), rather t han what I want right now (that donut).

For me, this has involved a particular mental game that changes a negative into a positive. Rather than feeling that I am depriving myself of a donut, I see myself as making a healthy choice.

For me, nothing represents this "click" better than what I call my "Victory Basket" This is the basket of candy that sits on our secretary's desk. Prior to last year, I fished out multiple candies from it nearly every day. I haven't had one since I started all this.

At first, that darned basket just mocked me: "Look at what you CAN'T have" it seemed to say, in all its basketness...

But then I realized that I was the one with the power over the basket. And that I could get what I want if I didn't eat from it. I haven't had a single piece of candy from that basket in a year. Not that I haven't had any candy, or even any candy at the office. But I have decided that I want to be healthy more than I want to snack from the basket. Rather than allowing it to tempt and mock me, I view every day I don't eat from it as a victory from the Old Me. So, the Victory Basket is a symbol of my choices.

For me, being successful at this means many choices every single day that help lead to success. Sure, I also make some not-so-great choices. But I take accountability for those choices. I write down everything I eat (even the chocolate etc). When I do make choices I DON'T like, I reflect on WHY that happened and strategize over how not to let it happen again. It's amazing how many ways there are to let yourself off track, but you have to get yourself right back on again.

Okay, I'm starting to ramble, let's see what others say!

2bfree
07-02-2006, 11:50 PM
Thank you so much for your replies. You said what I was feeling in my heart. It does seem that eating healthy foods and not being extreme-having a can do attitude-and exercise that I enjoy is the key. I have found myself more and more leaning in the direction and staying with healthy eating bit by bit, yet while I added healthy food and exercise, I still ate loads of junk.

I have given much thought to having the right attitude today and will take for myself the comment that I am not the same person that I was. I don't have to treat food the way I did before. That was in the past, but now I can overcome the temptations.

I look forward to getting to know all of you. Thank you for the warm welcome.

Heather
07-03-2006, 12:33 AM
2bfree -- I love reading posts like yours from new people that are very reflective. I really think that beating the "mental game" is such a big part of this and that being reflective is an important tool.

I look forward to hearing more from you!

Misti in Seattle
07-03-2006, 03:24 AM
The trick, if there is any, to my way is that I've made sure that I am enjoying the new changes. The food that I am cooking tastes great and doesn't have any specific ingredient limitations and I only choose forms of exercise that I enjoy.

Exactly! Same here. When I sit down to one of my meals I am more thinking, wow, I can't believe I would ever have traded THIS yummy stuff for junk food" etc. And instead of spending time in the stuffy old gym, I walk for miles and bust my butt doing water aerobics and other stuff that I enjoy.

I don't agree with your "calories in, calories out" theory -- I want to be healthy; not just thin, and I don't need junk food to do so... but hey, whatever works. :)

Great message. I appreciate your sharing it.

MelodyL
07-03-2006, 04:41 AM
Hi, I've been doing this for 3 months now and have lost 26 pounds. Like many of the other ladies I am calorie counting and exercising, the flexibility it allows me is the only thing I knew I could do for the rest of my life.

I think that the biggest differences for me this time are 1) Im not starving myself, which is the only way I've lost weight in the past, and of course is not a way that anyone can live forever 2) I had to find what things I needed to do that would help me be successful, like some people have to weigh everyday to stay on track, I had to throw my scale away and only weigh once a week at work so that I would not get discouraged and use that as an excuse to go off plan. 3) I gave up most of my Diet Coke and switched to water. 4) I looked for the most support I could give myself, I keep a journal, I read success stories, I tell myself constantly that this is not a race, that anything down is better than anything up and to not worry about how long it takes to get to where I want to be as all along the way I am always going to feel better than I did when I started. 5) and I am working on exercising more, getting more endurance, and just feeling healthier and better about myself.

buckettgirl
07-03-2006, 11:44 AM
I'm on week 4 of Optifast.

Its hard. It sucks... There isn't a day that goes by that I do not want to eat a meal. But I don't.
Its hard.

I have alot of accountability measures in place. My husband reminds me that I, overall, I REALLY don't want to blow this (and I don't). I'm doing it with my dad (and he is paying for it), so I certainly am accountable to him in making this plan work for me. I see a counselor every week who makes sure I am staying on track and we talk about why I might want to quit, what the benefits are, how to change behaviors, emotional issues - everything that contributed to weight gain. I also have a few friends who know what I am doing and remind me what a great job I'm doing. Plus, coming and posting here about my successes and feelings keeps me accountable to YOU GUYS and to me.
When I hit my low points, I have all these other people around me to keep me on the straight and narrow.

Another thing that keeps me going: I'M NOT "TRYING" TO DO ANYTHING. I hate that...people say they are going to start to try again or whatever. Don't try anything! Just do it! Make the committment to do whatever it takes to improve yourself. When you say you are going to "try" you leave waaayyy to much wiggle room for failure, then failure becomes justifible. I made a commitment to myself that I was not going to weigh more than 350lbs, and I maintained that weight for 1 1/2 years (this was after gaining 100lbs in 2 years), now I am committed to being healthy and feeling good (physically and emotionally). Generally, goals need to be flexible and acheivable.

Also, knowing that what I'm doing WORKS. Guaranteed... Optifast works as long as you don't cheat! I follow almost to a tee (I have problems taking some of the vitamins somedays) and exercise as much as I can. It works, and I need something that shows results in order to keep going. Not to mention that 1 or 2lbs a week weight loss isn't going to help my health, the weight needs to come off now, not 2 years from now.

My advice to you: find a plan that works for you, do as much exercise as you can tolerate everyday, make flexible goals, make a commitment to yourself, set up a support system, and find a good counselor to help with the mental/emotional aspects of weight loss.

shrinkingchica
07-03-2006, 12:15 PM
I have been able to stick with my "Plan" for 22 months now. Because it isn't a plan, it is a way of life. I have just slowly changed my eating habits and introduced exercise and *ta-da* I have been able to lose weight. And this plan works for me, because it is my plan made by me for me. I eat the foods I like to eat (bad ones in real moderation) but with an eye towards the calories and make sure I take in some good ol' fashioned exercise and viola! I have lost 107# already!!
And if you look on it as a "diet plan" then IMHO you might be setting yourself up for a disaster, because at the end of the diet what are you going to do? It might (ok, does!) sound cheesy, but it really has to be a lifestyle change if the weight loss is going to last a lifetime. :)

Heather
07-03-2006, 12:51 PM
Not to mention that 1 or 2lbs a week weight loss isn't going to help my health, the weight needs to come off now, not 2 years from now.


Amanda -- I wasn't sure what you were saying here. I agree with the 2nd part -- lose weight now not 2 years from now. But with a weight loss of 1-2 pounds a week, generally a healthy range, in those 2 years a person would have lost 100-200 pounds! So, I'd argue that it certainly can help one's health to lose 1-2 pounds a week over time.

I'm not trying to slam your choice to do Optifast, which in the short term generally does result in faster weight loss than more conventional approaches. But I don't think a 1-2 pound/week weight loss is anything to sneeze at either.

DNR
07-03-2006, 03:42 PM
Hello 2befree - and welcome to the group. I think you'll find some inspiration here.

I started WW at Thanksgiving and have lost 52 lbs. in that time. I'm very happy with myself and this time is the best I've ever done. The last time I weighed my current weight was approximately 1989. I have never had poor health, thank the Dear Lord, but it was time to do something before that happened. My sister and nephew are both diabetic and I didn't want that to happen to me. I started an At Work program with WW and paid for 2 sessions of meetings and now I'm continuing on without the meetings and I'm still doing just fine. I have my mind made up and feel so much better that there isn't even a choice for me. I'm going to do this - I am exactly half way to goal and I have no intentions of quitting now. Every month gets better and better.

I haven't been perfect on the WW plan but I have totally changed my way of eating and cooking. I cook way healthier than I used to for myself and for my husband. He still is a total junk food junkie and what he eats on his own is not my problem - it's not my day to babysit him. Most people are surprised when they hear that I'm older than my husband.

I guess it all boils down to what you are willing to do to achieve your goal. I'm not a believer in willpower - some days I have better days than others but they are only temporary and I've always been able to keep forging ahead. I used to be a size 22W and now I'm wearing a 16 regular and it sure does feel good to go into a dressing room and be able to wear cute clothes that look nice instead of buying things that "just work." These little victories and the comments from others keep me going and I am so much happier knowing I can do this.

Have a lot of talks with yourself - even if you have to say them out loud. Tell yourself you are worth it and I'm only sorry that I didn't develop the attitude I have now many, many years ago. Just never stop trying and some day, it will all work in your favor.

Good luck and keep us posted as to how you are doing.

DNR

midwife
07-03-2006, 04:30 PM
Hi 2befree, You've gotten a TON of great advice. I was nodding my head in agreement with each post I read.

Something else I wanted to add: SELF-DISCIPLINE! I think people stop working their plans when they lose motivation. It becomes too easy to rationalize falling back into old behaviors.

I would say that achieving your professional status required some discipline on your part. I would say you likely hit a point in your postgrad studies when you did not feel like getting up to go to class, you did not feel like writing a thesis, you did not feel like listening to what some whacked out professor was ranting (no offense you you or Wyellen!)

What if you stopped doing what you were supposed to do because you didn't feel like it?

You wouldn't be a professor. You wouldn't be self-fulfilled in a career that has great meaning and that can support your precious children and offer tenure.

We have discipline in so many aspects of our lives. But when it comes to our health we listen to our inner-toddlers and pitch a mental fit because we don't feel like exercising. We want that 2000 calorie dessert and we deserve it!

Tough hooey! Exercise anyway. Stay on plan anyway (BTW, my plan is calorie awareness! So I do eat some stuff that other people wouldn't). Don't rely on motivation. Use some of that self-discipline! Do you expect more from your children and your students than from yourself?

nursiegirl0076
07-03-2006, 08:34 PM
The theme that pops out to me from all of these posts is that it seems like people have accepted that "this is the way it's going to be." My husband and I have been on South Beach for 4 weeks and we don't look at it as a "diet" anymore. This is just how we're going to eat! I have lost 14lbs and he has lost an amazing 27lbs! I got to the point of being so sick of the way my life was headed....sick of being fat....sick of being sick....and really sick of people asking me if I was going to have gastric bypass surgery (not that there's anything wrong with that!). I just knew it wasn't for me. So, hubby and I decided that we were going to change. We weren't going to "try" we were going to do it. No other option. And we've embraced it....we feel better....have much more energy...and are shrinking! The trade-off between the donut at work and all the benefits we've seen just simply isn't worth it! I've noticed I have more of a "long-term" mentality now, which is really nice. I think one thing that has really helped us is that South Beach doesn't feel like a "diet." We're just eating good, healthy stuff! So sorry for rambling, but I hope this helps! And good luck on your journey!

buckettgirl
07-04-2006, 10:07 PM
Amanda -- I wasn't sure what you were saying here. I agree with the 2nd part -- lose weight now not 2 years from now. But with a weight loss of 1-2 pounds a week, generally a healthy range, in those 2 years a person would have lost 100-200 pounds! So, I'd argue that it certainly can help one's health to lose 1-2 pounds a week over time.

I'm not trying to slam your choice to do Optifast, which in the short term generally does result in faster weight loss than more conventional approaches. But I don't think a 1-2 pound/week weight loss is anything to sneeze at either.

I'm not trying to knock what anyone else is doing - I am deeply sorry if that is how it came across. :hug: All I was saying was that for me, the weight needs to move now. Being pre-diabetic, having high cholesterol and triglycerides, and gaining 100lbs in 2 yrs, all at the age of 24 is not good in the least. All of these problems can be corrected without medications, but the longer I stayed at my high weight, the less likely they were to change (or at least to stay higher longer and impact my health even more). In one month, all of my values are now NORMAL! YAY! This wouldn't be the case if I had only dropped maybe 5lbs. At some point, in the next few months when I start adding food back, I am sure I will go to the 1-2lbs a week, and that is great. I don't expect to drop 150lbs on this, but I can get a good start. Also, the break from food is helping me focus on changing the behaviors/emotions behind the binge eating. Basically, I am too young to be in this position, and for me, something drastic had to be done to get the ball rolling.
Everyone of you guys who are losing weight are doing a great job - no matter what method you use; I am proud of all of you, and I do hope that all of your changes work for you.

Heather
07-04-2006, 10:14 PM
Amanda -- Thanks for the clarification. I've read your posts before and you've never come across as trying to slam anyone! And you didn't here either! I just wasn't clear on what you were saying... I get what you mean. Congrats on your progress. Although you're losing quickly, from what you've said here and other places, I believe Optifast would never have never been a good choice for me, but I applaud your decision to take back your life. I know from reading before you started that this wasn't a decision you made lightly, and you seem to be approaching this all very sensibly.

I hope it didn't sound like I was trying to slam you...

buckettgirl
07-04-2006, 10:45 PM
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I hope it didn't sound like I was trying to slam you...
Not at all! No worries ;)

*as a side note, sometimes I feel crazy for doing optifast :dizzy: (this holiday weekend was hard LOL) It just goes day by day...I can't think of the fast for the long-term (but certainly I see myself eating healthy for the long-term). At this point, I believe this is the hardest thing I have ever done. Nothing else that I tried worked - I had to have all my choices in food taken away to get anywhere with weight loss. I hope that others have a better time with their journey and don't need to take such drastic action.

ZedAus
07-05-2006, 05:41 AM
I've stuck with my healthy lifestyle for almost 2 and a half years now. It still amazes me to be able to say that! I am not sure I would have believed that I could do it, but now I can see that it was actually SO easy.

I simply reached a point where I said "It's not an option Zelma". I had never had any bad medical results, but with Type 2 diabetes rampant in the family and other medical problems just waiting around the corner as I started into my 40s, I was a time bomb just waiting to go off. I had only been married to my second husband for 3 and a half years and couldn't see myself being around for the 40 or more years that we had originally planned upon to spend together. So one day I just decided that I had to change... and INSTANTLY! There was none of this "I'll start tomorrow" or "I'll start after the next shop". For me it had to be a then and there decision. From that day on we didn't bring junk food into the house. We gradually made other changes, but from that day on really I was making better choices with what I was eating and I made a conscious effort to 'move' more. Healthy eating and exercise are now such an ingrained part of my life that I find myself craving fruit and vegetables and missing exercising if I can't manage it for some reason or other.

I wish I knew what actually triggered that initial emotion in me. I truly don't know what worked that day, where nothing had worked (long-term) before. I just think that you KNOW somehow that this is the time. From the first day I started this I have not looked back. I have not thought that I couldn't do it and I have not thought that I would not keep the weight off. Well... not seriously. When the scales creep up now and then I sometimes have a teensy bit of fear, but I understand that it is unrealistic, because I have totally changed my way of life now and I can see absolutely NO reason to revert to my old ways. So, there is no real reason for the weight to go back on. That is a very reassuring feeling.

I truly hope that you have found the 'something' that is needed to succeed with this. It is such an incredibly wonderful feeling to take back control of your life. I honestly feel as though I have saved my life and been given a second chance. And I am grasping life with both hands and having a ball!

Good luck on your own journey!

Zelma

Heather
07-05-2006, 09:30 AM
Zelma -- Every time I hear your story I want to cheer! Such a transformation! You are one of the people who make me believe I can do this for the long term!!!!!